I broke up with him, is it right?

@chique (136)
Philippines
August 4, 2007 2:39am CST
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I made a very hard decision. But I did it. Yesterday i proved that he wasn't yet recovered from his EX and he's not proud of me after the 18 long months that we are together. *sigh* He can't even fight for me to his friends and family unlike his EX. I was so dumb to believe all those lies!.
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28 responses
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
That's just sad. He might have used you to patch up the gap he felt from his breakup. This is a really difficult decision but I'm glad you were able to do it while it's still early. I don't think you'll ever be happy in such a relationship. You'll find someone better, more deserving -- you'll see. Just open your heart and go out a lot so you will not feel the pain so much. Live your life and leave him behind.
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@wasons (302)
• China
5 Aug 07
At first,i am so sorry to hear that,and i think your choice about broke up is rigth!if he loved you,he wonld not even fight for you,he would regret to do that in the future,so you needn't feel so sad about your boyfriend any longer,forget it,forget him,and you will find the world is wonderful and your life will become wonderful too! good day!
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
if you have proved to yourself that he isnt totally over with his ex, then you made a right decision when breaking up with him. it only means one thing and it's very clear that he doesnt love you that much..it only shows that he's using you to get over with his ex-girlfriend or maybe to show her "ex" and to all the people surrounds him that he can easily get over this girl by means of "you"...but the sad part of that is you're the one who suffers...you should be happy that he's now out if your life, youre free from him. all i can say now is try to move on little by little and who knows as time goes by you'll meet the man who tuly deserves you love, unlike that "piggy a_ _ hole" who cares only for himself, he's selfish!! that's the right word for him and don't think he's a lost..you've made a right decision girl! just pray that God will help you to cope with the heartaches you're feeling inside..He's the only one who can help you...
@wackwy (95)
5 Aug 07
If you don't feel loved anymore, then you really made the right decision. There's no point in staying in a relationship that is not mutually nurtured. Also, if he goes into another relationship, his present GF would be the one complaining that he has not gotten over you yet... Good luck! Hope you find your true love soon.
@wasons (302)
• China
5 Aug 07
I am sorry to hear that first,and i think your choice is right,don't feel so sad like this,it will all right as long as the time going on. one day he would find he has lost the important thing, a girlfriend like you. Don't cry any more about him,you will live happier other days, Good days!
@jhanna (334)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
Hi chique! Bravo! Absolutely you did the right thing. Man like him don't deserve your attention. I mean, you would be making a fool of yourself if you're going to cling to him just because you love him but he does not love you after all. You're still young, you have all the time in the world to meet other guys that would love you back. Good luck.
@ayris77 (1301)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 07
Just try to forget all about your sad relationship anymore! It will getting hard to forget if you still want to remember all that things! Just walk infront confidently,no need to look back anymore! Come on,you can do it chique!
• India
4 Aug 07
I feel you are wrong with it!.Why not think about him from his side.May be he's a changed person,he transformed with his brake-up!. Moreover,what if he doesn't fight for you when he has true tonnes of love for you!.If you love him and he loves you,that's enough for you to live happily!.Try to meet him and bring back things to normal!.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
5 Aug 07
chique,now you may feel painful after ending a relationship with him,but I think you're right.You needn't to keep a relationship with a man who cannot give equal love to you as your giving.I believe you will find your Mr.Right!Hope you can feel better now.
@CopyPaper (228)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
There you go girl, it is the best thing. Not only you but also from your boyfriend. He needs to cope-up and medidate so he realize what's wrong with his life :) Well, what matters most is that you lived like a bird and you freely fly from burdens/worries. Things migh complicate more if you don't broke-up with him.
@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
5 Aug 07
If he still wasn't over his ex, after 18 months, then he's probably going to hold onto the hope of getting her back forever. You probably did the right thing, by breaking up with him. You need to find someone that will only want you. Don't waste your life living in someone else's shadow, if you want to be happy. I have been in an unhappy marriage, for almost 33 years. Not for that reason, but my husband has never appresiated me, or anything that I do. He just expects me to give, while he takes. You're too pretty to be second best. Take care.
• Canada
5 Aug 07
Well, its NEVER an easy decision. We always look back after we have made such decisions, and wonder to ourselves, was that REALLY the right thing to do. But it seems to me, this has been playing on your mind for quite some time now. If he can't defend you to family and friends, there is a DEFINATE issue there. Being hung up on an EX that long states that he has issues there. If he was dumped by her, he initially goes out trying to find something to fill that empty void where she used to be. alot of the time, people on the rebound like that, don't even realize that they are rebounding. Something tells me that if you didn't initiate the breakup, the end wasn't very far away anyway....I mean really 3's a crowd...(lol, unless you like that kinda thing.....lol) all kidding aside....you can't be in a relationship with someone, who obviusly doesn't recipricate your feelings. I say good move!
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
i know ur feeling right now and i hope ur doing ok.we have the same situation.i broke up my bf too yesterday and it just because of a stupid lampshade.. i know it is too cheap that we got a fight over that lampshade but i know that it is more than that,we have this ongoing problem about his immaturity.that i have to extent my patience just because of the main reason that i love him.we are together for almost 7 yrs and im so said that we have to end our relationship this way..well im still hoping that we can fix things up..
@Kalaniao (14)
• United States
4 Aug 07
Yes. I've been through the same thing. I was with a guy off and on for two years. Those whole two years I thought he was over his ex but really wasn't. I thought he wanted to marry me and all that good stuff. Well he ended up leaving and that was that. I felt so miserable, dumb, used and everything else. I am just thankful that I found out and didn't get stuck spending the rest of my life with him. Guess what, a real man came along for me shortly after. :-)
@ayris77 (1301)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 07
I'm sad to hear that! But i salute you because you can make that hard dicision!Not many persons can make as you! You're too strong t make that decision! For me,that decision is come from your deeply heart! So,why do you still think about it now? Life Must Goes On!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
It's sad that some people tend to get a new partner just to help them recover from a previous relationship. I think that's absolutely unfair for the new partner. I think you made the right decision.
@dexsha28 (73)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
he don't deserve your love actually.he is not just the only man in this world! u can still find man more than him so move on! better man comes along your way now.
@opysno (98)
• China
4 Aug 07
I think what you have done is right. Love is that both of you and your boyfriend feel very happy when you stay together.And his heart is full of you and his mind don't have another girl. if he can't fight for you to his friends and family unlike his EX,it prove he think you are not the best important in his life.it's not love.the earlier you give up,the less hurt you will have.
• United States
4 Aug 07
I'll tell you what I told MY 22 yr old - there is only ONE of you in the whole world; attributes that only YOU have; there is NO competition since there's only one. When you find the RIGHT one he will love you as you are; support you in all you do; and compromise for the differences. Learn to love yourself- BY yourself and all else will simply be an added extra; not a mandatory need to exist. When you are FIRST you lose the FIST.
@miss_li (10)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
woah! you stayed with him for 18 freakin' months? It's a good thing that you finally decided to end it with him because it really seems like it's going nowhere except that you're just gonna get hurt if you stayed together with him. I think you made the right decision. If you don't mind me asking.. How did he react when you broke up with him?