Are you more afraid of dying or of what leads up to dying?

@wotfpatty (2068)
United States
August 4, 2007 4:20am CST
I have thought about this since my dad died last year. Naturally I don't want to die. But I think I am more afraid of what I will go through before I die. Will it be long and torturous? Fast and no time to say goodbye? Once I am gone, I am hoping there will be something better or at least peace. But I am afraid of that day that I am told that I am going to die or the day that I see that it's my last one. I got into a very serious car accident and, while we were rolling over, everything was very slow. I knew what was happening and was fully aware that I was going to die. I didn't. Obviously. But now I know what that is like. Yikes. Anyway, which frightens you more? Death or how you will die? I know this is sort of morbid, but I am truly interested in what you have to say.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
4 Aug 07
I am not afraid to die, although I do not want to be in any pain. I do believe that is my greatest fear..I used to be afraid to die but as I have gotten older I now am at peace with knowing I am going to die, no matter what, but it is the pain I don't want. Although today with medicine, I think if I am terminally ill that they have pain meds to help ease it all. I am sorry to hear about your dad.
• United States
5 Aug 07
I think I am more afriad of what leads up to dying. I think it is because I don't know when, where, or how I am going to die and that is what makes it so scary. It is basically the unknown part of it that scares me.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I agree. I can deal with anything if I know what's coming. I don't like the scary unknown either.
• Malaysia
4 Aug 07
Hi, My dear WOTFPATTY; Soory to hear your father has passed away and the accident that has happened to yourself. God blessed you...and you are still here today. OK come back to your questions on DIE. To me it's frighten or not, surely one day we all are going to die...no prove sor far people don't die. What makes me not frighten about going to die because it is only a transition of life. Just like we move from one place to an another place. And one more thing is we cannot predict of how we are going to die and when it going to be....unless we can obviously see/watch our happening to it, just like we watch movies. So the mood of frightening does not comes deeply into myself.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I really hope we are just in one phase of many phases and we will pass to something else when we leave here. That's comforting to think about. You have a great attitude. Thanks!
• Indonesia
4 Aug 07
I agree with you. i was also wondering if i am going to die i hope it wont be long and torturous. I've always wanted to die in peace. But what will happen I dont know so I'd rather not hinking about that and just make my life goes on..
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
5 Aug 07
You're right. Thinking about things we can't control doesn't really do us any good. We should live while we can and get the most out of every day!
@Buggheart (446)
• United States
5 Aug 07
Oh definitely what leads up to it. I've seen so many friends and family and just people I see on the news suffering from cancer and organ failure and the treatments that make them even sicker and it worries me. I'm such a big wuss that I freak out if I have to get a shot or have blood taken. If I ever had to have emergency surgery or something the doc would have to just klunk me over the head and do it right then and there. I think I'd go crazy if I knew it was coming and I'd have a week to think about it. I don't like medical things happening to me. I'm not afraid to die, just about all the awful things leading up to it.
@Se7enth (170)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I 'm not afraid to die as much as the way I go. The most important thing is to let the people you know just how much you love them before that time comes. You see, I have always looked at it as you start dying the day you are born. Nothing can stop it and even if you exercise, eat right, say your prayer and take you vitimins, you never know when the brakes are going to fail or the punk trying to make a stand pops you. I try not to worry about what I have no control over and worry more about how I will be thought of when I'm gone. 7
@magikrose (5425)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I feel the same way you do. I fear getting a fatal disease and being in pain up untill the moment that my body gives out and I dont want to be in pain or be stuck to a bed. That just woulendt be good for me at all.