who is responsible for better developement of child ftaher or mother

@CEN7777 (858)
India
August 4, 2007 7:39am CST
hi, friends,in my view mother is more close to child,she is first teacher of child and so she is resposible for bset development of child as a human being,what do u think?
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• Nigeria
3 Nov 07
i think i totally agree with you. the mother is more patient and considerate with the child probably because she had the child for Nine months in her womb.
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@CEN7777 (858)
• India
3 Nov 07
Hi cossyluv ,I think we are like minded. thanks for your valuable response
@shy_gal (235)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 07
Hi, I think the development of child are both of the father and mother's responsible. It should not say that mother has to pay more responsible although the child is more close to them. Father also need help their wife to develope their child, don't always scold mother if the child is not behave in a good manner. Besides that, their relationship also can be improve if together develope of their child.
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@CEN7777 (858)
• India
3 Nov 07
Hi shy_gal,you have apoint. its a nice response thanks.
@lkbooi (16104)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 07
I agree with you CEN, mother is the one who is responsible for better development of a child. You know, a mother spends almost all of her time to take good care of the child since he was born till he grown up. In this way the mother has always the greater influence over the child development.
@CEN7777 (858)
• India
3 Nov 07
Thanks lkbooi, for your sweet response.
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@limcyjain (3523)
• India
28 Sep 07
Agreed that the child is more close to their mother so she is the first teacher but in no way i agree that it is the responsibility of the mother alone. I have two daughters and we share the responsibility. Infact even the subjects which we teach our children are distributed and we see that they excel in all. We share daily responsibilities too and see that all is provided to them but not by one rather it is a combined effort by both of us and this also gives a feeling to the child that both parents love us equally.
@CEN7777 (858)
• India
3 Nov 07
Thanks limcyjain for agreeing my view and responding my disscussion
@nkhanna (926)
• India
21 Dec 07
well i think its both the parents who are responsible for the best development of the child as it the child learns from both.however since the child is more attached to the mother ,she is considred to be her first teacher and its she teaches most of the humanity things to her kids.however recent surveys says that if a kid is being taught by his father,his chance of getting success in life is more than if the kids is being taught by the mother.i think both are equally responsible for the best development of child.
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@Ohara_1983 (4124)
• Kuwait
18 Dec 07
for me is both, we cannot say who's the good developer for our child except thier parent, even in social life parent must be there to guide them.
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
i think its both.they made the child together.they have to raise it together.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
3 Nov 07
Both are equally responsible. Mother's love is unconditional and she will overlook her child's mistakes, but father's love is based on reason. So the unconditional and reasoning love will create a balance in the child. But nothing comes easy and parenting is also not an easy job either. Mother nurtures the child with love, while father helps the child develop wisdom and discipline and also the strict conditioning of the male parent will make the child beware of not taking the wrong path. But as I've already said, both have an equal role to play.
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
3 Nov 07
I suppose I'm old fashioned as I gave up my career to raise my children. So I believe that while the father is also responsible, the mother has a bigger role in the development of the children. I'm blessed with three teenage sons who are all respectful, kind-hearted and excellent students. I like to believe that it has a lot to do with the time I've put into their upbringing. Good topis.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
While it is true that mothers tnd to be more close to the child. Responsibility of parents to educate and develot the child is both ways. A child to be healthy needs a set of parents a father and a mother. So fathers, please be aware of your responsibility as fathers. You can deligate your authority but not your responsibility to the mother.
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@vinzen (1001)
• India
6 Aug 07
Hi, yes you are right but partially i feel. Of course its the mother who is the first teacher and she knows her child best, better than even the father at first, but there are a few exceptions, as those fathers who want to know their children more, need just to be with them for alonger period of time i think. And as far as the raising of the kids goes and their development, botht the parents have to have equal participation in their bringing up. Why should the poor mother be left alone to take care of the kids.? Agreed that maybe if shes sitting at home all day, shes more time than the fathers, but does this alone pardon the fathers role? He has to also take out time and devote and learn to bring up the child, isnt the child his also? Doesnt he have a part to play in his development other than just providing money for the child? i think parents need to think about thi and take up theor roles seriously.
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• India
5 Aug 07
Hi Mahesh! Every Individual in the childs life including mother, father, relatives,friends or the society in general play a role in the development and grooming of the child. But I fully agree with you that the mother plays the most vital role in the childs life because of her close involvement with the child than any other individual. A mother is also the truth/reality whereas the father or any other relation is just a belief.
• China
21 Dec 07
hi ,cen7777,on my opinion,it is complicated .in a family.the mother's role is different to the father.they both have their respective responsiblity.the family is just like a house.father is the door,he can protect the family mother is like the floor.she did every housework.the kids just like the furniture.without our parents ,we are nothing.
• India
21 Dec 07
hey buddy well ur thinking is right but in some cases fathers are also close to there childrens.so, might be they should do some good development of the child.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
21 Dec 07
i think both play a very important role, while the mothers r the first teachers and closest to the child, it is essential to have a male role model in their life. my kids would be outta control if it weren't for my hubby! what can i say i'm a softy! lol
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
I actually believe that both are responsible. Indeed, mother is the the first teacher and should teach their children well but I believe that the father should be one to discipline their children. I grew up having both my parents and I cannot imagine how my life would be without either of them.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
18 Dec 07
Hi, I do know both are needed. But as per your question who is responsible for better development as a father of a child I would like to say it is father only father is responsible for better development. It is father ability to control his wife the mother of child and his childerns. If the father is well behaved and well mannered he could make his wife to well behaved too and also his childern too. Hence I believe it is the father who is responsible most.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
8 Dec 07
Undoubtedly mother is the first teacher of the child. She is responsible for the child's development, mental health and progress. She only spends lot of time with the child in it's prime beginning stage.
• India
8 Dec 07
Hi friend, I think both shd have equal opportunity for developing the child.Ofcourse what u said is right.But in the present world both shd take equal opportunity. What do u say friend,
@prxch_18 (143)
• India
8 Dec 07
ok i am not a parent(i am just 18 ha ha ha), but i have seen my parents nourishing me and my brother.I think children requires love from both of them. For a child love matters not who loves them more and who doesn't. For development, both of them always has something apecial to teach, mother can teach you how to be disciplined and polite and other peace stuff but father can teach you how to be productive to the society. And i think to be successful we need both of them.