Cutters: an outlet, sense of control, don't care, what ?

United States
July 29, 2007 10:54am CST
Why do we have so many youth participating in such a destructive practice? I am quite curious & concerned why our youth feel they must turn to such destructive behavior to feel . . . better or worse or what ?
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
29 Jul 07
It is very common and I think many of the kids think it is cool for whatever reason. Growing up, I knew of one girl that did this. Now I see it all the time. In my daughter's case, I believe it was an attempt to manipulate me in order to get her way. She had been getting very bad grades in school. She was spending much time on the computer,telling me her homework was done in school when it wasn't etc. So I changed up the rules. No computer until I see the work completed even if it was done in school...bring it home! Then I followed thru. She got extremely upset, thru a tantrum and when she still didn't get her way, she cut her arms up. Then she came and showed me. We talked and she said it was a way to "release her pain". I told her that we needed to get her into therapy at once and she still didn't get the computer. Her entire attitude changed. She said she'd never done it before, never would again on and on. I check her arms daily. It has been months and she has stopped. Im think alot of the kids may be doing it for reasons like this....attention??
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• United States
29 Jul 07
Most kids who do this don't ever tell anyone. Parents find out only because they see it - and usually the kids are very discrete about where they do it so that it doesn't show. It's not something they're proud of. And it really is a way to release. In the case of your daughter it seems that she was just doing it to get what she wanted. Not because she legitimized needed to feel the release. Otherwise she wouldn't have came and shown you. Cutters don't do that. They hide it.
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• United States
29 Jul 07
gnosticgoddess, Many of them may want to believe they hide it so well but if us adults, (it takes an entire community to raise great kids), discuss this practise more openly listening to the cutters themselves that do reach out for help, those that do behind closed doors, might not so much anymore.
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• United States
29 Jul 07
I agree whole-heartedly with you. But my point was that cutters are rarely boastful about what they do. And it seems in the case of her daughter she was just trying to get what she wanted - that she wasn't a text book definition (so to speak) of a cutter.
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@roadrat (274)
• United States
30 Jul 07
an obvious cry for help, but using the wrong channel. if you notice it, you confront it and introduce as wide a support base as possible. i just hate the idea that if i dont do something about it...anything, it'll continue and i'll be partly to blame. so many sheep, so few shepherds
• United States
31 Jul 07
but you are tending the herd so well don't stop now . . . we look forward to your assistance, whatever better channel you can provide.
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