I need personal advise!

@soleya (1100)
Latvia
August 7, 2007 10:37am CST
Ok, here we go, at the moment I have a dilemma, one side of my heart feels like it is the perfect time to start getting pregnant and have a baby and the other part thinks that it is a great responsibility and maybe it is better to wait a little bit more. What do you think? How to solve this dilemma?
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12 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I say follow your heart. If I were to wait every time I wanted to get pregnant, I would have never had kids. It is a great responsibility. It is an expense that never stops, but it is also unconditional love.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
7 Aug 07
well i would say theres never a right time,i f your in good health,then just let it happen on its own,try not to keep questioning the idea.it is a great respnsibility but its all worth it in the end.so i would just go about your regular days and if if happens on its own thats great.sometimes its better when you dont plan.depends on the person and their situation.i wish you luck,and very nice talking to you.
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
20 Aug 07
Thank you for your response. The main thing is that I am scared to have a babe, don't know why. Maybe because of responsibility.
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 08
If you are in a good physical, financial and emotional position and it's what you really want then that would be great. It is good that you realise it will be a great responsibility and I think that shows you are mature enough to take it on if you do decide it's what you really want.
@Zalvor (727)
• Turkey
26 Mar 08
Have you considered what astrological sign you wish your child to be? Believe it or not, there's a lot of truth in astrological signs if you care to investigate a bit. The fire signs are energetic, passionate, courageous and impulsive whereas the watery signs are very emotional. Maybe you could check the phases of the moon as well. I think it's important that parents know what sign their child is, and its meaning. If you're unsure maybe astrology can help you.
• United States
7 Aug 07
Are you married? If you are, I think anytime would be a good time to have a baby. Some people wait until they finish college or start their career or whatever but if you're not married you definitely should wait until you're married.
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
20 Aug 07
Thank you for your response. Yes, I am married, but still scared to get pregnant.
• Portugal
9 Feb 08
You should follow your heart. Of course it is a great responsability but if you want to have a baby your heart is saying you it is the perfect moment. Depending on age women have more or less difficulties on pregnancy, afer 40 there are some kind of genetic diseases, although some have their careers and leave the desire to be mothers early. Everything we can do a same time, it depends on our choice, but you need to know that a child takes all your free time if you want to be a good mother but it is a great hapiness.
@babbla21 (80)
• India
7 Aug 07
If you are older then 25yrs you should have a baby as soon as possible.(9months) I think medical adviser will also support me.
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
... getting pregnant is a decision that needed a hundred percent total "YES". I believe that it needs good positive attitude..to be able to achieve a healthy pregnancy. I know that it entails a lot of responsibility, needless to mention time and money involve in raising a child nowadays. so, make up your mind and think many many times.. a heaven's gift is easy to achieve if we wanted it with all our heart and mind.
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
11 Aug 07
Do you think you are ready to become a mum? If yes, then you should discuss with your other half to see how he thinks about becoming a father. If both of you think positive, then you should start trying as you are 26 years old now, which is the perfect time to get pregnant as you said.
@kudeshi (529)
• India
8 Aug 07
Hi my friend. Having a baby is a great responsibility. You have to be prepared mentally and financially first. Only then you should take the decision.
@darkjack (199)
• Portugal
7 Aug 07
I am sorry but this is something I dare not interfeer. This should be settled by you both. I do recomend consensus. A child should come out of love and consensus from both people, at least that is my intake on it. Have a nice talk with him, speak open hearted. That is all I will dare and say on this subject.
7 Aug 07
I guess it depends on your situation. If you are in a stable relationship and it is something that you both want and have discussed then let nature take it's course. If your heart is telling you it is a good time then it probably is - that is how I fell pregnant and the rest is history. TBH if you are having this kind of internal dialogue then you come accross as quite mature and ready for the responsibility of parenthood.