who would you choose? the love of your life? or the life that you love?

Philippines
July 30, 2007 11:16pm CST
the situation: if your in a relationship, and you really love the person you are with but there's a problem, the person doesn't appreciate the things that you enjoy or you keep your self busy with. and wants you to stop the "foolishness" you are doing... but these activities really makes you happy but at the same time you don't want to lose the person you have, but doing these activities will some trigger to your separation... WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE? the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE or the LIFE THAT YOU LOVE
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10 responses
@rlydick (57)
• United States
31 Jul 07
Wow. I Know What You Are Talking About. Ive Been There And Done That Before Myself. In The Relationship I Had, I Noticed, When I Did What I Liked, The Woman Disagreed With It. I Personally Went About My Way And Did What I Wanted And Made Up Later. I Also Believe, That A Relationship Should Be 50/50. This Means, You Do What You Like And The Other Person Goes With The Flow And Vice Versa. In My Relationship, It Just Ended Because She Was Bored And Found Someone New And Cheated On Me. When Friends Always Ask Something About A Relationship, I Tell Them To Follow Their Heart. Your Heart Will Never Let You Down In The End. Also, From My Experience, Ive Learned Not To Stop Doing What I Love For Someone Else Because It Just Ruins The Fun In That Activity. So Personally, My Course Of Action Would Be, To Choose What I Love To Do. You Will Definitely Find Someone Who Likes Doing The Same Thing As You. Things Like That Take Time, But Itll Happen. I Wish You Well, And If You Ever Need Someone To Talk To, Im Here For You! I Hope I KindOf Helped. If Not, Contact Me Again, And I Shall Keep Talking About This Subject With You Confidentually.
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
yeah.. i remembered what my friend told me... she said "live the life that you love and in there look for the love of your life" right isn't it? as human being we have certain similarities that makes us jive together, maybe what i enjoy doesn't please him, if he can't accept, there's nothing i can do right?... hmmm... i like this line "your heart won't let you down"... so i might as well enjoy the things i'm doing and just be happy of what i have... thank you!
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• United States
31 Jul 07
So I Helped? Im Confuzzilated.:-\ I Hope I Did...You Are A Very Beautiful Young Woman. You Still Have Your Whole Life Ahead Of You. Someone Is Probably Out There Right Now Who Has The Same Problem As You Do...Maybe You Are Meant For EachOther. And Yes, EveryThing You Asked, I Agree With...Its Just That Im To Lazy To Answer Them All Individually Because Im On My Cell Phone.:-P
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• Philippines
31 Jul 07
beautiful? you think so? haha.. thank you... i hope so... where ever that guy is, i'll be waiting for him....
• Malaysia
1 Aug 07
Well....This is very tough one. Definitely it's hard to choose either both. Sometimes you feel like you love your life most but the truth you need both. You cannot live without your love but you want to be success in your life because you have your own dreams..... You don't have to choose either one but you can choose to have both.
@Seraphine (385)
• Finland
31 Jul 07
The life that I love, definately. If the love of my life would really love me as much as I'd love him, he would never make me choose between him and things I enjoy doing. He might not like it but he would have to learn to live with it if I'd be that important to him.
• United States
31 Jul 07
That is a good quesion. I have that problem right now! My BF and I get along great...as long as we are doing what HE wants to do. LOL I am a family person. I love to spend time with my family. His family is not so close...so naturally he doesnt like to. He also cant stand to stay at home. During the week, I work alot so when I get off, I like to come home, make dinner and do some housework so I dont have to do much on the weekend when I am off work. So we dont see eye to eye...but have come to an agreement that he will do his thing and I will do mine and we will meet back at home. He is coming around now though, and actually likes to go visit my family, and is starting to stay home alot more now, especially with gas prices being so high. LOL
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
How I wish it was so easy to find the love of your life in the life that you love. But that's not true in my case. Unfortunately I have to choose one. I think it's more difficult to find the love of your life, so that is what I choose. Then I'll find a way to continue doing what I love.
@vinzen (1022)
• India
31 Jul 07
Hi, this is a tricky one but i think each one of us have somewhere or the other gone through these phases. Yes initally it i what you say love, when we are into a relationship, and all is well and a bed of roses and slowly the problems arise and we start finding faults in each others things leading to each one feeling suffocated in the relationship. Each one finds faults in what the other person is doing and there starts a series of misunderstandings and fights. That is the time i think that we leave the love of our life and tend to choose instead the life that we love !
• China
31 Jul 07
i think is the life that i love
@fikiabc (280)
• China
31 Jul 07
Choose wath you love ,and love wath your choose!!Life sometimes just like this ,full of choose !! Good luck !!
@diillu (5130)
31 Jul 07
I think if we really love that person then we should go for the love of the life as it is really hard to find true love these days.SO, when they are with us it is better we keet it safe. Once we loose the true love of our life then it's not sure that we will get it again in our life. But with the understanding and all I think we can make our life the way we want to live with our loved ones. We just need is an understanding.
• Canada
31 Jul 07
My fiance and I realize that we will be at different places during different parts of our life together. For now we are in his place because he has a job, and family who needs him, but some day he will find a different job, and things will clam down here, and we will live in my country. Neither one of us has to give up our lives for the other, because we will work together.