Housewife? Why would you be one?

@alnilam (969)
United States
July 25, 2007 2:50pm CST
To clear things firstly i have nothing against it... but i just do not understand it... it is not common here... and i would not be one... i would not know what to do... so my questions for you are: why do you become a housewife? do you regret it? was this your decision? what do you do over the day? wouldn't you rather have a job?
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@rosie_123 (6118)
26 Jul 07
Well I guess it's a matter of personal choice. In my view - it would have driven me crazy staying at home all day - no job, no stimulation from other adults in the "outside world" - just domestic chores and babies all day............ not for me at all! Plus I could not bear being reliant on my man every time I wanted to go to the shops. I did my degree, I have a career, I am capable of earning my own good money and paying my way, and that is how it's going to stay!! I admit that now I'm getting older I would like to spend more time at home, because the daily commute into London and the stressful lifestyle, takes it's toll once you are over 40........ but if I could afford to give up work I would definately not be a "housewife". I would study for another degree or a Masters via Open University, learn another new language, do more voluntary work for my local animal charities, and (if I had the money) set up a home for stray cats. I would probably be busier than I am ow at work!!
@alnilam (969)
• United States
27 Jul 07
totally forgot about that. i would have to ask my man to give me money for everything i would like to buy. and since i am an impulsive shopper (see something i like i must have) that would be the end of me lol.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
I am a housewife before when i am pregnant and gave birth to my son until he reach 3 1/2 yrs. of age, and i feel no regret in doing it. Happiness that you got from staying in your home and taking care of you son and at the same time keep an eye to your households cant pay any amount of money, and I salute all housewives out there that dont give up their career as a housewife. I am working right now, when my son entered his pre-school i dont have to do in my house so i feel bored and i decided to work again. But i miss being a housewife now that i am working.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
26 Jul 07
so from what i have learned so far... housewife is only temporary status for the most (till your kids are "off")? Thank you!
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I do stay at home but I work on the internet so I also have a job. No not here but I do data entry. I do it becouse I want to be able to go to all my childrens things as school and be involved and it would be hard if I worked an outside job. My husband and I discussed and and decided I would do it but untimantly it was me.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
26 Jul 07
thank you for your reply.
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
25 Jul 07
i am a housewife. in our case, it made more sense for my to stay home. till i would pay for childcare for our 2 kids, plus gas to drive, lunches for the kids at daycare and me at work and all that, i wouldn't be making any money, i'd actually have to pay in some. so i just decided to stay home. i don't regret it because i get to see a lot of my kids growing up and it saves us money. to help bring in a little money i babysit a little boy during the week. i also keep up on all the laundry and other housework and i play with my kids and teach them their letters and numbers. i wouldn't mind having a job so i could get out of the house some and make some money, but until the kids are in school it is better for me to stay home.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
26 Jul 07
thank you for your response!!
• United States
25 Jul 07
I'll be glad to answer your questions as to why I do it. It may not be the same for every woman but this is how it worked for me : why do you become a housewife? We have a 2 year old and I just found out I'm expecting another one in March next year. I really want to spend time with my kids when they are this young. I know no one else will be able to take care of them better than I can. I want to be there for them in their formative years. I think it's so crucial. It's not just to teach them how to do different things but I want to teach them good values, help them build a good character, etc. Also, my husband is a Marine so he's gone a lot for training and deployment. Half of the time, I'm home alone. So, I want my kids to have a stable figure in the home. do you regret it? Absolutely not! :) was this your decision? Both mine and my husband. We are blessed we are are able to survive on one income. I know a lot of families are not able to do so and thus, both the husband and wife have to work. But my husband is very supportive of me and my role as a stay-at-home mom. what do you do over the day? I cook, I clean, I do laundry, vacuuming, yard work, etc...basically, majority of the housework. I also take care of our child tending to all his needs from feeding him, clothing him, potty traing, playing with him, cleaning him up, etc. We also have pets so I have to take care of that too. wouldn't you rather have a job? Not right now..cos' I'm afraid a full-time job will take me away from my children too much..especially when they are so young. But yes, maybe in the future when they are older. However, I do a lot of volunteer work. It's not a paid job but that gives me something to do outside of the home and also to continue to brush up on my work skills.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Thank you very much on your response!
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
15 Sep 07
I would never be a "housewife." I might, one day, choose to be a stay at home mom, but, in my opinion, a housewife is a married woman with no children who does not work. Based on that definition, I think being a housewife is kind of lazy. I'm sorry, but it just doesn't take that much effort to keep a house clean. It's not an all day job. I save all of my cleaning and washing for a Saturday and still finish it all within 3-4 hours, max. If you don't have children, your house shouldn't be that messy in the first place. Keeping your house clean, washing clothes, and managing the finances is not a JOB. Most working women manage their careers AND their household jobs. I know I do. I work 9 hours a week (on the job), and bring work home with me (I'm a teacher). My house is not filthy because of it. It may not be constantly tidy, but it's never horrible. I cook dinner everynight for my husband and I and do a bit of cleaning while still making time for he and I as well as having some relax time for myself. So many "housewives" on this site claim to stay so busy during the day, but if you don't have children (and if you do, you're not a housewife, you're a stay at home mom), I don't really understand what could possibly keep them so busy. Now if you have children and do not work, then that is more understandable. While I do not plan to be a stay at home, I don't have a problem with stay at home moms. My SIL is a SAHM, and my neice is very smart because she teaches her new things every day. Being a SAHM IS a full time job because you are dealing with little ones, as well as doing household chores. Kids are a full time job just by themselves!! I admire SAHMs because they have so much to juggle during the day. I don't think I could ever do it, though, because I couldn't stand being at home ALL DAY. So in the end...housewives...eh, not very respectable and being that is DEFINITELY not a real job. SAHM...I bow down to you, master of patience and organization!
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@moneyandgc (3438)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I have an Associates degree in Business Administration but I choose to stay home because I have young children. My youngest daughter just learned to walk and is learning to talk. I wouldn't have missed these milestones for anything. My husband is military so he works different shifts and often gets sent to other bases to work. His schedule is not conducive to me having a job. I am looking to work toward another degree though because at some point I think I may want to get a job outside the home.
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