Phew.. You Stink!

@breepeace (3027)
Canada
August 1, 2007 10:51pm CST
Is there really any nice way to tell someone that they stink? My coworker has a horrible problem with body odor, and since I work with her all day, doing labour jobs, it gets worse, although it's still horrible first thing in the morning when she apparently is fresh from the shower. My other coworker and I have given her a bottle of body spray hoping that she might take the hint, but alas, she still comes to work reeking of B.O. What would you do if you were in my situation? Have you ever been in my situation? There really is no nice way to say it, is there?
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
2 Aug 07
Probably she is unaware that she smells. Maybe you could suggest that her deodorant may not be strong enough. She might have to switch to an antiperspirant. She also might be eating something that is making her stink. Another thing is that she might perspire a little heavier than normal at which she should see the doctor. I have not been in your situation, but I know that some perfumes have a bad effect on me. So tell her that the soap she uses does not do a good a job as cleaning as she thinks.
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@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
2 Aug 07
I'm allergic to perfumes, and I find that light body sprays don't bother me at all. She never mentioned a perfume allergy when we gave her the body spray, just thanked us and put it in her purse.
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
that would be hard to say... hmp.. i guess u have to tell it to her even if she might be ofended.. you just have to be carefull to your words and say that you are just concern friend.. ;) i guess she will understand it.. tell her that she must go to a dermatologist and have some advice from a doctor..;) it would be the better if you'll say it than to keep it.. ;) goodluck and have a nice day.. ;)
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I work with a several women in an enclosed office who are morbidly obese. One is a slob, so even if she is not there her cubicle reeks. Lets not even talk about the bathroom after they leave it.. IDK there really is no PC way to tell someone they reek. My own mother smells like garlic.. I can't bear to tell her. Its rough!
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@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
I have an obese coworker who stinks up the bathroom, too. I don't notice any smell from her desk, but she's not poorly groomed, so she might take care with some parts of her hygiene, but there's an awful skunky smell from the loo when she leaves that isn't there when someone of average stature is finished in there.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I would take the coward's way out, and write an anonymous letter, trying to be tactful as possible.
@maya24 (10)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 07
i don't agree with your opinion, what if he felt down with your letter and his confidence in office down. because he certainly known that the letter came from his coworker at the office.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I don't think there is a "nice" way or approach to say that someone stinks, as I have previously experienced that on my past fling. Sad thing is, instead of taking it as a word of advice, she took it personaly. To which I really felt sorry for her, because what i was saying is not for my own good but simply for her well-being. If your co-worker reacts like what I have put as an example here, then it could be better if you'd just stay away from her or you can either make her feel that she smells unpleasant..
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
2 Aug 07
As I said, I work with her all day, so staying away from her isn't an option, and making her feel that she smells unpleasant sounds like something rude that I would never do.
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@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
2 Jan 08
It's probably best not to say anything. I know that this is unpleasant, but I have the feeling that your co-worker is already of this and would actually like to smell better but just can't. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm suspecting that your co-worker has a medical condition that causes her odor to be out-of-control. What you could do would be to read up on this possibility, and, if you hear of a breakthrough, take her aside and let her know about it.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 07
honestly, i don't think there is a good way to tell a person she got a foul odor..we can just talk to them in a manner way and kindly tell them they have an odor problem..but by doing this there is no way to assure that we wont offend them..its with the person's care on how they would take it..they should take it as a compliment so that they will improve without getting hurt and would probably thank you for telling her so..but its so easy to say but not so easy to do..
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@jerryn (818)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I think, you're so right. There's no nice way to tell her. Just be frank with her and say something like, no offense but did you know there's a way to improve your personal hygiene? Have you tried using blah blah blah? I use blah blah blah and it works well for me. What are you using currently? I hope I've been helpful my friend.
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I don't think there is. If you have already talked to her about her b/o and given her spray, it could be that she has not been washing her clothes properly so the b/o smell is still on there. I'm not sure what else you can say or do for her if you have talked to her already? sorry!
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@annavi (18)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Yes, I guess there's really no nice way to say to a person that he stinks. What I do is make a gesture to relay a message that I smell something awful in the air. Like if I'm talking to someone with fould breath, I lean back to avoid catching his breath. Sometimes, they seem to realize what the back leaning is all about, and in a few days I notice an improvement.
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@jewel102 (105)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I know a case like this and all the coworkers decided to talk with their supervisor about the problem and the supervisor was the one that made the approach to that person in particularly.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I had a friend(co-worker) that never seemed to shower...at least not enough because she had a terrible odor about her all the time. Every time a customer came thru that smelled bad, I'd mention it to her and say, "how is it that people can go out in public without showering or brushing their teeth??" "They must not realize how bad and offensive they smell." For xmas, I got her a gift basket full of smelly soaps,bath oils, etc. It took a while but eventually she got the message. hope this helps.
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@maya24 (10)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 07
if you have given your coworker body spray but he still B.O ,you can say it directly to him that he has B.O. But with words that make him understand that you really care and don't want him to be ashame in front of other people, especially in front of someone like his girlfriend or his wife.
• United States
2 Aug 07
No, there really isn't a nice way of telling someone they reek. Just be as tactful as you can, but be honest. Reccomend a deodorant to her. Say something like "have you fried (insert deoderant name) ever? It works really well. i think you would be really satisfied with it."
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@Lifeless (2638)
• India
2 Aug 07
One way to make him realize that he stinks badly is to make urself stink even worse than him and hower around him the whole day without telling him anything about his body odour or anything related to that. This way he would realize that it is better to smell good than to make fun of urself and then he improve himself by putting some deo or perfumes the next day. try it out, and let me know of the experience. If this however dosen't work, gift him a perfume bottle without letting him know that u gifted him that perfume. All the best...
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
2 Aug 07
I did already give her body spray, but apparently she's not using it because she still smells.
@Lifeless (2638)
• India
3 Aug 07
Then try the other way dear.. I gave u 2 options naa?? Now try the other one.. And remember that u stink much worse than what he does.. And let me know what happened...
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
4 Aug 07
I think I care too much about hygiene and my self-image too much to ever smell like body odor. I've been known to do a quick wash up in the ladies' room if I'm smelling less than fresh, I'm that anal about it. Thanks for the advice, anyway.
• United States
13 Jun 08
don't-tell your boss instead and let them handle it. there was a lawsuit local to me where an employee sued-and won-because another co-worker told them they stunk and caused them "trauma and mental anguish". appearently,the worker had some kind of health problem that caused the smell.that was the case,anyway.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jun 08
breepeace just give her a present of colgne and antiperspirant 'and present it to her and say softly this is for your'enjoyment 'and ours also, I dont want someone to hurt your feelings so hope you will accept this gift and wear it for me. my friend.
2 Aug 07
As others have said, she may be unaware with it. Maybe trying buying her a perfume or deodrant (even a light spray as you said they don't effect your allergy) and hope she gets the message. You could even leave it annoymously and just leave it with her name on somewhere she is bound to see it and make sure no one else see's you do it too. About the B.O. take some mints or chewing gum to work with you and offer her one Other than that, there's no real nice way you can say it unless you ask her what kind of deodrant she wears or mention a light spray one that you recommend (subtley ofcourse) that's all I can suggest.
@bbs2007 (28)
• China
2 Aug 07
I don't think there is a nice way
@lisa2008 (30)
• China
2 Aug 07
I have been in your situation, but for my classmate. luckly,her body odor not strong. If I were you, I said to her friendly"She should go to see the doctor," and you tell her know, You is good for her.