Do you need a Paternity test done to put a baby up for adoption?

@Feona1962 (7527)
United States
August 8, 2007 8:10pm CST
My friends son has signed away his rights, and now the baby is with adoptive parents. He didn't have a paternity test done, to see if he was the father. Does it matter or is it different in other states?..She has contacted lawyers but they say she has no rights to the baby even if she is the grandmother. What are your thoughts?
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
11 Aug 07
That is so sad, I can only imagine how upset she must be. As far as I know, it is up to each state to what their laws are on family members adopting or even fostering children. I know that some states, like here in AL, if the parents are found unfit or give up custody, the state will actually ask the grandparents to foster or adopt the child immediately before the child becomes a ward of the state. I know someone who is now raising her grandson after DHR asked her to pick him up because they had removed him from his home. The state of Texas phoned a lady here in AL I used to work with and asked told her she had to pick up her grandchildren within 72 hours or they would become wards of the state as her daughter had signed away her rights. Now the state of AZ actually has a law where family members cannot foster or adopt children, even if the children's parents are willing. My ex's family had hired lawyers and were not able to get their grandchildren. So yes, I think it varys and I think that's stupid. Children do better with relatives, given that the home is safe and secure then there should be no reason why that child shouldn't be placed with its family.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
14 Aug 07
She is in Arizona, and that is why she is having so much trouble with it. She is so sad because of this. I don't blame her. I know how much I love my grandsons I couldn't even imagine being without them.
• United States
14 Aug 07
That's so sad, I wonder if that's not the only state where it's like that? It's such a stupid law, obviously children benefit from family. Things like that make me so mad!
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
14 Aug 07
I know. It just makes my heart ache to know this is happening to my girlfriend. I am sure she just wants to twist someones eyelids off..lol..I used to live in Arizona, that is how we met. Her son and mine are the same age. This is a very stupid law. Kids don't know how to make those kind of decisions.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Aug 07
That is very hard but the baby needs to have test done for what happens if they need the fathers blood or something if it gets sick and need the father or siblings. If I was adopted aprent I would wan to know for sure just in case as for grand ma I think she needs to talk to parents to work out something with them if she wants to be encluded in babys life but I would make sure I was the grandma
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
9 Aug 07
From what she is telling me the baby looks like the father, but I would still want a test done..some babies do look alike. The grama should know for sure, I agree with you there..She is taking this very hard and I hope they can get it all figured out. It is very important to know just incase there is an illness and such..Thank you..
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Yes I think soi very strongly. A woman accused my son of being the father of her child when child was 12 adn my son said he didnt know this woman at all so had the test came to find out he wasnt the father!
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• United States
9 Aug 07
I believe that only time testing would be required is if there was a disoute over the paternity of the baby. If both parents accept that they are the biological parents, nothing more needs to be done. As for adoption, once they sign away their rights, they are no longal legally affiliated with the child. Is your friend wanting the child? Did her son not inform her of this decision, to give her the opportunity to offer to take the child?
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I don't think he did tell her. I will find out for sure but I think she didn't know and now she wants to see if she can somehow be able to at least see the baby..I have to contact her to get more information..thank you.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I would think that a paternity test needed to be done before he could give the child up. But I'm not sure of the laws on that myself, so I guess I'm not much help here. If I find out anything I'll let you know though. Good luck hon.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
9 Aug 07
That is what I thought. Thank you.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
9 Aug 07
IMO if they're going thru an adoption agency they don't need to worry. I would assume they know the laws and protocol. Is he on the birth certificate? Is there any one else who wants to claim the baby as theirs?
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I don't know as of yet. I don't think so. I am still waiting to hear from my friend..She is hoping she will be able to see the baby..thank you.
@beckish (614)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I have no idea. I imagine it might vary from state to state. I do know some states give grandparents more rights than others. It is too bad your friend's son didn't give his mother the option to adopt the child.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
9 Aug 07
She is very hurt over it. She is hoping to beable to at least see the baby..thank you..