Don't Wait Too Long...

@twoey68 (13651)
United States
August 2, 2007 8:53am CST
I had to share a most amazing thing. Twenty-two years ago when I was 17 my Dad and I had a falling out and I've never been back to visit him (he lives in Michigan I live in Missouri). We talk a couple of times a year but thats about it. Well, he decided to come down to Branson this summer and I got to see him. It was amazing!! We (him, my stepmother and myself) got to have a really nice visit and share a meal. It was great!! My only regret was that I waited so long to do it. I am already making plans for another visit. So my advice...if theres someone you haven't seen in a long time--whatever the reason--put it aside and go see them. You only get one go around in this world and you don't want to wait till its too late!! LIVE IN PEACE
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I haven't seen my father in 13 years, haven't spoken to him in 10. I don't care to see him ever again. He turned his back on my sisters and me when he married my first step-mother, so that he could suck up to her kids. He treated them like they were better than us. But the worst thing he did... about 10 years ago, my sister was hospitalized because she was a danger to herself and others. In therapy they found that my sister suffers feelings of abandonment and needed to re-connect with her father. My mom offered to pay for my sister to visit my father, and even offered an extra $300 to pay for food and stuff for the 2 weeks my sister would have been visiting. He said no. Then he put his wife on the phone and stood by while she told my sister that she was absolutely not welcome in their home. Why? Because when my sister was 7 years old she called my step-monster a b!tch. My sister instead spent the 2 weeks with my aunt and grandmother (my father's mother and sister). My grandmother called my father and told him that if he was a real man he would drive down to visit while she was there. He didn't. The man I call Dad is my step-father.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I'm sorry to hear you have so many problems with your father...though it is great that you have a step-father that is good to you and that you can have a good relationship with. I'm sure its your fathers loss and perhaps one day he will realize how much he has lost out on. Good luck and God Bless!! LIVE IN PEACE
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Thanks for sharing your personal story. It's a good example of what happens when you wait to long to see someone you love. I haven't seen my own brother in years and we rarely talk. I hadn't seen my mom in two years, but she finally came up to see us when my son graduated high school. It was too long in between visits and I hope we can visit again soon because life is indeed, too short.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Luckly, I still got to see him before it was too late but I did let way too much time pass before doing it. That's time I have missed out on...I don't plan on missing out on anymore. :) LIVE IN PEACE
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
oh you are so right, two years ago I had a huge fight with my best friend, I was so hurt I didn't think I would ever speak to her again, she came to me to make up, I probably wouldn't have because of my stupid pride, a couple of weeks later we decised to drive up to visit a friend a three hour drive up and the same back we had a wonderful day, breakfast at a truck stop, lunch at our friends place then fish and chips for dinner on the way back we laughed all day, a week later her husband rang me to to say she had a massive heart attack, I often thank God that she came to me to make up, we never know how long we have, the saying I have said ever since to people having fights with loved ones id.."Tomorrow may never Come"....
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 Aug 07
It makes a world of difference. It doesn't mean you have to forget everything but at some point you have to let go and get past it. Congrats on finding your friend again. LIVE IN PEACE
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I think it all depends on why you haven't seen this person. You say "whatever the reason" and I disagree. Honestly my brother lives right next door to my parents and I usually avoid seeing him if I have to. He's not my brother, he's some stranger who just looks like my brother...I don't know where my brother went. Or like my best friend I haven't seen him in years but he passed away. So I can't. I mean I can go visit his grave stone and I do... but that's all I can do. I think there are reasons to not see someone again...and I can hold a grudge like nobodies business and I don't regret stuff. There's no use in regretting. I live peacefully in the decisions I've made.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I agree that there may be reasons for not seeing ppl and maybe my saying "whatever the reason" was simplifying it too much. There are ppl in my past that I could never forgive and care for again. I guess what I meant is if you have a spat or argument with someone that if its possible to make up by all means don't wait too long. I understand there are some ppl that this isn't possible with. LIVE IN PEACE
@raychill (6530)
• United States
10 Aug 07
yeah cause sometimes you can't live in peace with that person in your life.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Well said! AT PEACE WITHIN
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
13 Aug 07
That's awesome. I'm really glad this worked out so well for you. Thanks for the positive thoughts!
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I am too...It really changed my mindset about alot of things. AT PEACE WITHIN
3 Aug 07
Yeah,it's so true.In our life time maybe we will have so many experiences about that.And sometimes because of our crossness it may take regret to us.So "don't wait too long"is so good , don't wait too long maybe everything will be reverse.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Your right. You never know when it might be you missing someone you wish you could see...but their mad at you. Thank you for responding. LIVE IN PEACE
• Macedonia
3 Aug 07
im so hopefull for your next receiving your dad in your city i only hate that divorces happening in the world i suggest to ask your dad to live close you so u can see him more times
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
LOL My Dad will never leave Michigan...he was born and raised there, so was my Grandfather and Great Grandfather. I live in Missouri b/c this is where my Mom and all her side of the family live. I don't see 5 families up and moving for me :) For now, I live here and visit my Dad. Maybe one day I'll move up there. LIVE IN PEACE
• China
3 Aug 07
GOD bless you... no matter what happen,don't forget your relatives,because they will always be there,after you..
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I agree...family is important. I'm so glad I have mine. Thank you for taking time to respond. LIVE IN PEACE
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
hello twoey :-) thank you for that very important reminder. you see in this fast-paced world, people tend to forget the valuable things in this world. i must admit, i am guilty of that sometimes too. i have lots of old friends and loved ones i have lost touch too. it sure would be nice to see and spend time with them again...before it's too late :-)
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
It really is. My grandmother got to see her brother for the first time in over 20 years last year and was amazed at how much they had missed each other. I don't know why ppl put off seeing ppl they love for so long. AT PEACE WITHIN
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
That's true and how nice of you. There are people who was ruled by their hatred. They don't mind the feelings of others, simply because they don't wan't to have peace with them. You're an exmaple of a loving and forgiving child.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I've never hated my Dad, it's just there were times we didn't see eye to eye. I've always loved him...after all he had a hand in bringing me into this world. Sometimes ppl let their own differences get in the way of life. AT PEACE WITHIN
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
3 Aug 07
You're right. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of and miss my Mom and Dad. When they were alive, I traveled 400 miles to see them a couple of times a year, and talked to them on the phone once a week. Sometimes, they would come and stay with me for a few days. I wish I could have spent more time with them. Every time I said goodbye to them, I was afraid it would be the last time. I was lucky in that I got there in time to be with them during their last days. It was hard, but it was worth it.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
That is one thing I am grateful for is that if, God forbid, he should pass away...at least I got to see him again. Thats something I can find comfort in. AT PEACE WITHIN
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@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
2 Aug 07
u r absolutely ture. well glad dat u had fun. gl on the next visit.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Thank you!! LIVE IN PEACE