Children...how many years apart?

@eshaan (6193)
India
August 1, 2007 6:48am CST
What is the ideal gap period according to you to be able to look after children in a proper way? Mine are 4 years apart and I was comfortable handling them, when one learnt most of the things to do by herself I had the second. What about you?
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@abroji (3247)
• India
3 Aug 07
I have two daughters and the defference between their ages is four years as in your case. It was convenient to look after them properly. But some think consecutive children, that is with the defference of one year is better, because they can look after the children together. However I think four years defference is more desirable. Thank you eshaan.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
3 Aug 07
Yes,some people think that 1 year difference is good because they grow up together, I have heard many say that so much gap is not good ,when one has grown up then we have to start once again,but my personal thinking is growing children is not a work that we have to just finish, it is important how we take care of them.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
3 Aug 07
You are right. Bringing up children is more than a work. It is as if part of our living. It is our promary duty when we are parents. Any way tooo much defference is also controversial.
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think 2 years is a good gap, my sister is 8 years younger then me and my brother is 9 years younger then me and we have nothing in common, I feel like I have been more of a mother then a sister to them but my dad and his two older sisters are all two years apart and they all get along great because they are so close in age but they have a brother who 8 year younger then my dad and hes kinda the oddball of our family, he quiet and has no sense of humor, which is very important in our family. so i think 2 years is best thats how close together I want to have our children.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
3 Aug 07
For children I think it is good if they are close because they play well, but for parents I think its atleast3-4 years.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
2 Aug 07
Hi there. We have two children, our oldest is 14 years old and our youngest is 11 going on 12 this month... With a two year gap between them, we had no problems, I think if there we had no routine in raising our children, we probably would've suffered with stress and no sleep lol... But it wasnt like that... We made ourselves get into a good routine with raising our children and we thought of it, when I was carrying our first, so by the time our second child came, we well and truly prepared and found it easy, we flew through it lol... Often we have our cousins children around, from babies to teenages and find that we cope well, while their parents are left standing opened mouthed wondering how? LOL...
@eshaan (6193)
• India
2 Aug 07
I think its easy to raise children in join families,there is always someone free to look after the children and you don't have to worry much.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
my daughters are also almost 4 years apart and while i think that is ok, i wonder if they would be closer if they closer in age? or would they fight more? hmmmm
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
1 Aug 07
They would have fought more dear, you can't imagine children with similar age are so difficult to handle, my God!
• United States
4 Aug 07
My children 23 days of being 3 years apart. I do not know what is a good years apart. I think over 4 years a part is two many. I also think to close is not good. I have friends that their children are 10 months a part. On of my daughters friend's believed that if you nursed you could not get pregnant, guess what her kids are 11 months apart. I tried to tell her that nursing was not a form of birth control, her monther was an LNV and a trained dula or midwife and told her otherwise. Guess what she was pregnant for two years. LOL
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
3 Aug 07
I think it must be 3-5 yeras.Me & my brothers are 5 years apart.It makes the work of parents more easy.Really ideally there should be a difference at least of that age that the child can take care of him.