A Birthday Rant

United States
July 30, 2007 1:11pm CST
Yesterday my husband caught me by surprise with a party to celebrate my birthday. As I looked around at the crowd that gathered, I noted those whose faces were not seen. One in particular did not show. Admittedly, I was saddened that this person did not pay a visit. Others stated to me that they felt is was wrong for this person not to show up. The reason given was not enough to justify this person's absence. There were others that were at the party who had similar problems. There was no call to say hello. There was no call to ask how the party went. There still has been no call. Maybe later. Maybe not.
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17 responses
• United States
30 Jul 07
Sorry your friend didn't come to your party. Look on the Bright side your hubby remembered you birthday. Mine forgot mine this year. Maybe next year.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
I was surprised that my hubby remembered the correct day! He usually thinks it is either a few days before or after the actual day.
• United States
30 Jul 07
I think forgetting birthdays etc is a man thing. I am the one who remembers the kids and grandkids birthdays.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
Happy Birthday to you! I'm sure the absence of this person put a damper on your special day. Hopefully he or she will come around. Sometimes people are just selfish. Whatever the excuse was, it sounds like you were hurt by this so hopefully this person realizes that and will call you.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
She did send me an online message. But, it still is a thorn in my side.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I'm sorry your friend was a no show! I had a friend, now deceased, who's birthday was June 2, but I always thought it was June 6! For 33 years I sent her cards and gave birthday gifts on June 6th, even early! She would laugh, correct me, and the next year I'd celebrate her birthday June 6th!
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
30 Jul 07
I am sorry your friend forgot. I have one that does that also. Of course I don't get out as much as I use to so that could be way oh well. Happy Birthday to you anyhow I hope it's the best :)
• United States
30 Jul 07
It is water under the bridge now. But, still, it bothered me.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
31 Jul 07
Is this person a family member or a good friend? I guess this person has a problem with a few of the people at your birthday party. Missing your party is her/his loss. There is nothing you can do about it. If she/he has a problem, they are not going to get any sympathy if they don't communicate about it. My brother wouldn't come to my 40th birthday, as he was annoyed with me. He didn't ring or send a card. I didn't let it bother me. We talk now.
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
30 Jul 07
That was nice of your husband! Forget about anybody else calling to say Happy Birthday! It won't be coming. As a person who remembers every friend's Birthday and doesn't forget to wish them (even if it is belated), I can say that no many people can remember a Birthday every time. Most of my friends have atleast an e-card, or a phone call or an IM on their Birthday but till date I have received none except from my husband and my in-laws. Even my own mother forgets my birthday sometimes. I have come to take it in my stride but that doesn't stop me from wishing them because that's what friends are for. Friends don't do something expecting a return wish or even a thanks. Thank God for what you have and be Peaceful and yes... Wish you a very Happy Birthday (although a belated one!).
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Well, Happy Birthday. Do not let one person ruin your whole day. Your husband went through alot to surprise you. Enjoy the fact that the people did care enough to show. Hopefully that person will call soon, but don't dwell on it.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 07
Sweetie I am so sorry that this Person did not show and I am hoping that you at least received the Call I don't know who the Person was but it obviously upset you
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I am sorry that this person didn't show up to your party. I hope you had a nice party and BTW, Happy Birthday.My boyfriend and my son both forgot my birthday this year. I was upset at first but then I forgave them. If you read my discussion today you know that I lost power last night. One thing that went through my mind was that I was worried I wouldn't be able to get online to send wishes your way. Luckily, I am able to.
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• United States
2 Aug 07
Thank you Brenda. It is always nice to see you drop by. You bring a smile to my face.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
31 Jul 07
I would also be very dissapointed if I saw that a dreared one didnt bother to show up or even call. My best friend had her birthday saturday and we were a group of girls that got together to surprise her witha small party on a resturant. I for sure did not really feel up for it, but i know that it ment alot to her that I was there, even if she probably would have understood if I turned it down. Anyways - I was the only one out of maybe 10 people that bothered to bring a gift =(
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@sunshinecup (7871)
31 Jul 07
Well if I were you, I wouldn't bother with that person, I would wait for them to call me and explain why they didn't show up.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
31 Jul 07
I’m sorry that certain people didn’t show for your party- I hope you didn’t dwell on it and had fun with the ones who did come- Maybe it was short notice for them- Maybe they were sick- I guess at times like this- you see who your true friends are- I hope your headache is gone!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Im sorry that this dampened your party. I can tell you are hurt. My daughters gave me a huge surprise party last year and I,too, noticed a couple of very good friends that did not show. I had so much fun otherwise that i did not dwell on it. Much later when talking to one of the no show friends, she said the reason was that she really wasn't up to dealing with a crowd...she had recently quit drinking and was not ready to be around people in that atmosphere. Of course the excuse she gave to everyone was different and quite lame. I don't know. Our friendship was too valuable to me to let one little disappointment get in the way of it. I would talk to your friend privately and in a non-accusing way. Hope it all works out for you.
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• United States
30 Jul 07
Knowing how this person is, I just let it slide. Being able to vent about it on here helps me to cope with it better.
• China
31 Jul 07
a good party a bad feeling ? right ?
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
31 Jul 07
Although I'm sorry that your friend didn't show up, I certainly wouldn't let the absence of one person spoil my party if I were you. It sounds like you had others there to celebrate with, so just concentrate on the good, and try to ignore the bad.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I'm sorry to hear your party was dampened. Some ppl are like that. Happy belated birthday to you. AT PEACE WITHIN
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
31 Jul 07
A belated Happy Birthday to you, Elusive! You must care very deeply for this person who didn't show up for it to bother you so. Try to focus on those who did show up. If there's one thing I've learned, people will sometimes disappoint you.