I am getting a Lawyer for my Daughter.

@jennybianca (12914)
Australia
August 9, 2007 12:04am CST
This is the third of my discussion on the nasty incident in my family. This is where my 9 year old step daughter accused my daughter of assault. My step son, aged nearly 14, backed her up in a witness statement. Today I went to the Police & did a witness statement. The Police told me they are going to pursue it, & that my daughter will be cautioned. They told me that I don't need a lawyer for my daughter. Well, I am getting one. I just rang a lawyer with an excellent reputation. I don't intend letting it get to the stage of my daughter being cautioned, asI know the whole incident is false, & set up by a vindictive ex & my step children. They will have to go to Court instead, & try & prove their allegations.
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@celovich (26)
• United States
9 Aug 07
This is a very difficult situation for your daughter to be in. I hope it's not too rough on her. She's so young! She must be very mature to endure it all. I wouldn't let somebody lie about my children either though. Good for you for taking the step and getting a lawyer before hand. Perhaps he can scare the kids into telling the truth before it goes to court.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I have the lawyer now & made am appointment. He is getting right on to the case.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
If they don't get scred before hand, they will certainly be scared in Court.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
9 Aug 07
I did read your earlier discussion on the situation and am sad that it had to come to this... What a nasty piece of work the ex is how does your partner feel about this?? It is so sad that she would drag her own child through this stupid accusation of an over exadguration of events.....(sorry about spelling) (sighs)Some people........ I hope all works out and they see how manipulating the ex is and she pays the price........ Best of luck jenny
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
That is what I am hoping, that they will see that the ex is manipulating her children.
@nana1944 (1367)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I do not blame you for getting an attorney. How old os your daughter by the way? Exes can be so conniving. And the sad thing is that people use their children to get back at the other parent. The kids often times think the parents may get back together if they cause trouble. This is a sad situation for all of you.
• United States
10 Aug 07
I agree with you 100%! it is allways the children that get hurt in the end. it is very sad!
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
MY daughter is 14 years.Yes, my step children are being used.
10 Aug 07
Oh my goodness. I have been away again and have just caught up on your posts. What an awful thing to happen. I agree with you in getting a lawyer. I can't believe this is even being persued. My feeling on it is that it is obviously false. Who would send their children somewhere they believed they were being assaulted? I know I wouldn't. She is a nasty, vindictive woman. Don't let her get away with it! It's sad that she has made your step children like they are. You are a better woman than me... I wouldn't still be having them in my house. I hope everything works out for you and your children.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I am not to keen on having them in my hoiuse 5 days each fortnight, but for the sake of my husband, I am. I think he has doubts too.
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Good luck to you and your daughter!!! Defenatly get her a lawyer, the police allways tell you that you dont need a lawyer but you really do!
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Yes, as I found out, the Police lied to me, which I will be telling the lawyer all about.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I think I would also. If you don't mind me asking, what happens when she is cautioned? Does that mean that she is admitting to it in their eyes?
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Yes, it she is cautioned, it is admitting gulit. I will not allow it.
• United States
10 Aug 07
It really irks me when people go this extent to cause discomfort to another person. For what? What thrill do they get out of it? I don't blame you for getting a lawyer involved. Huggers to you and your daughter.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
My husbands ex has always gotten a thrill out of causing damage to other people. Thank you for your comments.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
9 Aug 07
that's really sad... i feel sorry for your daughter that she has to endure this situation in such a young age... i think you make a right move in getting a lawyer for your daughter... hope everything will be alright... i will be praying for you and your daughter... take care and God Bless you...
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I am very upset that my daughter has to go through this at her age. She has been very strong so far.
@weemam (13377)
9 Aug 07
Good for you girl , You are preparing yourself in advance , this has ben o hard on you and your family , Please let us know how thing progress , take care my friend xx
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Both hubby & I are doing a lot of preparation this weekend, as I have an appointment to see the lawyer on Monday morning.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
9 Aug 07
My advice is to get a lawyer anyway. I'm not sure why they wouldn't want her to have one if it's being pursued.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
They didn't want me to get a lawyer, as he/ she would put a styop to the way they were coinducting the investigation.
@GardenGerty (105221)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Be sure to listen to whatever the lawyer says, as he may say it is more risk than help. On the other hand, I would say, "Sue their sorry selves" if that is what the lawyer believes will be effective. I am going to guess that they will not expect you to take this firm and positive step, they will have expected you to crumble. I have, however, been involved in stupid, child custody and behaviorally related law suits. Sometimes even when we know we are right, we have to meekly say "yes sir" to the courts.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I am also guessing" that they expected me to go along with the way the Police wanted me to. They banned my husband from the interview you know, so hubby is making a complaint to the Police Complaints Authority.
• United States
9 Aug 07
Good for you! It seems to me that the ex is using the children as an underhand way of harassing you and that is a problem that a lawyer can do something about.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Hopefully the lawyer can do something about this. She is defintely using the children to get back at us.
@mizrae (587)
• United States
9 Aug 07
As well you should (get a lawyer) Plus if there were other children around that can corroborate your daughter's facts, I think this vindictive woman will be in a whole lot more trouble once it's proven in court that this is a total fabrication. My thoughts are with you that the truth will come out in the end.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
There were no other children around, but I was there!! (which the police ignored)
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 07
This is a sticky situation that involves family members. I would have opt for the same cos it will not end there if it cannot be solved around the table. You're torn between two parties that are closely connected to you. Only an independent person can thrash out the conflict.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Yes, the lawyer is really the only course of fair action I have left open to me.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
9 Aug 07
Hi jennybianca! I think that will teach them a lesson and this way the truth will come out. And also, this is a good plan of action for you to clear your daughter's name of the allegations made against her. Take care and good luck! God bless!
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I am mhoping this will be an effective plan of action. I am seeing the lawyer on Monday.
@brendalee (6083)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I am glad you are getting a lawyer. I feel so bad for your daughter and you. I still like my idea of finding a hitman.lol
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I wish I could get a hitman too. It would be a lot more effective.
@Fishmomma (11423)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Sorry that your daughter is being accused of this terrible thing. Its terrible when the other side makes up false statements. Hope you are able to resolve the problem quickly. Take care.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
I don't know if this will be quick, but I am seeing the Lawyer on Monday.
@AmbiePam (50385)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I think you are doing the prudent thing and I'm glad your daughter has help like you. Even though she didn't do it, I imagine she's scared about the accusations. These days kids are given the benefit of the doubt (at least over here), so it is always best to be prepared.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Yes, I agree. I should have had a lawyer in the first place.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Whenever a police officer says you don't need a lawyer it should set off alarms in our heads. Good for you for getting one. Thie indeed will make the step children etc prove their allegations. They will be the ones needing to prove it your daughter doesn't have to prove anything in actuality. At least here in the states that's how it works. The accuser must prove the guilt. Good luck. I'll be praying for the best for you and your daughter. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
Yes, Ishould have realised that. Trouble was, I actually trusted them.Not now.