Do you KNOCK on your own bedroom door?

I am sorry, but I see no reason to knock before entering OUR bedroom. In my opinion, marriage is union. Marriage is no longer "his" and "hers" or "yours" and "mine". Marriage is togetherness. Marriage is "ours". What could you possibly be doing that you would consider your spouse to be intruding? Nothing! My husband is part of my life, and I am part of his. We share everything.

My husband and I don't exchange knocks. We always kind of have this unspoken agreement thing. He plays video games while I'm on the computer. So the only time we're ever in the room together is if we're watching something on the computer or sleeping or just hanging out. But there has never been a privacy problem. We have our own time and do our own activities. But we'd never do that. But everyone is different and you're entitled to your own privacy rules.

o.k. that's a bit strange, are you mormon?

Neither of us knock to enter the bedroom. It's just as much his as it is mine. I understand your need for privacy sometimes, but I certainly wouldn't call it RUDE that he doesn't knock. He probably doesn't really understand why YOU knock. I think if you want time alone, you should tell him that you want some quiet time, and I'm sure he'll not disturb you. The only time I knock on any door in my home is when my husband is in the bathroom with the door closed. I knock to see if he is just brushing his teeth with it closed or if he's using the potty. I don't walk in on potty use.

Why knock on the bedroom door of you own house? I can see if your in the bathroom or something but seriously now, its the bedroom... Are you afraid of walking in on him doing something naughty or vise versa? Not that i don't agree in privacy of one in a marriage but its the bedroom, the sanctum of the house for you to, knocking denotes courtesy of "permission to enter". Why do you need permission to enter your own bedroom?

it was never an issue to me and my husband, i dont really mind him coming in without even knocking, even in the bathroom, we dont lock the door

My rooms, my house, do not need to knock. If I were sharing with someone then yes, I would knock, but if I am all alone, what is the point?

In all honesty, yes, you are asking too much if you expect your husband to knock on the door of the bedroom that you share. Your idea of sharing and of privacy are a little off, from what you said on your post. I'm not trying to be rude in saying this, but privacy in your bedroom from your husband is just, well, strange. I could understand if you expected privacy in the bathroom, but in your own bedroom to ask your husband to knock on the door is not right. Why on earth would you knock on the door of your own bedroom? That's just weird. Knocking on the door of a room where you don't live, or in the bathroom, a room that demands privacy is one thing, but on your own bedroom door isn't something that you can reasonably expect your husband to do. I would suggest that you maybe talk to a marriage counselor. I'm not saying that you need help in your marriage, or that you even take your husband with you, but that you sit down and talk to them about reasonable boundaries in a marriage and what you can ask of your husband without being unreasonable. Sorry, hope I wasn't too blunt, but you asked.

omg ZenDove..lol..here we go again!! i too go through he same thing..men..i have to wonder do they all read from the same playbook? You are so right when you say WE share the bedroom not his or mine its OURS..and its a form of common courtesy to knock..i knock before opening anydoor in my home..and you are right again about the getting startled part..i remember i had one leg in a pair of jeans and because he just walked in and startled me i of course ended up on the floor because i was balancing to stand one legged off the floor to finish getting dressed..as far as asking too much..in my opinion i shouldnt have to ask for something that is so taught when your a kid as to knock before entering through a closed door..and no ..your not asking too much ..perhaps we are both asking the impossible though..i mean when i say something to my husband about it you would think i grew an extra head or something, just the look i get ..its like" are you serious"..and for the record yes i am very serious..im married yes..but just like everyone is entitled to some privacy..so are married people!for god's sake PLEASE KNOCK BEFORE ENTERING!! its only right!

Hi there. We never have to knock on our own bedroom door, my husband respects my space and I respect his, our room door is always open, we dont hide nothing from each other and therefore we dont feel we need to be kept behind a closed door, to get a little privacy... Personally speaking, to close the door in our house would be like I was hiding something...

I agree. It's rude. Everyone deserves privacy.

We rarely have the door closed. And, we never knock. But, if you want him to knock, I don't think it's too much to ask. Like you said, it's your room too. And, it's not so much an ownership issue as a personal preference. If he respects your feelings, he should knock if that is what you want him to do.

theres noway i'll ever knock on my own door when its not close it really looks silly and awkward and to really be honest with you if aint got notting to hide why would you want your husband to knock on your door lets face the truth whats there to hide since you both own the room.

I think that you'd better lock the door in that case.Respect is a common courtesy as your words,my family merbers will not rush into when one working inside. hehe

I don't knock on the bedroom door or does he. I would prefer he knocked or stayed out of the bathroom while I'm in there. I definitely prefer privacy when using the potty or taking a shower. I have visions of the movie "Psycho" when I hear somebody in the bathroom while I'm in the shower.