Post 30 and never married

Atlantic City, New Jersey
August 5, 2007 6:40pm CST
Any of you mylotters out there past 30 and never married? I am and I find that some of my friends and collegues find it strange- like something is wrong with me. My only response is men are like children- and I decided not to have them a long time ago (smile). I was wondering how many women mylotters are past 30 and never married? And what do you think of the overall situation?
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
5 Aug 07
I am way too independent to have a man in my life I am afraid, I don't think many men would be able to handle my independents, I love men don't get wrong but not on a permanent basis, there was only one man I would have given up my independence for but he passed away so I feel he could never be replaced so why bother even trying to, so I pefer to to just have good friends rather than husband, yes and you are right people think there is something wrong with you at times, they say these things but a few of my married friends have at times told me how lucky I am and how smart I was never getting married, this is usually when they are fighting. It is becoming rather common place for women not wanting to get married.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
5 Aug 07
I too am very independant- and have still to find a man who truly appreciates me for it. I have learned to say heck with it, I am happy as is, man or no man- it won't make me or break me ;)
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Aug 07
well the way I look at it is the woman has to change her life the most in a marriage, gives up her name, sometimes as I have seen sometimes has to give up friends and to the extreme family, has to have the babies and usually go whatever way her husband wants...Good friends of the male kind are the best and keep your control unless of course you are the real maternal type and want lots of babies...
• United States
5 Aug 07
I haven't been there but more power to you. You are exactly right men are like children (the one I found anyway.) Maybe if it wasn't so drilled into us as children that we have to marry and have children, carry on the name ect. we would be better off. Maybe there would be more marriages that lasted and not end in divorce. You were born into this world alone why is it we have to have a partner before we die? Live life the way you are comfortable. As long as you are happy is all that matters.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
5 Aug 07
My sentiments exactly!!! Why should I have to live by what most would call the "norm". I am very content living alone with my dog and dating now and then. I answer to no one but myself and I found out the hard way that I like it better this way ;) I guess to most it was very much instilled in them- but me- I was raised by a single mother that taught my to depend on no one, and most men I get serious with end up having a huge problem with that. =)
• United States
6 Aug 07
I think that was very smart of your mother. Alot of women depend on a man for everything and when something happens and it gets taken away they are lost and don't have a clue on what to do or how to live without one.
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
I'm about to turn 30 first quarter next year and I am still single and never married. I do have a boyfriend and we talked about getting married by the end of this year, but now I am not so sure. My parents are urging me to get married, saying what in the world am I still waiting for? But, I really don't know. If it's going to happen it will happen. No use rushing things, right?
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
5 Aug 07
Definelty DO NOT rush into marriage! Make sure you AND your partner are completley ready to take on the responsiblity of each other. I know personally I am only able at this time to do for me so I wouldn't think of getting married.