Who should pay on a date?

Philippines
July 29, 2007 9:38am CST
would it be the boy or the girl?! or the one who's financially able?! but really for you who should pay on a date? The guy should pay the first time, because it's the right thing to do. But, after I've paid a couple times, the girl could pay once or twice, too. I mean, why not? The dude should pay mostly. But I think it really depends on who asks who to go where. That can change things.
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@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Honestly, I think splitting the tab [dutch treat] is the best thing to do because then no one is under any obligation [real or imagined] to anyone since each has paid their own way.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
yes youre right splitting the tab is nice
• United States
29 Jul 07
Every time I've started dating someone new, I've split the tab unless the guy insisted that he pay. However - this habit has also made certain that I had money to get out of there if need be. If we have dated a few times it either turns into the "back and forth" payment route where we take turns or if there is a huge gap on the amount of money we make... the person that is most able pays. I don't stick to the same thing all of the time because in different situations and with different people I think (just as everything else in a relationship) it should be cut to measure.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
mostly yeah i split the tab :) i dont want to date somebody who couldn't share the tab with me i feel bad whenever i dont offer even just a small amount during a date
@tantal25 (839)
• United States
30 Jul 07
well on my opinion, at your first date the guy must be the one to pay... but after that its okay with me if sometimes i'll pay... like my me and my hubby... if i do have money, i treat him, if he does, he treats me, if we both do have money, we share for paying our date.
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• Philippines
30 Jul 07
sharing is always ncie :)
• China
30 Jul 07
i think it depends ~ if the gentlemen insist to pay i will give them the chance~ but sometimes i will pay because i think we don't know each other~
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
yes you should tak part in the responsibility of paying so no one of you is in debt of another person
@smartmom (827)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I think it depends a lot of where in the world you live, but I personally prefer to split the bill. Only if the guy keeps insisting to pay, will I let him pay and the only reason for this is that it can end up being an very akward situation, if he is one of those guys who prefers to pay. My reason for wanting to pay is simple. I demand equal rights in a relationship, and therefore I also feel that it should be an equal responsibility thing. Of course everything changes, when you are in a longterm relationship, as the couple know each other so well, and maybe one person has more money than the other. At this point I think it is best to look at the individual situation.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
i just dont get it with some people ithey couldn't just give theres always a string attach and some guys really think they own you if they buy you a drank or anything perhaps i dont quite get their mentality and i really hate it when they reach the point wherein they literally ask you for it.
@ruknaa (408)
• India
29 Jul 07
unless u want to prove that girls are weaker than men... always insist on paying.. atleast split the tab
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
:) well im trying to prove that we could get what we want :)
@GLOBALSHEEN (1005)
• India
16 Jul 08
Girls pay in Africa.Men pay thro thier nose in India.
@pionk2 (47)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 08
most in the world, i think a guy should pay..
@shontia08 (846)
• United States
14 Jul 08
i say the guy should pay it just seem right. having said that it would be nice if the girl paid sometimes or if they just split the tab. i know every guy that i dated always wanted to pay. i even had one who said that he would feel less like a man if he were to let his date pay. so i say it all depends an the ones involve. very good topic by the way.