Does your hubby help out with housework ?

China
August 1, 2007 8:08pm CST
My hubby is a great person with great personality. Sure he has fewer short-comings than I do. But the problem is he hates doing housework, especially washing dishes. I did little housework before I got married. We quarreled several times over household chores. Now I almost do all the housework --- I guess my teaching job allows me to have plenty of time during the summer holiday. But I feel unfair sometimes. I just want him to offer to help me a bit from time to time, which will make me satisfied, but he never does. Do you have this kind of problem? How do you solve it?
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@vinzen (1022)
• India
4 Aug 07
Hi, well i can understand yoiur state as i also go through this phase, but i am lucky as i have a very understanding and helping husband and he does help me in allthe chores of the house, as i also help him in doing work and am teaching as well, so it is mutual and he knows that if we both are working, it is tough for me alone to manage things outside and in the house as well, so hes always around, ready to help. And i think the same for ytou, that if this problem exists for you, then you should also, talk it out with your husband and maybe hes not able to understand this now, but after you make him reason and see hings, am sure hed realise and start helping you.
• China
14 Aug 07
Thanks for your advice. I think you are so lucky to have such a wonderful husband. When a man is so considerate, he is priceless.
@vinzen (1022)
• India
14 Aug 07
Thanks for replying and yes i am very lucky to have such a priceless possession, and i have to value him more now.!
• United States
6 Sep 07
I believe that a lot depends on how he was raised. As a husband myself, I feel very guilty watching my wife to housework alone. I was raised by a set of working parents and my mother made sure that I could take care of myself. I was taught to do laundry and dishes, I can vacuum and dust. So watching my wife do it, if I am available to help, makes me feel like I'm taking her for granted. I will be honest though, there a certain chores that she will insist that she do herself. Cleaning the bathroom for example. I have tired it and it did not meet her standards. Therefore, while she's doing that I will go vacuum. It should be a team effort. That's what being married is all about. Nobody wants to spend a bunch of time doing chores. It goes twice as fast if both parties pitch in. Then you can have more quality time together. No animosity. Teamwork. Teamwork.
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
I agree. It depends on how you were raised. I was taught by my mother on how to cook, clean, do laundry and do any other household chores. Now as a husband, I do the cooking. I also help on many household chores like laundry.
• Pakistan
2 Aug 07
He is helping you in sense that you kook and he eats. You clean and wash the plates and he uses them to make dirty. But dont worry. About every husband is like yours one. You are not only a household wife. You are also a working lady. Your are a teacher and want to teach something about home keeping to your hubby. I think it is something very tedious. He is a man. And men are ruling authorities at home. His duty is to earn and your duty is to keep smart your homeholding job. If you started critics this will cause the clash, and clash between loving couple is very sensitive. Take care. wish you good luck.
• China
14 Aug 07
I think what you have said about the duties of men and women are quite typical in China. I'm not the kind of woman who is ambitious and don't make much money. I guess I will think twice when trying to drive him around.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I am so blessed to have such a husband who doesn't mind doing household chores, washing the dishes, preparing food, doing the laundry as long as it will help me, he'll do it. And because he has more time at home, he does this most of the time. I so love my husband, but of course I take my turn on weekends and when I don't have work.I make sure I serve him a good dinner.
• China
14 Aug 07
you two must live a harmonious life! in China, many people have the idea of"men in charge of making money while women in charge of the housework".