Do all things always work out for the best?
August 4, 2007 12:23pm CST
I know that the very idea, that all things could possibly be for the best will be hard for many people to accept. I understand that some people are in situations, that I couldn't possibly imagine. I don't know when this way of thinking first came to me but it was many years ago, when my children were quiet young and there was some serious illness in the family. I think the biggest test for me came, some twenty-five years ago, when a nephew then seventeen years old was in an accident that left him a paraplegic. We were very close so much so, that he was like one of my own children. Now, all those years later I can see that it was indeed for the best. He agrees with me and now believes that there are really no such thing as accidents, but only things that appear that way, until we look at them in a new light. I don't pretend to know why and have no idea what may happen to me today but something tells me that everything happens for a reason, and eventually, we'll understand.
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5 Aug 07
I suffered all forms of abuse for the first 22 years of my life. The results of the mental and emotional abuse, and trauma associated with other abuse lasted for many more years. Can I now say things worked out for the best? Most definitely! In fact, I am thankful for everything that happened, because they contributed to make me what I am today. Do I hold animosity or bad feelings towards those who treated me badly? Most definitely not. I feel pity for them. They have lived dreadfully unhappy lives. I thoroughly enjoy my life. I believe we often wonder "why?" when things are actually happening, but in hindsight we can see the answer and be thankful.
4 Aug 07
Oh most definately yes my friend. I believe in karma - there is a pattern to this life, and everything happens for a reason. For example, I lost my beloved Mother when I was very young. At the tine I was devastated, and couldn't understand why I had lost her when none of my friends had, and it was at a time when a young girl needs her Mother the most. But ow I am older (a lot older than she ever was, bless her), I realise that it was her loss that made me the strong and independant woman that I am today, and I am grateful to her for that. I am sorry for your nephew's accident, but, as you say, - if even he has accepted it now, I am sure that happened for a reason too.
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 Aug 07
This is a hard one for me, because of some of the situations I have been in, in my own life. Essentially hte first 18 years or so of my life were a miserable time full of torture and abuse. So thinking that everything turns out for the best is hard for me... and yet... Already there have been situations where I have been able to help someone else that I wouldn't had been able to if I didn't have that background. And once I saved someone's life at a shelter that I wouldn't have been at had it not been for the situation I was in. So I have to say that ultimately it must work out for the best... even if that's very hard to see at times. The problem with that theory for me is that in situations like mine where I was a victim of people who were actually doing wrong... does the fact that everything worked out for the best in the end excuse the wrong that was done? Had I not been through the abuse that I did, I wouldn't be the person I am today, but I'm still not going to thank those who abused me for that. That's the part of the equation I still have to figure out... if everything turns out the way it is supposed to, then where does personal responsiblity for your actions come in? And that's important to me, not just in terms of others but also ME taking responsibility for my own actions.