Weddings

United States
August 9, 2007 8:49am CST
I have only attended one wedding in my life. It was my uncle's and it was outside the public library in a gazebo. Nobody dressed up (I don't think my aunt even wore a wedding dress) and it was short and sweet. I was probably 10 years old at the time. My boyfriend's best friend is getting married at the end of the month and we are traveling out to South Dakota (from Michigan) to attend. I am super excited because my boyfriend's mother is paying for our hotels and my boyfriend is paying for gas, so I am getting a free mini-vacation!! Anyway, I am kind of nervous about meeting his best friend for the first time, not to mention attending a wedding! I don't know what to wear or anything. Lol I feel like I should know what a wedding is like, but I have never really been to one. I am excited to go though!
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Since it's still a summer wedding. I would wear something light and airy. There are so many dresses out there that fits that description. If the wedding is inside, you can aways wear a sweater if it gets to cold on the inside. The weather is so hard to predict, so a sweater will come in handy if it gets chilly on the outside as well. I only been to 2 weddings, mine, lol and my brother's which didn't last that long.
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• United States
9 Aug 07
Thank you for the comment, I think this is a good excuse to do some shopping :P
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Your welcome, have fun shopping. Make sure you have enough clothes for the time your there. Swimming suit for the hotel pool. Have fun on your mini vacation, heck have fun for me while your at it, lol.
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• United States
11 Aug 07
I think this is so great for you to be able to go. Hurray for you. My advise to you is find out where the wedding is going to be held. That will give you some kind of idea what to wear. You can also ask you boyfriend and his mother to see what they are wearing. If your boyfriend is going to wear a suit and tie you do not want to wear jeans and a tee shirt, on the other hand you do not want to wear a formal if it is at a lake or in a park. Another suggestion I have is a little black dress which goes with anything and anywhere. Now you use to not be able to wear black to weddings but not any more but the first thing I would do is see what your boy friend and his mother is wearing.
• United States
14 Aug 07
His mother isn't going, just us two. He is wearing a suit and tie I am pretty sure, but I asked him where it was being held and he said "South Dakota" lol. He doesn't know yet where exactly they are having it so I am waiting to find out.
@flowerchilde (12547)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I always wear a nice yet comfortable outfit.. And I smile warmly a lot and wish everybody well! I love weddings! To me they are celebrations of life! But I think it's unfortunate if a couple stresses out a lot over the wedding (or spends tons of money too much) as it's actually the marriage that's important! Why burden it with great debt and begin it with great stress?
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• United States
9 Aug 07
I agree with you. When I get married I want to have a simple wedding. I think it's just important to have the people you care about there, not spending a ton of money on one day! I don't need any more debt lol
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
9 Aug 07
As long as you don't wear a wedding dress and look nicer than the bride does that day in her's you will be fine. I like mini-vacations that are free myself. Been on a couple of them, because my parents are scared to drive out of state. Enjoy the wedding. Most weddings have receptions afterward, so there should be food and dancing too. Enjoy it! When the wedding march starts, most people stand as the bride comes down the isle. Just look around to see what other's are doing and you will be fine. Your BF should have indroduced you to his Best Friend before now. Tell him I said that. My husband met my best friend before we got married, though it was only on the phone, because she lives in another state. But I wanted her take on him, so they got to know each other on the phone.
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• United States
9 Aug 07
Lol well his friend is in the armed forces and lives in South Dakota, so they have not even seen each other since high school!
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I wouldnt worry so much about meeting the best friend. Sure it's a big deal and all, but believe me, he's going to have other things on his mind and a TON of people to pay attention to on his wedding weekend. not that you aren't important, but you will be one of many people he will be seeing, plus he'll be a bit distracted adn all - you know, getting married. As for what to wear, unless the invitation specifies Black Tie or anything else, just wear something nice that you feel comfortable in. It's generally a rule that you don't wear WHITE, because that's reserved for the bride. But anything else that isn't tacky or trampy would be fine. Make sure you are comfortable in what you are wearing, and be ready to do some dancing!! Weddings are a ton of fun, so enjoy your mini-break!
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• United States
9 Aug 07
You're right about meeting him. I just know I will only have a few minutes to talk to him and I don't want to make a bad impression! But I am not too worried :) Nothing tacky or trampy, so I guess my boobie tassels are out of the question :\
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
13 Aug 07
Well first off I’d suggest you ask where the wedding is and what people are wearing? I’ve been to numerous weddings- From really formal to back yard shin digs- If it’s in a church and then a nice place for the reception- then you should dress up and dress nicely. Dress or slacks- You won’t want to feel under dressed. If it is more casual- khaki’s and a nice shirt or sweater is good- Don’t be afraid weddings are usually a lot of fun- dancing – good food- drinks- friends!
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
10 Aug 07
that should be really fun for you then! so many people around my age have been getting married that I'm suffering from wedding fatigue. IT's fun attending the first few, then as it gets more and more to the extent of one every weekend for a particular month, it can really get boring especially if you don't know the couple well and are attending out of obligation - for instance if it's a distant relative or a colleague that you don't really know but who felt obliged to invite you because he or she was inviting the rest of the department. so enjoy yourself! soak in the atmosphere, the pretty things and perhaps allow yourself to dream a bit of what you'd like your wedding to be!
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I would wear my best duds and hope for the best to fit in and just act yourself when you meet any one dont go giggling! hugs good luck
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
10 Aug 07
That sounds great.I do hope you have a wonderful time.I have been to many weddings,and all you do is dress up.Wear something dressy and you will be fine.if its a church wedding that is...You are not required to wear a formal just a dress up outfit and i always wear a dress up dress and heels and that should be fine.hope you have a great time.
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• Portugal
10 Aug 07
hi wooitsmolly, i think you should wear dress that is somekind of a sexy one a bit. :) Your favorite color of dress really counts too...and of course dress like your comfortable to wear.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I would think just a simple little dress would be just fine. Nothing too fancy. I wouldn't worry about meeting everybody. I am sure they will like you. You have a great personality from your discussions.
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@stvasile (7317)
• Romania
9 Aug 07
I attended a few wedding in my time, most of them when I was a kid. In the past 3 years I went to the weddings of two of my cousins. I don't really like the party, for me, the best part is what goes on in the Church, at the religious ceremony.
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@GardenGerty (102494)
• United States
9 Aug 07
The invitation should say what you should wear, and it should state where the wedding is being held. You know, like the Cathedral of such and such, or the park at downtown. Formal, casual, reception following at the Country Club, or at the church, or at a club. You will take your cue from that. An outdoor or afternoon wedding will be less formal than an evening church wedding for instance. Find a nice summery dress, do not expose too much skin, make sure that your dress is comfortable, do not upstage the bride. Maybe a dressy slacks outfit, but wear something that makes you happy with yourself. Ask your boyfriend what he is wearing, or is he in the wedding, and are they renting a tux for him to wear. If they are renting him a tux, you will dress a little more formal as well. Hope this is helpful. My daughter had a nice afternoon church wedding, guys wore suits, or shirt and tie, and women wore mostly dresses. My son had an outdoor renaissance theme, and a lot of people came in costume, it was outdoors at a park with a castle like structure. I was mother of the bride, and mother of the groom, so I wore nice dresses both times.
• Philippines
9 Aug 07
i have attended several weddings since i was a child..i was the flower girl as always..when i grew up i had been the maid of honor for my cousin's wedding and attended friends wedding..well if its a big wedding you can wear a formal attire..an elegant one but not an eye catching not to catch up the attention of the couple..
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• United States
9 Aug 07
I was in my uncle's wedding as the flower girl when I was not quite two years old, and I've been a guest at a lot of weddings since then. (I've also been in a couple of weddings as a bridesmaid, and there was that time I got married... but we don't talk about that much...) As for what to wear, just a nice summer dress will probably be just fine. I would definitely recommend a light sweater if the wedding is in a church, because I've been in a lot of REALLY cold churches!
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I guess it depends on what type of wedding it is as to how nervous or excited I would be. My cousin had a really formal wedding in which I was a bride'smaid. When I got married the first time I work a short white dress and just had a few friends and family at the little church. My daughter had a fairly good sized wedding with a long expensive dress. When my second husband and I were married we had a minister I knew come to our house and do the ceremony. Good luck and have a good time.
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@youless (93528)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 07
I have attended to many wedding ceremonies. Including my relatives' and my friends' wedding ceremonies. It's always nice to join it. As there will be a big nice feast. I'll have a wedding ceremony to join in September. One of my best friends is going to get married and I'm so happy for her. Finally she gets married and we may have more topics to speak after that.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 07
I seem to have 3 to 4 weddings to attend every month. Thats something I am used to. In our community they have wedding reception of up to 500 to 1000 people attending. Everybody is somehow connected to each other and attendance is compulsory. When we attend a wedding reception we chip in some money to the newly wed as a gift. This is sort of tradition here. A wedding reception here is a good 'revenue earning'.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
Honestly hun I wouldn't worry too much about meeting your boyfriends best friend because he is going to be pretty busy with it being his wedding day and all. That is great that your excited and you get a mini-vacation! Have fun, and let us know how it went!