Children that cry over nothing...

United States
August 8, 2007 10:34am CST
I have 3 daughters but this is about my middle one she is 9...She is a cryer and pouts all the time...And everything I do she has to be right up my butt...I ask her to go somewhere else or go do something all she does is cry...I can't handle the crying.She has been like this since she was born...But you can spill milk and she will cry...Help Me!!!!How can I get her off my hip and to stop crying all the time????? And she thinks she is gonna miss something and always have to watch what I am doing even when I'm on my laptop...She is reading this right now and I have told her to go somewhere else and all she is doing is crying and wont move...I even send her to her room and that makes everything worse....How can I get her to stop???
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@sunshinecup (7871)
8 Aug 07
There could many reasons for this, all of which requires your complete attention. She could be having anxiety, lack of your attention, emotional needs, phobias, and many more other things. You need to talk to her calmly and find out what is wrong, but don't get mad or upset if she can't tell you. Sometimes even we adults have these problems and we can't explain why. If you can't get anywhere with her, take her to a doctor. A doctor might be able to at least rule out if there is anything-physical going on. It could a chemical imbalance causing her to have high adenine that is causing the anxiety for one. I can say the last thing that will help is being pushed away from the one adult she apparently is reaching out to. She is still a child and most likely doesn’t understand why she feels this way. You are going to have to help her Mom, not punish her away. It’s hard being a parent sometimes, Lord do I know, but we are the only ones that can help them. So have patience.
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8 Aug 07
I strongly agree with your idea. Further, if the talk doesn't work, you may ask a psychologist for help.
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• United States
9 Aug 07
I have cousins, nieces, and nephews that do this, and I always tell them that they have nothing to cry over, crying will get them nowhere.
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• United States
9 Aug 07
ohh mann..i know when my son was 3 he was the same way till school and he met more friends..and i just posted this a sec ago and i was signed out for soem reason so im redoing this so if it doubles sorry lol..anywho..i agree with Goddess and marcia they both have great points,,she seems to be one of those kids that are naturaly born clingy..and whine alot..especially having 2 siblings..so maybe extra time just together would help a day..and i think couceling or a therpist is soemthing iwould look into for her..just someone else to talk to..maybe that will help..i wish u lots of luck..take care:)
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
9 Aug 07
I there must be some reason for her crying all the time even at her age of 9 yrs and i think you should talk to her personally and should make her understand what she is doing and how she is different and forbidden back when compared to her sisters and if thgis does not work out then consult any of your family doctor or any psyciatrist. All the best.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
9 Aug 07
This usually happens to the second child. The eldest one is pampered because she is the first born. Then the second one comes and the attention is much less on that child. The third one is the smallest and again gets a lot of attention. The child is just feeling neglected. Put her on your lap and tell her you love her as much as you love the otheres and try giving her some more attention for some time. I too as like that, being the second child. I was not crying but always followed my mum everywhere. This will pass away as soon as she realises that your attention is on her too. Try it out. Maybe it will help. Losing patience with her will make her feel more unloved.
8 Aug 07
I would think at 9 that she is old enough for you to be able to talk to her in a more adult manner. Try to have a calm conversation with her about her behaviour and how it makes you feel. Explain that you find it uncomfortable to have her crowding you all the time and that although you love her you need to be able to do things without her following you around. Suggest an alternative activity for her to do while you are busy - at 9 she should be able to carry out a few simple chores for you so she could still be in the same room. Also I would suggest gently asking why she feels the need toclingto you so much. If she has always been like this then maybe she has anxiety issues. I hope this helps in some way. Feel free to email me if you like as my children were all really clingy and still can be at times. Good Luck!
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• Australia
17 Aug 07
I would suggest that you talk to her and ask her what is wrong and why she does this. If she was my child i would also take her to the Dr's she may have deppression and maybe councelling or medication may help. Sounds as though she is very sad aswell as insecure. Maybe if you took her to councelling that may help, you could even speak to your school psycologist or councellor or teacher and maybe they could offer help or councelling at school.
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