Learning how to write

Philippines
July 30, 2007 2:55am CST
My 4 years old daughter is so lazy when its time for her to practice writing and coloring. What can I do to change her attitude? I tried making it fun but she reacts the same way. I purchased her materials that are fun such as Dora Dora activity books but to no avail. I need advice. Please help.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Well, the good news is that she's only four, and won't need to be writing in school right away. WHat we do with our son (who is almost three) is once a week we take a couple of minutes and work on writing a new letter.. (we just started this) and he does allright, but he's only 3 years old, so I don't expect too much out of him. He doesn't always love to write or draw or color either, but when he does, he does it because I tell him it's a present for his daddy, (grandpa, or nana or whomever else he may want to make a present for) so we then tape it up on the door (with the rest of the things he's learning or written/drawn) and when his daddy comes home.. he makes a HUGE deal out of his present from our son. It makes it fun. I think that's whats much more important, is that learning is a fun expierence for her. As she gets older, if you still see a tendency for her not to want to write, I would find her a pen pal, a cousin or someone she can write.. where it will be much more fun than work. GOod luck!
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• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Hey thanks a lot! You gave me a good advice. In fact, those are the things I was hoping to receive from everyone how to make it more fun. Thank you, I will follow your advice.
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• Canada
30 Jul 07
I didn't like reading or writing at that age either. Maybe she's not ready to want to write or colour. Don't push her, just let it happen naturally. Like I said, I wasn't interested in reading and writing when I was that age. Now I write for a living!
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• Philippines
31 Jul 07
Well, that's the thing, she can't stop writing scribbles but when its time to practice proper words she is just not cooperative. I think its me, she responds better to other people. I don't want to get a tutor for her but I think we are heading in that direction. Thanks.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Perhaps she has a friend she would enjoy doing these things with, maybe an older friend that she wants to be more like? Or you could try having another mother provide the activity for her while at a play date in case she is just trying to get a certain reaction out of you. Or maybe she could use a change of scene when in comes to practicing.... thing like going on a mother daughter picnic and then you color and write about the picnic while you are there. Those are just things off the top of my head. I will return if I think of others.
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• Philippines
31 Jul 07
Thanks I will follow your advice.
@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 07
This is a difficult one. My oldest son had no interest whatsoever in writing or drawing until he was 5. Sometimes with some children, the best thing is to leave it until they choose to try. That's what I did with my son. I'd tried to get him to use pencils and things but to no avail. When I left it for a while, he decided to try himself once he went to school and now he really enjoys it. It might not work for everyone but if you have tried everything else, you could give it a try. Just don't mention it at all to your daughter. Leave the materials there for her but don't make any effort to get her to use the stuff. She will probably start using them within a week or two!
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
Well...that's the thing, she loves writing only its scribbles, sometimes she enjoys drawing. She responds well to her teachers but with me its like she enjoys making me angry or pushing my button. I check her workbooks all the time and 98% of her materials are perfect. With me its like she does not know anything. How do I deal with a child who likes to be spoon fed?
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• United Kingdom
1 Aug 07
Well, if she's doing the work properly at school then I shouldn't worry. Maybe she's just had enough by the time she gets home. Or it could just be that she will do anything for others and nothing for you! Most kids are like that. I didn't see my youngest take his first steps because he wouldn't do it for me. I couldn't get my oldest to write properly but he has always had good marks for it at school! If she's getting 98% for her teachers, I wouldn't worry about it. She is obviously capable. It's just one of those things. Mums tend to be the last to see kids do stuff. I don't know why but maybe because mums are there unconditionally so kids don't feel the need to make any effort but they want to show off to other people.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I believe your right in that. Let me add that since stay at home moms are always available our children tend to take us for granted since they know in their minds that we will be there no matter what.
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@kimfitts (66)
• United States
31 Jul 07
Hi...I am a homeschooling mom and can feel for you. First of all....relax. Some 4 year olds aren't ready to write. It is good that she wants to color. Encourage her to draw pictures. Show her how the circle looks like a letter O, and the line looks like the letter I or L. See how many shapes you can get her to try to copy from you....eventually she will get excited that she is making letters and not shapes. I hope this was helpful. Agape.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Hi...thank you, definitely! Your advice is a big help. I will keep it in mind. Thanks again.
@leahmae (105)
• Australia
31 Jul 07
you can engage her instead in pre-writing activities. these actually help prepare her for actual writing. such activities would use toys that she can manipulate with her hands like playing with clay, using tweezers/tongs to pick things up, pick-up sticks, lego, etc. :) hope this helps!
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Thanks!
@sunshinecup (7881)
30 Jul 07
A trick I used was to not ask or offer them to do it, but for me to have materials ready for them when they chose to, then I would set and write and draw. Many times my girls would find what I was doing interesting and they would want to do it to. So seeing you do it may make her become more interested in it and see it as fun than an task.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Thanks, I'll follow your advice. Much appreciated.
@Odlanor (141)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
I haven't reached to your stage since my son is still 1 year old but I think you should not force your daughter to do such thing immediately. First thing is that find her interest and them spend a little time teaching her to write then go back again to what ever she likes. Gradually increase the time of teaching her to write. I remember when I teach one of my niece how to write, her interest is playing a car toy so I begin to teach her by saying imagine this pencil is your car, and this paper is the city, where will you go? She begin to write while she's pretending to be driving. Just look for the interest of your daughter and integrate it little by little with writing.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Thank you I will follow your advice.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
30 Jul 07
The problem isn't that she's lazy it's that SHE'S 4 - you shouldn't be forcing her to do things like that, you need to encourage her to be playing outside, with other children & stuff like that. You can worry about her writing & such when she starts school & is learning to do it properly. It's the same as reading, don't force kids to do things like that coz you'll discourage them from wanting to do it & you want kids to enjoy it, not hate it coz they've been forced in to it. Just let her do her own thing until she start school, then once she's at school you can help her do her homework & get better with things.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
She is in school, in fact she is in kinder 2. I guess I do sometimes force her because the school gives her assignment to practice her writing. Don't get me wrong my daughter enjoys going to school because that is where she finds her playmates and friends, she is an only child. She also has good grades I guess aside from making writing an assignment. I want her to develop the habit of finishing first her studies before watching or playing. I don't see anything wrong with that. Do you?
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
one thing i keep in mind with our 3-year old is that he might have interests that are different from other kids his age. or even from me when i was his age. when my schedule permits, y'know i stay in my kid's school for the entire time that he's in class. i can see how they are in class and one thing i observed was my kid is also not fond of writing. but when it comes to doing puzzles or reciting during story-telling time, he's very active, and in recognizing words. so i take it as it is. maybe he's good in other stuff, . . i just keep in mind that eventually though he will have to learn how to write. but for now, i let him get interested in it at the time he chooses.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I can relate to what you are saying. My daughter is the outdoor type, she enjoys running around and playing with boys. I on the other hand prefer to stay at home and use my computer. I guess she takes after my husband. In class she is very active and recognizes authority of her teachers, she even enjoys playing big sister to her classmates.
@diillu (5128)
30 Jul 07
I think you need to make the learning process more fun and encouraging. The thing you can do is you can promise to give her a particular gifts something she really like. And when she does you really have to give her so that she is more encouraged for the next time. My mom used to do the same thing for me.
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
I did that, I think its just me. I think she is trying to see how far she can push me. My daughter is actually very smart and can manipulate us at her tender age of 4. Would you believe that one time we were at a mall and she pulled her dad to a toy shop and asked her dad "Dad, what toy do you want to buy for me?" I don't know, I think we might be headed towards hiring a tutor for her. If you look at all her workbooks its 98% perfect scores and yet with me simple things she needs my assistance whenever we do her homework or review.
• India
31 Jul 07
coollll,i don't have child sorry.
• China
31 Jul 07
really? you are so .....