a helping hand
August 8, 2007 4:40am CST
I usually help people who really in need and i don't expect any return from them. After my niece graduated in her two year course i invited her to stay with me and help her to find a job. I was happy when she got her job and i know that she really enjoy it. I never demand any contribution from her to all the expenses we have at home instead i handle it with myself. I even provided her all the things she needed though she ha laready her own job.I give all the sopport i could and always be a good example for her. Time has come and she lost her job. and since she only earn two year course it was really hard for her to find a job. She's been jobless for a couple of years and i never complain for those expenses we had. I have realize later on that i have been so stupid helping her for all those years wherein she never appreciate all the efforts i've done for her. My Asthma (Chronic Obstraction Pulmonary Disease) attack and my niece don't even dare to give me some water to drink and even to look for my medicine for a relief. I was really upset and cried by myself. it was so painful for me. One day my Asthma again attacked and my niece immediately handed to me the and i took it. i never realize that medicine was already expired. I went to the office and i feel difficulty on breathing. I thought maybe i was just tired and i decided to go home early. And when i got home i found out that medicine my niece handed to me was already expired. She never checked it or i don't know her intension. There are times that she cooked food and eat it all. She even left our door keysin the door knob for our unit for several times. I don't even expect her to be so bad despite of my considerations, care and love i gave and almost everything like a daughter she received from me. i decide to give her up. why is it that there are people who don't appreciate it despite of all the effort given to them? Despite of her bad attitude i still care for her but in return she never changeD?hOW aBOUt YOu WhAT wILL yOu dO iF YOU dId sO mAnY gOOD THiNgS fOr yOuR nIecE bUT sHE cONTiNUe cOMMiTiNG mIStAKES?
8 Aug 07
Have you ever heard the expression "No good deed goes unpunished"? It is time for your niece to leave. She is tired of being grateful to you and obviously does not care as much about you as you care about her. Tell her the arrangement is no longer working out, help her to find another place and set a date by which she has to be out. You did many good things for her and goodness will come back to you eventually but not necessarily from the same person.
8 Aug 07
Thanks so much for the advice. I decided to bring her to his brother and it seems that she still exactly with the same attitude while she was still with me. Now, we don't know where she is. She never change... She don't even appreciate all the good things that her brother did for her. She left the house and until now we really don't know where she is. It was really hard to look for someone that is not totally at lost.