How far apart is a good time frame to have your children?

United States
August 9, 2007 8:55pm CST
I just had a baby 4 months ago and I was wondering how long is the average waiting period before couples start on a next. We are going through a pregnancy scare at the moment, and are truthfully not sure how we feel about it. Sure we will love and cherish the child no matter what. But that doesn't mean that we will be initially happy about the news. I have read about time the body needs to renurish itself in order to properly hold a child etc. I am an only child so I have nothing to compare it to, and my hubby although one of 3 his brother and sister and 4 and 10 years younger. I have a cousin who's children are about 15-18 months apart and the last two are learning disabled. I am not sure if there is a link or it just happened. What are your thoughts and opinions on this subject?
5 responses
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
10 Aug 07
Well without planning my kids are all 3,5 years apart from each other. My eldest is almost 7, my middle one is 3.5 and my youngets is now 8 weeks. I think it also depends on when you are up for it yourself, and ofcourse if your body can manage it.
• United States
10 Aug 07
I personally enjoy the 3-4 year age difference, the older child is able to get the special attention especially one on one time. And will be in preschool around the time the baby is born and will be developing a sense of self. I also agree on waiting until your body is able to manage it.
@randyw (216)
• Russell, Kansas
10 Aug 07
The 15-18 month difference is definitely a coincidence. There's no medical reason to suggest that would cause any learning disabilities. Wow, I bet your hormones and emotions have been going on an up and down roller-coaster ride! Just about the time you can start getting some sleep and regain some sanity, there's another baby on the way. Anyway, good luck!
• United States
10 Aug 07
this is true, we want more children. But we surly didn't want them 14 months apart. We have weighed our pros and cons. Being the children would grow up together in the same age bracket. We wanted to stop at 3, we have our oldest to help and all we would need is diaper. Plus all the things we bought and were gifted would actually get good usage. Cons being the mood swings, the stress level, and extra worry for another child out in the world. Thanks though
• United States
10 Sep 07
I'm now pregnant for the 2nd time. By the time this baby is born, there will be a 3 year gap between them. I think that's a good age gap. My older one is more independent now, can entertain himself and do some stuff for himself and doing great with potty training. Plus, it really gave me time to enjoy him alone. I was able to focus all my attention on him. Now, he's ready for a playmate! And like you said, it really gave my body the chance to recover well from the first pregnancy. As with my first pregnancy, this one is going really well.
• United States
10 Sep 07
I am currently pregnant with my 1st baby. He is Due in Dec. I plan on having more. I am not sure about the time frame though, as right now money is tight. I at least know that I would like to have him out, or close to out of diapers before I get pregnant again.
• Indonesia
5 Sep 07
My husband and I think that it will be best to have our second child about 4 years later after our first one. This is because we're considering about their schools in the future. We both hope that our children enter their first grade of schools at different year, not in the same year. Kind of tricky, I know, but this hopefully will work well as we both work as civil servants with only average wage.