Foul Language

United States
July 28, 2007 9:56pm CST
When your child becomes a certain age (before 18) will you let them use profanity? My father did, when we were 15. I dont think Id be comfortable with letting our little girl have a potty mouth.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I do not allow profanity from my daughter in my house. I know she probably uses it around her friends outside of my house to be cool or whatever, but it is definitely not allowed in my house. I told her that she had better tell her friends that it is not appropriate adn I will make them leave if they speak that way in my house. So, no, I can't say that I allow it out of my 13 year old. It isn't appropriate for any child to have a potty mouth at home. I think it is disrespectful to you and to themselves.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
The disprespect POV is a great one. I was kind of on the fence about this subject, as I said my dad allowed it (and still does with my 2 teenage step brothers), but now my mind is made up that it's just a crude habit. Thanks!
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
3 Aug 07
No problem! I hope all is going well with your new rule and what I told my daughter was that it takes more creativity to not curse and find other alternative words and I challenged her to it and made it a game. So it was fun, she is now using different food items instead hahaha! Such as oh cheese puffs!
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
29 Jul 07
No way. I think kids who use foul language are disgusting. They should have more respect for their elders than to curse around them.
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• United States
29 Jul 07
This is true. I was raised that being polite around someone shows them you respect them. Being polite doesnt include swearing. I guess there is no middle ground, is there?
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
29 Jul 07
My son did, but it was also fitting in the context and the situation he described. He still is the same way, he is now 21. I think to forbid it all together will make a kid want to use it more...u know...the forbidden fruit kind of thing. The kids I see that are the worse are the one's whose parents over-react to bad language.
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• United States
29 Jul 07
So true! My mother in law is a religious woman (not overly religious, she's still very down to earth), and her 3 kids cuss around her sometimes just to get a rise out of her. They say the most ridiculous things just to see her get worked up!
@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
31 Jul 07
My hubby seems to think it is going to be okay for them to curse but I think otherwise. It just shows disrespect when you curse in the presence of your parents or elders. Now if they end up using it when they get older outside of the home then I really have not control over it. Not like I am going to be there to hear or not hear it.
• United States
1 Aug 07
I would feel like my husband was disrespecting me by not honoring my wish. I mean it isnt an unusual or ridiculous request, you're asking him to help you raise your children the right way, with respect for elders. It only seems like your children wont curse around you because theyre afraid they'll get in trouble. I would talk with him about that more. And usually, if you explain to your children why they shouldnt curse, instead of just prohibiting it in the home, they will take that with them when theyre outside the home.
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
31 Jul 07
I do not advise it. With those foul languages, they may transform into something bigger than they are as a mere expression and that is the sad part. But also there are people who can control themselves and realize the long term effects of it. But then it is a question of whether you would play the chance or not. Whether you would take the probability or not. So this early, take care of the languages your little girl hears. If you can cultivate her good at home, she will have a less tendency to get influenced outside. You just have to give her a strong foundation. No matter what she encounters outside the family circle, she can be as her good self because of a good family background, value and upbringing.
• United States
1 Aug 07
I like the way you think.
• United States
30 Jul 07
i wouldnt allow my son to curse. i think children who curse dont know they sound ignorant.i try to watch what i say around my son cause he is young and in his mocking stage. i have a friend that teaches her daughter foul laungage and i think it gross.
• United States
1 Aug 07
TEACHES her foul language? Thats awful! Man, that really irks me. I can understand if an adult slips up every once in awhile, but wow. I would imagine her kid would just forget all of the things she was taught about being nice before she forgot her curse words. Sad.
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
30 Jul 07
At no time should we allow our children to abuse. Stop them at the first time they start. like nipping it in the bud. If allowed to continue, this could lead to problems in the future with in-laws, friends and office staff. Nobody likes foul mouthed people and tend to steer clear away from them. When they are kids, people feel it very cute when they abuse in their innocence, but it could affect their future.
• United States
1 Aug 07
Nicely put.
@LadyDulce (830)
• United States
29 Jul 07
There's no way. I never even said shut up in my mother's house, much less anything else. My son will not be allowed any kind of profanilty while in my house, and anything he does say needs to be said with respect. If he wants to insult someone or have a battle of the wits or whatever, he can do it like I had to. He'll have to learn the finer nuances of sarcasm, patronization, and subtlety. He'll look a hell of a lot smarter doing it too, lol. Blessed Be
• United States
1 Aug 07
Interesting perspective, it makes sense that a child who doesnt curse has to use their brain to find other words and ways to express their opinions. I like that idea, very much so.
@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
we dont allow our child to be a potty mouth, before hand when they were kids we dont let them hear those kind of language so they wont do it when they grew up. if i hear them saying that we spank there mouth so they would put it in there mind that it is bad. and another things is choose a tv program that dont use those kind of language. there are so many violent program that kid want to idolize. the environment is one example on how kids idolize there personality.
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
It is not proper to use foul language even if you were old too...Foul language can hurt anyone...so prefer not to say..and children of young age say that language when they heard it from anybody at home..i do believe that teaching begins at home...
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
31 Jul 07
I don't even swear so I certainly won't tolorate my children doing it around me intentionally. My older three are 11,9, and 7 so they know better. My younger ones hear it from their dad all the time and it bugs me so much! He has such a bad mouth on him that seriously not a day goes my without hearing "gdmfcs" at least once...if he isn't swearing he's probably sleeping. The 4 year old pretty much knows he's not supposed to say those words now but slips sometimes, usually because he's either telling on his little brother or his 17 year old brother lied and told him it wasn't a bad word. The two year old just repeats everything he hears and doesn't understand yet. I admit it is sometimes amusing when he can't get a toy to cooperate and spouts off a f*** or s*** but it's not something I "let" him get away with. I'm trying to get their dad to clean up at least around the boys but he's so used to talking that way I don't think he even realizes he's doing it. I told him once that I quit listening to him when he swears...it didn't help. Oh and when I was growing up, it wasn't allowed in our house at all. My parents could but we couldn't. I even got in trouble once just because my sisters SAID I said a bad word even though I didn't say it, they just misunderstood me.