What's the meanest thing your ex said to you while you were together?

United States
August 5, 2007 5:18pm CST
One of my friends told me awhile back that her ex accused her of infidelity and used it as a reason to run off with another woman. Of course, that is the extreme when it comes to dirty deeds and I think he was just looking for an easy way out. Because of course, it's so easy to make allegations and so hard to defend against them. I can't imagine that my spouse would ever accuse me of such a thing. But, then again, no woman or man ever sees that one before it happens. So, I was wondering, what's the meanest thing your ex-spouse or ex-husband/ex-wife said to you while you were still together? Did they start making wild allegations, just so you would let them out of the relationship?
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@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
6 Aug 07
My ex told me when he found out I’d had enough and was moving on (just a boyfriend and we were in college) that he would kill himself and it would be on my hands- I stayed for a while- until finally I got smart and could not stand it any longer- and said- ok- I’m sorry- haven’t seen him in years-
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
that i was ugly and that it embarrased him . . i was hurt when he tried to hold it i was chubby back then and it was a few years from now .. he kept it a secret from me, no wonder there was a time he didn't want me to hang with his friends. i admit i got hurt and i struggled quite a bit in order to bring me back up to my feet again.
• Indonesia
6 Aug 07
when he said that i'm too concern about my family, he said that i care too much for my dad (who's at that time being very ill) and my brother (which at that time was so upset becoz he just get fired), and said things like 'u don't care abount me anymore'.. we going through that about 2weeks and he finally ask me 'to take a little break' well, guess what, my family is more important to me so, we break up
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
6 Aug 07
I really can't tell you the meanest things my ex said to me or your discussion would get deleted here and I'd have to feel guilty and appologize to you. One thing that comes to mind is the time he looked at my oldest daughter from a previous marriage and said,"how does it feel to know you have a mother that is nothing but a slt?" I had done nothing to justify his saying that...he was looking to have an excuse to storm out and do whatever it was he did. ugh...I don;t even want to think any deeper than this. If you have a decent man who doesn't degrade you and treats you with respect....cherish him!
@breepeace (3028)
• Canada
6 Aug 07
My ex said and did a lot of really nasty, cruel things to me near the end of our relationship, but the one that stands out was the night I busted him at another woman's house after his ex wife and I hacked into his email to find out where he had disappeared to with their kids. They'd been missing for over 24 hours. She and I pulled up in front of the townhouse and saw him kissing some blonde girl in the kitchen. We both walked up the steps together and rang the doorbell and when he came to the door he looked at us and said, "What the F*** are YOU TWO doing together?". When his ex wife asked for the kids, he told her they were sleeping and completely ignored me standing there. I finally piped up among the arguing and asked him what he thought he was doing. He still ignored me glaring at his ex, so I screamed, "What the F*** do you think you're doing???". He looked at me like I was a bug on his windshield and said, "You're not stupid, what does it look like I'm doing?". I stared at him blankly until he says, "Well, maybe you are. I'm here to get away from you. I'm sleeping with another woman. Surprised?" I don't even remember what I said or did after that, just that his ex wife allowed him to keep the kids there because it was so late, we went and got drunk together and at 3 am I called my ex boyfriend who was a close friend (and is now my current boyfriend again, and NOT getting away this time) crying and needing a shoulder to cry on. The sweet man drove down here after he heard what happened just to let me cry and talk and then stuck around all the next day with me in case the @sshole boyfriend showed up wanting to make trouble.
• Indonesia
6 Aug 07
well i think the meanest thing was not just what he said but also what he did. When we're still together at the same time he just walked together with other girl in front of our friends and said that they're already together now. While that girl knows for sure that this guy is my boyfriend and she herself already had a boyfriend. what do you guys think about that? i cannot do anything but dumped him for sure and no explanation to be given. He did that to me because when he and this girl go for a climbing, they spent much time together. well..what can i say? he only said "please apologize my mistake but i already made a commitment with her that i will always there for her because she needs me a lot". nothing can be done but dumped him and forget all about him.
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Aug 07
Personally I have never been there. To a point I can understand that if both partners are doing it, at least one of them may make it an arguement to point out that if you think it's ok for you to be doing this to me, then it has to be ok for me to do this to you. If however, one person makes that arguement, and accuses the other person of cheating on them, when in fact that is not the case ... I really don't know what to say there, except, I might have retorted, "In the first place, I have never cheated on you and in the second place if you really think I was cheating on you why didn't you just up and leave one time? Why did you wait around and decide to put both of us through this and make it worse?" On another note, I do remember one time I was in a relationship where the guy (to me) was sending signals that he wanted out. I let him out, but only after I'd had it out with him & told him what I thought of him. It was awhile ago, but this guy I was dating, & he one day just started blanking our dates. He kept making promises and apologising for everything, but he never kept any of his promises. I don't think I was asking too much, because I was only asking to see him on weekends (when he wasn't supposed to be working, etc.). He kept making promises to make time for me & never did. It was kinda like he wanted to be with me but, at the same time, didn't. The relationship suffered because of that.