How do you "express" your love?

@miamilady (4924)
United States
August 6, 2007 10:15am CST
How do you show your loved ones that you love them? Besides telling them...How do you "show" them that you love them? How would you want someone to show their love for you? I think it's important to tell people you love them, but sometimes actions speak louder than words... Showing them is important too.
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22 responses
@gberlin (3836)
6 Aug 07
I do random acts of kindness like doing the dishes or laundry for my wife. Feeding my daughter's cats or cleaning out the kitty litter. All these without being asked.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
7 Aug 07
you a re a good person and you are right little things mean alot!
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• Romania
7 Aug 07
In my short life til now( i'm very young), I came to understand many wise thing about love and marriage. In my opinion love is unconditioned, it doesn't ask for anything in return,it's not selfish, gaves the best of one person too their wife/ husband etc. If you speak the truth about you actions I pesoonlly envie you lucky wife! Be proud of your love and never believe that if a man helps their life partener it's a thing to be shamed of! Because it isn't!
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@gberlin (3836)
7 Aug 07
I speak the truth. I enjoy doing things for others especially family and close friends. It helps them but it also helps me because it gives me a good feeling inside knowing that I am helping someone.
• Kottayam, India
6 Aug 07
Kissing is more effective.
• United States
7 Aug 07
Kissing is more effective but , u cant kiss a person at the first sight so u need to show them that u love tht person first.
• Romania
7 Aug 07
I agree to your statement till one point. Kissing is more effective in the early steps in one's relationship! Personally when I first meet a guy I wonder if he's a good kisser( because I find it esential in a relation). Afterwards I try to find out more about him( his goals in life , the way he thinks , how he acts as a boyfriend etc.). And you can be sure that for a long term relationship a good kisser isn't the only thing a person wan't . Other qualities are requiered!
• Kottayam, India
7 Aug 07
Love=kiss,if love is there everything else is will flew in to the thin air.
@coolcrux1 (141)
• India
8 Aug 07
Till date I have not found my love so I have not faced this condition that how would I do it?
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
8 Aug 07
You don't have to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to express love. It's a different kind of love, but you can show your parents, siblings and friends that you love and appreciate them. Say "I love you", do small favors for them, listen to them when they need to talk, give them a hug or a kiss on the cheek. If you can afford a small,thoughtful gift to show that you were thinking of them. These are some of the ways you can show someone that you love and appreciate them.
• India
9 Aug 07
Well I am agreed but not totally. Well is it neccesary to express and show to your near and dear once while speaking that we love them. It can be difficult to those people who are not very extrovert and cnat express their feeling proper. I think if a person loves to someone then his or her attitude says anything. I might undrestand that sometime we should show what we feels to show that how much we are caring to them. But really is it neccassary to say in words.
7 Aug 07
Hi there, I tell my husband i love him all the time and what ever he wants he gets it a bit spoiled i think i would not mine but he never buys me anythink how unfair is that?
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I think both parties should take the time to show the other they love them. Maybe he is trying to show you in a way that you don't realize? Or perhaps he doesn't think it's necessary. Take care.
@naem86 (123)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 07
Well I'm a quality time/acts of service woman. That's how I interpret love. However, I have had to learn words of affirmation/physical touch to express love to my husband. It has not been easy. I've NEVER been touchy feelie, even as a child I was physically standoffish. So, getting up to hug and kiss him when he comes home from work has been a trial. Worth it! but difficult. I'm good with words of affirmation....that came much more easily. He's been very good with quality time . But acts of service is a little more dodgy. He's working on it. I'm happy with that. ps: feel free to visit my blog http://electric-scooterinfo.blogspot.com
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Did you read the book "Languages of Love" or is the "The Five languages of Love"? From your choice of words, it seems that you have. Thanks for your response. I think it is imporant to work on what makes the other person feel loved even if it isn't something that comes naturally to us at first. Congrats on your accomplisments.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I'm a great cook, and I love to cook for the people I love, miami. I think that putting your love into a meal is a perfect way to express it. I also buy them little gifts from time to time. I just want my loved ones to show that they appreciate me; maybe cook me a nice meal every once in a while. I don't worry about receiving gifts so much anymore. It's all about the love.
• China
7 Aug 07
you must be very happy. Good food full of love must appeal to most people,no matter men or women. I like delicious food ,too....
• United States
6 Aug 07
I think saying I love you is important, but really actions are way more important to me than words. I show my husband I love him by helping him, listening to him, asking how his day was, putting something special in his lunch box sometimes, baking his favorite cookies even when I'm sick and tired of making only chocolate chip, keeping our house clean, doing his laundry, etc. He shows his love for me by helping me when I ask, listening and not trying to solve all my problems, doing dishes occassionaly (I hate doing them), taking me out to supper once in awhile, etc. Someone can easily say "I love you" but you only truely know it by their actions.
• Malaysia
7 Aug 07
hey miamilady,kristys_red_barn!I think I like showing it more than saying it.I've been dating this guy I know for almost a year now but I've never told him I love him but I really do care for him and I'd like him to know I'd do anything to help him.I like holding hands and kissing him.I like hugging him from the back when he's reading something,he likes it I know!lol.I'd learn how to cook if he'd ask me to.There's a lot more I'd do!Thanks!
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
24 Aug 07
I like : "actions speak louder than words," I am not good at expressing feelings of a people who care so I did not export, if I want to care about people, I will be manifested in action.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
24 Aug 07
Its usually action. Hugs, kisses and from time to time gifts (either handmade or something special from the stores). I'm also one to gift give on multiple holidays (some that are in other countries but still have meaning to me). And its a wonder I have so many friends going to my good side, eh. ;p Other times, I try to pay attention to things they desire, certain cues and then I try to surprise them on the next holiday, birthday or if they are too far away I'll just pick a day to give them the thing they were pining over earlier. I don't do this for every single object, but from time to time gift-happens. There's also favors (candy treats or movies, etc) and thats usually a random thing. I know most people I give favors to appreciate it.
@dbhattji (2507)
• India
24 Aug 07
Just a look is sufficient, I don't use words much.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
11 Aug 07
Hugging them, trying to make them laugh when they're upset, standing up for them if someone tries to mistreat them. You're right. Anyone can say "I love you" but the words have to be accompanied by your actions.
@ayris77 (1304)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 07
I will show her that i love her by take my responsibility to her and also her family.I'm also will try to take care in everything i'm done infront her!
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
9 Aug 07
I use the both. That make it more reliable, and easier to adjust from others. To show in action is realy my best way. You can make people se that you do love and respect them. This is my job, since I work with people every day. Express love in different ways are a god thing. If someone do not know your langueg or cant hear you saying, the body express are as much important.
@senthil2k (1501)
• India
7 Aug 07
There are lot of ways to show your love to the loved ones. You can get them what they want, you can let them know that you trust them, you can take care of them even before they ask for, you can share their pain and happiness, and last, but not least, you can tell them you love them. :)
• China
7 Aug 07
Iwill give him mich more care,freedom and trust.I will make him happy
@rhys_12 (43)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
By being supportive to any field they have, be always there in time of needs espcially if your loved ones need somebody to listen, talk and ofcourse to make your loved ones laugh in times of depression. Showing your love to your loved ones not only by means of understanding, caring, but also to tell directly if he/she is in wrong directions in life. Never tolerate wrong attitude of your loved ones and discussed it in a nice way that she/he could understand. Showing the real love is being true and sincere to every thing we do for them. And the presence is the most important one.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
by hugging them, and I like to be hugged too. giving of flowers would be another thing to consider and I could also recommend by being there when they are down or sick or lonely.
@anonymili (3138)
7 Aug 07
I always tell my hubby I love him but there are a few things I can do for him which speak louder than words, one of those is to make him a pint of buttermilk, which is basically natural set yoghurt, water and salt with some ice. This is his favourite refreshing drink and he loves that most days he comes home from work and I make him a glass of this and it's guaranteed to bring a smile to his face.
• China
7 Aug 07
Expressing love is necessary to lovers. I like to say "I love you" or "I miss you" to my boyfriend, and he is also very glad to hear such words.He always try his best to meet my needs in my daily life, give a lot of help.I think to show our love, to make our lover know we need them and ask him/her for help when we are in need is also very important.When he is in trouble, I always try to listen to him,support him,and give him some suggestions. When I am free, I will cook some meals for him, even though I'm not good at cooking. But he is happy.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
7 Aug 07
the way to show it is do specail things for them make a specail dinner or put on a dress or just walk up and kiss them for no reason mkae them guess why you do it