Were you popular in school

@Vixx06 (162)
August 7, 2007 8:59am CST
When I went to school I was one of the most popular kids. I was in all the girls sports teams and even in the boys football team. However my oldest daughter is not popular and does not want to be. She is one of the outcasts. She has dyed her strawberry blond hair black and dresses in black as well. She says she is happy but I dont see it. What were you like at school?
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• Philippines
16 Aug 07
I was just the average type of student. I never wanted to be in the limelight but I had my fair share of a few notable achievements and good grades. Until now, I really don't like having all the attention to myself; I actually feel better working in the sidelines, or in the core group, supporting the main people. As for your daughter, well, I guess it will help to remember that she is a different person -- even if she is your child. I think one of the dangers that parents pose on their children, really, is expecting too much of them. For all we know, her being an 'outcast' could be the very trait that can make her 'popular' in an unconventional way. Children always want to be assured that they have their parents' attention; that they are loved, unconditionally. Even if you "don't see" that she's happy, perhaps you can ask her what exactly makes her happy. =)
@Zairo7 (78)
• Canada
10 Aug 07
I was the kid who didn't really pay attention to anything in the hallways. I always either just stared ahead or looked down and almost always went home for lunch. The quiet kid. I thought I was a "ghost" until some friends started pointing out that I had a fan club. I was one of the two hottest asian guys in the school and voted dreamiest, the other (my best friend at the time) was voted the cutest. I was tall and had blonde-streaks in my hair and looked pretty effeminate. Teachers loved me and I never had a problem with grades. I had a great time in high school.
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• Brazil
8 Aug 07
Not that 'WOW so pop...', But a bit yes, not for everyone loving me, but i did many fun things in those times. I personally prefer not being surrounded by lots of people that aren't my real friends and talk of me in my back.
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• Switzerland
7 Aug 07
I dunno really. My friends consider me popular because I am friends with many upperclass men. That's about it, really.
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• China
17 Aug 07
hoho... I like sitting in the quiet classroom and reading my favourite books or learning something ,it's the best preparation for my future success. So, most of my classmates think that I spend all my life in studying ~~.
• United States
16 Aug 07
I was in the popular crowd when I was in grade school up until 7th grade, though I'm not sure why it changed. I was picked on a bit but mostly ignored. Then when I got to high school, which was a catholic all-girls school, things went downhill. I was picked on to the point where my depression went deeper. I use to cry at and after school every day. It wasn't exactly fun and my grades really suffered. Every teenager goes through a phase and kids can be cruel. I think most kids now have their 'dark' stage. I know I went through with it. I was cynical and changed a bit but like I said, its usually a phase. She'll get over it soon enough. If you really feel that it can be something serious, force her to talk. I was that outcast but I was dealing with depression on top of it which made it worse.
• United States
16 Aug 07
I was in the popular crowd during grade school until 7th grade where I'm not sure what happened. From then on I was either ignored or picked on. Then when I went to high school, which was an all-girls catholic school, it went downhill. I was picked on so bad that I hardly went, grades suffered, and I cried every day at and after school. It was just petty stuff but high school girls can be witches.
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
i had been the president of my class and a consistent honor student during high school, i guess i was popular at that time... but things changes in college... i get to study in the city and i could not make to the dean's list, but i was still in the pilot section... still a bit known, but not because i was at honor roll... but because i was the only student with a very long hair, past my waist...
@aletanz (44)
• Italy
8 Aug 07
well...i'm a bit shy...but however i don't want to be popular in my school... because i already know some people and we're good friends...why should a person be popular in the school??
@chevyJ (15)
• Hong Kong
8 Aug 07
I do not popular when I in school. I'm normal. Do everyone else do! But I have many interests when I'm young. What a pity I lost almost all of them now! You can be the kid you want, but keep yourself free!
@zaichn (319)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
I'm not that popular but I do have lots of friends. I'm happy.. I think you should be happy since your daughter is happy as she is telling you. It doesnt really matter for me if my son/daughter is not popular in school as long as she is studying well. Ill be happy
• China
8 Aug 07
no ..i was very obscurity .i was afriad to chat with people .after a month ,i started to play with them .
@youless (85225)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Aug 07
I think popular students means the ones who can make friends easily and have an open character. Therefore many people like them and they become to be popular in the school. I couldn't make friends in a short time. It needs some time for me to build the friendship. Sometimes I think I am a serious person. Although I am nice, but I wasn't popular in school.
@chari_dc (493)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
i went to an exclusive school for girls. i wasn't one of the popular girls back in high school. i had a circle of friends who i go around with but we were the normal kids. the popular ones were those involved in the school band. but we were quite ok with our status. we were never really bothered by being not so popular because we were happy the way we were. now that we're grown ups, my group of friends and i still see each other regularly. our husbands and kids know one another and the friendship is still tight as ever.
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
I was in an exclusive school when I was in High School. At first, I wasn't that popular when I entered 1st year High. They only knew as the cousin of one of the popular in school. But then, When I was in 3rd Year HS suddenly everyone seemed to notice me. If you asked each student enrolled in that school, they know me. This continued when I was already in College. My life was an open book that time. I am happy that other people like my personality but it is also awkward to feel that way. Its as if you life has no confidentiality. Everyone has a different personality. As for me, they liked who I am maybe that is why i am popular.
• Canada
8 Aug 07
I wassn't shy in school and wouldn't have wanted to be either . I was so shy that I did what I could not to be noticed and only those that knew me well ever even heard me speak . I went all through the years not talking to any members of my class and only got along with kids from other classes that I got to know from outside of school . We moved to the area we lived in just before I started school and I feel this was one of the reasons why I never felt comfortable with my class and even over the years I was still never comfortable with them . I found out in my grade 12th year that the other kids in my class had never even tried to get along with me as they always assumed I was just stuck up because I never spoke to any of them . I don't think you have to worry about your daughter she is just trying to be herself and even though she is not doing anything like the way you would have done it does not mean that there is anything wrong . She is just doing her own thing and trying to find her place . It is hard being a teenager and it gets worse each year for children trying to find out who they really are . As long as you support her she will know that you are there for her if she ever needs you .
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
I can't say that I'm popular, neither can I say that I wasn't. I think I was fair because up until now I could still meet people on the streets who know me by name and they said that we were batchmates or schoolmates in school. So I guess I'm normal, average, and nothing that special. *LOL* By the way, I don't think being popular is important. Because most of the 'popular' people I know way back in high school weren't so popular in college, and neither did their lives matter after that. It was the unpopular people who because successful and who's lives became better. So I guess, popularity is nothing compared to the real person within. So don't strive to be popular. Strive to be real ~ people will definitely love you for that. =) Good luck to you! Happy posting!
• United States
8 Aug 07
I was popular for all the worng reasons or weird reasons
• United States
7 Aug 07
Nope, nor did i care to be. I was in nursing school at the age of 15, plus holding down my regents classes. My mother was a single parent who worked two jobs, and I had two siblings that needed me to care for them. I did not have time for what I viewed to be the everyday petty stuff that went with being poplular. I had my close friends, and that was enough for me.
@Buggheart (446)
• United States
7 Aug 07
No, not really. I had plenty of friends and I was a majorette but most of my friends were in the band and just kind of average people. We weren't brains or burnouts but we weren't prom queens or anything. Just kind of average. And I'm fine with that. I was very happy being me in high school.