Should I be Insulted?

Hello cyntrow! I have seen this happen to me too sometimes. In one case, I didn't disagree but I just gave a different perspective. The poster who used to always comment on my response earlier eagerly and who comment on all others just stopped commenting on my response. The poster not only did it to that particular discussion but a few discussions after that, I experienced the same until I stopped responding. This has happened to me in some other cases too. I don't know why people think that disagreement in one matter automatically make us disagree over everything or not to communicate further. I have disagreed with a lot of people here but whoever responds to my discussion, I always leave a comment even if I don't find anything easily comment able. I look deeply to find anything remotely comment able. I not only comment to disagreements and always welcome people but I have also given best responses to people who disagree with me vehemently either in that discussions or somewhere else. I just see that it will be rude on my part if I abandon someone in my discussion just because of a difference of opinion somewhere else. I don't know if you should feel insulted! I didn't felt it this way. I just thought not to respond further after some tries as I don't like to bother people. I did hope and wish that they will communicate with me in later tries, but sometimes they didn't and I moved on. Most of the time, I find people considerate though. If they don't comment on my response in a casual way, I don't mind as long as they are responding to others. But, If it's just me who is not getting a comment after so many tries, I may reconsider my responding options. I hope that you don't get insulted and that people get more reasonable.

Well sweety I am not sure why people would do that! There is only one person who has made me angry enough to not want to comment on their response to me and even then I did not ignore it! I politely told them that I really felt it would be better if we did not have contact - this was due to a personal attack on me and the responses he gave to me were all very sarcastic! I wouldn't ignore someone because we disagreed sweets but maybe - just maybe - they are scared that you are trying to upset them! xxx

I wouldn't be insulted, I think a few people are just not into responding they really are just after the point that the discussion received, I think some just want to get as many topics as possible, so no need to get insulted its good that some want to csrry on a good topic...

I suppose if you notice these people are making responses to everyone elses comments and not yours, then I would agree with you that maybe they are being a bit immature. There are some people on here I avoid like the plague for the fact that they are just out to insult whoevers discussion they go on. However, there are those who I have not agreed with on one discussion, but have on another and thankfully most times they are very civilised. I thinks some people can't handle intellegence when they read it and if they have thrown their rattle out the pram on one ocassion with you, they may not want to respond to any other comments you have to offer. You shouldn't feel insulted though, you are the mature one here by holding no grudges and they could learn from this:0)

It sounds to me like a grudge. I would wonder if they are even reading your response. They may just see it's from you and skip over it assuming that you are there to disagree again. It's unfortunate that people behave that way. I'm not sure if I would classify it as a lack of maturity. It is in a way but looking at it from their perspective, they might think THEY are being the mature party by choosing not to "get into it" again with you (I know you said it happens even when you agree but I question if they even notice that). That being said, if I was the one being snubbed like that I would still be slightly insulted regardless of whatever other excuses I could come up with for them. This is a forum. There are people here from all over with mainy different opinions. There is bound to be disagreements. It would be boring if everybody felt and thought the same way. You are entitled to have and share AND defend your opinions. People shouldn't write you off just because SOME of your opinions differ with theirs. This is why I don't try very hard to keep track of people here. I try to pay attention to discussions my friends have started. I sometimes remember bits and pieces about other people. And then there are certain users that stand out no matter what but in general I don't get all caught up with keeping tabs on who's saying what. I don't know what your opinions are on the "controversial subjects", they might be in total opposition of mine for all I know. All I do know is that THIS discussion was something I wanted to respond to and so I did.

Maybe they had grudges. But oh well, you can't do anything about it. Who cares if they don't respond, it's their choice anyways. I guess they're just either being childish or afraid that you'll start something. As for me, I don't go to full lengths into dealing with controversial topics anymore. I just don't see the point of debating on something that has no end really. I now go for easy topics, the ones that need imagination, rather than the toughness of the words. Take it easy, let them be if they don't reply. I have one person too that I don't want to be talking to anymore. As hard as I try, I try not to comment on topics where she has commented too. I just don't like her, and I think it's a waste of my time if I comment on her comments. But more of the people here on mylot. I don't really even remember the names. =)

Are you that insecure and immature to always expect a pad on the shoulder or to assume that people will always acknowledge you?

Don't be insulted at all cyntrow...So people just can't take (critizium) I hope I speeled that right. So pay it any mind if they don't repond by to your reply oh well.....

It depends on whether they believe you are for homosexuality or against it, for abortion or against it, for God or against God. Not everyone has the right words to respond to the posts. So even though they disagree, they cannot express themselves intelligently enough so they do not respond. It is the same as someone who has a grade school education trying to win against someone who is a professor. No matter how they try, they cannot succeed. Oh by the way I am against homosexual marriages, against abortions, so if you hold the same views, good for you. If you don't, well we disagree.

I dont knwo maybe I am a bit different than the normal preson I always take it as everyone likes me until they flat out say I domnt like you.There are a few people on my friends list that always thank everyone but never do me I dont think they are against me I just think that they didnt see a big reason to reply to what I said. If I am looking at a topic sometiems I do reply to what others have said instead of the main thread if they make a valid point I agree with or dissagree with thats the way it works on almost any other forum I have been on except mylot. On here you can get 100 replies of people saying the exact same thing that everyone else postedits kind of weird and nothing like any other forum. I know we get paid by the post so thats probably why people do it.

There could be a couple of reasons I can think of why people don't respond to your responses. Not everyone checks all of their discussions and I have to admit I'm one of them or they don't want to start an ongoing argument. I'm sure there are more reasons and I hope people will tell you what they are.

I think you are thinking too much cyntrow. Actually I seldom got a reply back to the responses I replied. MAybe they thought that it would not be necessary to reply back. Just relax and think positive. Anything could happen here I can say. :D

well maybe it's because it's just a subject that a lot of people would rather ignore because it gets too deep and too confusing once you start putting your thoughts in. some people would rather stay away from a long debate because it would just take too much energy out of them! don't be insulted.... not worth it!