When I'm in pain nothing else matters!

United States
August 3, 2007 11:50am CST
Often when I have a headache or toothache, I find that I can't work or do anything of real value. Housework is a chore when I'm in pain. And, I find that the hobbies that I enjoy, no longer hold any real interest for me. When I'm in pain, I don't even want to talk to friends. I suppose it's a natural reaction to pain. After all, why would your body let you do anything else, until you take care of it's needs. It's a very persistent creature, that's for sure! Unfortunately, I have the same reaction when it comes to emotional pain as well. If I am having an argument with my spouse, I can't work online or enjoy any of my favorite hobbies. Maybe it's because my heart is aching. You can't simply take a Tylenol to make that pain go away. Of course later I feel silly for not getting any work done. But, going through the emotional pain, it's as if a great weight is sitting upon my shoulders and I can barely get out of bed. Does that ever happen to you? Do you find that physical or emotional pain stands in the way of doing your job or going on with normal life?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
3 Aug 07
Since I'm always in pain, I've had to learn how to be functional anyways. Because of my breathing problems, every breath I take hurts, and it's always been that way. When I'm taking the proper medicines and such, it can sometimes be a little better than others, but it still hurts. My shoulders also always hurt, because of an old injury. So I basically just have to work through those types of things. The thing that's got me crippled at the moment is vertigo. It's really hard to do anything when you feel like you're going to fall off the world. Pain I can deal with, have been dealing with for as long as I can remember, but this spinning is just driving me nuts. As for emotional pain, I guess I've learned how to live with that as well, now that I think of it.
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• United States
4 Aug 07
Lecanis, you are an inspriation to us all! I have no right to complain when others are really suffering. Sometimes I'm just a big cry baby. There have been times when things were much worse for me. I should be busy counting my current blessings instead of nit-picking them.
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@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
4 Aug 07
I happened to read this and want to say I HEAR YA about the vertigo. I have messed up ears and I had a spell of seven months or vertigo and now I get it whenever it feels likes popping up. It's worse than any pain I ever had. I hate it. Do you take Meclizine at all? It helps a bit to stop the effects of the spinning. Sorry to bust in but I sympathize because vertigo is probably one of the worst things to live with.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 Aug 07
Thanks, beautyqueen. I feel the same way sometimes though, like I'm complaining about nothing, when I see people dying of cancer and such. So I think everyone feels that way sometimes, because there's pretty much always someone in worse shape. wotfpatty- Meclizine is the same thing as Antivert, right? They've had me on that for months, and it was working at first but these past couple of months it doesn't seem to have any effect. Valium makes me feel a bit better for a short time, but it's not that I'm not spinning, I just don't care as much. Right now they're checking neurological causes to see if it's something else aggravating the Meniere's disease (which is what they say is wrong with my ears) but if the neurological route doesn't turn anything up it's going to have to be off to surgery with me. =( You had vertigo for seven months straight and all they did was give you Antivert? Could you work at all? Were you falling down all the time?
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@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
3 Aug 07
I am the same way with the physical pain i have a headache and i cant do anything just lay there and i could not think if i wanted to let alone work. As far as emotional pain well that energizes me like the energizer bunny i work around the house til the cows come home talk about clean. I like to keep busy when i am hurting like that so i dont have to think.
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• United States
4 Aug 07
If my spouse makes me mad, I can clean the entire house in less than thirty minutes! Sometimes I think he ticks me off just to get the house cleaned! Just kidding. It's our dynamic. Our signs aren't that compatible, but we make it work. You can't just abandon someone just cause they were born under the wrong sun sign, can you?
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I find that I can actually usually get more done when I'm in emotional pain. It gives me something to do to take my mind off of whatever I am feeling. If I dwell on whatever it is, I do tend to get more upset. So I just write or do whatever it is that I need to do to get it over it. Taking my son for a walk or playing outside can also help me. As for physical pain, as long as I'm not throwing up, I can deal with it. I've got an old injury in my shoulder that hurts all the time. My back is also completely out of alignment, so it always hurts, too. You just learn to kind of shut out the pain when it's constant. You learn to get on with life. The only time I really have any trouble dealing with the pain is right after I've done something like carrying a bunch of heavy stuff. Usually a little bit of extra sleep gets me back to normal, though.
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• United States
4 Aug 07
Awhile back I got a back injury and it hurt constantly for three months. Then it went away. And, less than two years ago, I fell in our kitchen and it came back. The pain was terrible and persisted on and off for half a year. I am lucky that it finally went away. Now it's the migraines that are crippling me. When I get a migraine, I run the spectrum of symptoms. I haven't found a medicine that is strong enough to take away the pain.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
4 Aug 07
Hello beautyqueen26, sorry to hear about your pain, I have got three advices for you.First of all if you have a chronic toothache problem then you must consult a dentist, as the pain can radiate along with the nerves and you can have headache or migrane, so it is better to consult a doctor at the earliest than getting suffered from physical pain.Secondly, try to avoid painkillers like the brand name you have mentioned, gotlot of bad sideeffects and can damage your heart as well as other organs,consult a doctor immediately,and finally regarding your emotional pain or restless brain discomfort try some deep breathing excercises,you can take shower if cold water suits your constitution,it may help you to reduce your restlessness, and you also may need a short course of antidepressant medicines and you will be fine in very short time.
• United States
4 Aug 07
Hi humbleme! Thanks for the advice on the migraines. Yes, my teeth have bothered me in the past. And, perhaps that is the root of my new headache issue. Cause the headaches didn't start till just awhile back. I will look into that. Thanks again. Please feel free to drop by anytime. You have great ideas! Be well.
@mummymo (23709)
4 Aug 07
Yes! A few years back my depression reached the lowest point ever - so bad I could not walk or talk properly - never mind doing anything else! I haven't been able to work for months now due to my back problems and it does get me down even when I try to stay positive! Pain is not just a physical thing and it stops your brain from working effectively so most people would find that they couldn't do as much when they were in any kind of pain - or at least that is my opinion! xx
• United States
4 Aug 07
As a child of God I must remind you that without the valleys there would be no mountains NOR would they seem SOOO wonderful when we got to the top. Physically when you hurt remember that when you feel pain you KNOW you are healing. There is something really wrong and the body hurts because it's performing the functions it needs to in order to restore us back to healthy. Emotionally, that's a little tougher. We HAVE to be mentally disciplined and CONTROL what our bodies and spirits are USED to doing as a response. To CHANGE this we must literally go through a DE-programming of what we are used to and learn to appreciate ALL of our states as each one is for a purpose and a road to get to the next, BETTER place! May God bless you.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
I could actually understand how you feel. I get this way when I'm in an emotional distress. I can't do anything but think about it. I am not productive when I feel emotionally down ~ when I fight with my partner, if someone is sick in the family, or if I have other concerns emotionally. Plus, no matter what I do, I can't really do anything about it but sleep. I sleep the whole day if possible. I do this because if I don't I only end up quarreling someone or doing something with bad results in the end. I think whenever that happens, we can't do anything but rest it out. But if it goes for 1 week, then it's high time for us to force ourselves to be productive. But I think it's important that we try to baby ourselves just for a day (I don't think that'd hurt, if you really force yourself to go out and work, maybe that may cause you to be fired.) *LOL* I think that's normal. Anyone who can't feel any pressure or depression isn't normal. The most important thing is that we try to do our best to deal with it. =)
@DanaMark (807)
• United States
4 Aug 07
Yes, I find that physical or emotional pain can be very debilitating. Our minds just don't work the same and it affects our bodies as well. Suddenly they don't want to do anything either. I've also noticed how physical pain can go away temporarily when the mind is occupied. When I'm playing tennis, for example, my feet sometimes start getting a blister, especially with new shoes. As I'm walking back to serve, it hurts so bad. Then I hit the ball and get involved in the point. As I walk back to get ready for the next point, I notice my foot hurts again. I didn't notice it at all during the point, just between points. Interesting.
@Bobbz21 (155)
• New Zealand
4 Aug 07
I am going through this at the moment, I have a bad toothache and I just dont want to talk to anyone just type, as Im trying to keep my mind of the pain... I find that I seem to work better when Im in pain where it dulls out the pain, I don't like taking any pain killers, I would rather go through the pain until I can do something about it.....
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
4 Aug 07
My teeth have chipped away due to a iron deficiancy and my teeth hurt most all the time but some times are worse then others. One time my wisdom teeth came down infected and when they started hurting I was at work. and of course I couldn't get any one else to come cover my shift. I thought I was going to die before the end of my shift but I had to keep going whether I liked it or not. But I was making alot of mistakes that day because I could not concentrate.
@ayris77 (1304)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 07
So do i. I will easy to get angry when i'm in pain! Dangerous in pain!
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
3 Aug 07
often times it is better to stop doing what you are doing because of pain or arguments etc then go back later to do what you were doing i understand what you are saying i have fibromyalgia chronic pain i make myself do what i have to do i can no longer hold down a steady job i am on disability but i try to do something each day as i can inspite of my constant aches and chronic pain
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
3 Aug 07
it goes without saying. when you are in pain you are in panic .no words of comfort soothes you nor does solace from friendly quarters acts as relief ..it's pain all the way and you just have to bear all by yourself.