Moms Career Title

United States
October 25, 2006 5:24pm CST
A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mother I knew well rushed up to me. She was fuming with indignation. "Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded. Before I could answer and I didn't really have one handy...she blurted out the reason for her question. It seems she had just returned from renewing her driver's license at The County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation, Emily had hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. What I mean is," explained the recorder, "Do you have a job, or are you just a ....?" Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother." We don't list 'mother' as an occupation...'housewife' covers it,"said the recorder emphatically. I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title like "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar." What is your occupation?" she probed. What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped out. I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations." The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire. Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, just what you do in your field?" Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, I have a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole darned family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree?)and I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money." There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up,and personally ushered me to the door. As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (6 months) in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another mother." Motherhood...what a glorious career. Especially when there's a title on the door. Send this to another mother you know. Whether a stay at home mom or a career mom, we should all carry this title. Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers "Executive Senior Research Associates?" I think so!!! (forwardgarden.com)
5 responses
@KrauseHome (34994)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Why should it be a shame to admit you are a Mother, as an occupation, especially if that is what you are choosing to do instead of be out there in the work force and let someone else care for your kids. I personally was never able to have any children due to Health issues, but I applaud Mothers who are there for their kids. Motherhood is a hard profession, and definately one that should never be taken lightly.
• United States
26 Oct 06
Thanks for your response. I agree being a mom is a full time job, with hours and hours of overtime lol. I would never be ashamed to say i was a stay at home mom, my sister is. She has 4 children and homeschools them. She is also a Creative Memories consultant (its a scrapbooking company)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Being a full time mom is a hard job, if only people would realize. I am on a semester child-rearing leave right now, and it is wonderful. However, I play with my daughter and focus on her all day. When she naps, I play on the computer and take my downtime. Consequently, a lot of work never gets done. I totally admire moms who can manage it all well.
• United States
26 Oct 06
Yes it is a hard job, i love it though, as most of us on here probably do. I give my sis alot of credit, i dont know if i could do that, plus her husband works out of town sometimes, so then its just her with the 4 kids (10, 7,6, and 3)
@Mandi2005 (157)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I love that! Very creative. She's not saying she's ASHAMED of being a mother, but it's not an option when filling out forms or applications and it asked for OCCUPATION. So she got creative, and it really should be the official name for being a mom!!
• United States
26 Oct 06
And women should never be ashamed to say they are moms! It's the most important job in the world. Don't you think?
• United States
26 Oct 06
It is the most important job in the world. If you think about it, if moms didnt do their job, we probably wouldnt end up being who we are. Just like teachers i think they are underpaid, they take care of our kids while they are at school and they help them learn new things!!
• United States
26 Oct 06
This is really nice to read. Is it you that wrote it? I think it is perfect.
• United States
26 Oct 06
No, i found it on that website that is listed at the bottom. I love it though and wanted to share it on here because i know there are tons of moms on here that would like it (and husbands too lol)
@bigedshult1 (1613)
• United States
26 Oct 06
that is a good titted it show how important a mother is they are c.e. o. of the home your title fits real will
• United States
26 Oct 06
Thanks for your response =)
@bigedshult1 (1613)
• United States
26 Oct 06
that is a good titted it show how important a mother is they are c.e. o. of the home your title fits real will
• United States
26 Oct 06
I agree