what is the fasteset way to mend a broken heart?

Philippines
August 9, 2007 9:00pm CST
i've been heart broken for 3 months now and still nothing has changed, i'm still in deep pain, and i'm sick of experiencing this..... can you help me guys?? whats the fastest way to mend a broken heart?
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Volunteer, helping others can take your mind off your problems and give you skills and abilities that you can discuss with a new person in the future, you might even meet a new person by volunteering. My husband and I met when we both volunteered for the same organization. So find something that interests you. If you already volunteer, then see if you can put a little more time in. Spend an entire day watching comedies, try to find ones that don't involve romance (almost impossible), and make yourself some popcorn to eat. Learn to laugh again. Videos that teach dancing, get some of those so you'll be in good shape to "dance the night away," when the right person shows up. Stay out of bars (I assume you know that and that's why you're asking this question, but just in case, since I don't know you very well). Read joke books, meditate about something funny, ask the power that you believe in (if you believe in one) to help you get over this person and to help you find another one. Take care
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
i am also into church activities but the org just stopped having its monthly activity which makes things harder for me...
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
i am also into church activities but the org just stopped having its monthly activity which makes things harder for me... but thanks for the advices
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Some groups take summers off or part of the summer. Habitat for Humanity, I don't know if they have it in your area, but they are a good group to volunteer for. If you can find a group that mostly meets in the summer to make up the difference, that could help. Or maybe there is a church group like the one you're in that you could go to nearby at another church. What about friends in your church group or your religious leader, could you talk to any of them? Take care
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
10 Aug 07
hi weelcah sorry to hear about your broken heart..When my heart has been broken I've called good friends of mine that will take the time to listen to me..Or go out and have fun...I even changed my style such as my hair color or style of my hair to make myself feel as good as I can...I couldn't even think about dating yet, I did once too soon and I ended up breaking that guys heart because he fell for me too hard too fast and I wasn't ready to commit to him the way he wanted me too and I felt I ended up going with him on a rebound..Give yourself time to heal and to do things for you surround your self with love and caring friends..Friends can be a good medicine tool for broken hearts sometimes...I hope this helps goodluck hun...
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
thank you for the sweet advices, hmmm... actually i'll try mediating exercise they say its the best way to mend a broken heart... hmmm... actualy the idea of looking for another doesn't sound pleasing to me, still dont want to take the risk of falling and getting hurt again... i can do this! thank you! =)
• Canada
13 Aug 07
you are very welcome hun. And eventually it does get easier and I can relate and understand to the fear and not being ready to date or be with someone new again for a fear of another broken heart...It may take sometime but eventually you will be ready and it's a good idea to wait til you are to not chance rebounds..hugzzzzz
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
10 Aug 07
Im in the same boat as you. my bf of a year and a half dumped me a month and a half ago, and is leaving for college where I might not see him for a long time.. Theres no much advice I can really give you, we all grieve our own ways. As for dating, its just not an option for me, do you feel as if you compare him to other guys becuase being with him just felt so good and these cans cant add up? Im in that position right now. Its obvious we dont WANT to feel this way, but only time can take the pain away, as unfortunate as it is. No one wants to just sit and wait for pain to go away. But what i would say you should do is, go do something to make YOU feel good, give yourself a confidece boost. I got my nails done, and im getting my hair done, if you look good you feel good, and that can help alot. Dont take on any big responsibilities. Dont bury yourself in anyones problems or take on big projectgs to get your mind off the person, thats what I did and I got caught in the middle, making life harder for myself then it had to be. Go out and do stuff you wouldnt normally do when you were dating. I made a ton of friends that I went to school with but never talked to just because I was always with him. Just dont do go out being rebellious and do anything stupid hoping youd get over him, cuase in the end, it doesnt work:P By the way, like I said before, im in the same boat as you, if you got any tips yourself, please share:) and if you just wanna vent or talk, msggg..its all good:)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
wow... someone who's also experiencing my pain... hmm.. actually what i first did was get rid of the things he gave me, throw the pictures and delete all the sweet msg he sent me, at first it was kinda hard looking at those stop cause i remembered everything that had happened to us. hhhmmmm.... my past time now to make me happy is blouse-scouting! ehehe... i look for dresses so that i'll not end up craving for him, i am active in social organizations and go out with friends once in a while, BUT i am not dating don't want to take the risk of falling and getting hurt again... 1 and a half yr is very long, i think it wil definitely take time for you to heal... and maybe for him to be away really helps, you won't get the chance to see him, so moving on maybe possible while your not seeing him... hope we can get over them! we can do this! =)
@socorban (651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
The fastest way is actually the least healthy emotionally. The quickest way to release yourself from emotional pain is to turn it into hate. But like i said this is not healthy at all. I know, I've been there. one person changed my life, i had my heart broken and betrayed. I was 18 then. I just turned 24 today (Woo hoo!) And have not so much as been on a date with anyone since then. Its not that im not attractive, i just closed myself up mentally from outside interaction on that level. I can still say to this day i miss and love them. Truth be, you wont ever really get over that person, and 3 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of it all. You have to learn to let go, stand on your own two feet again, you have to "trust" yourself once more. It is a long hard road if you were truly in love, but it must be traveled.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
they say hate is not the opposite of love, but actually the reaction of extreme love, they say apathy is the opposite of love... hmmm i really don't want to hate him cause the times we shared were magical... so your saying that it may take a long time before i can actually move on? sighhh.... i'm really tired.... i wish moving on is a short process.... hmmm.... Happy birthday anywayz!! Godbless! =)
@Candy056 (17)
• China
10 Aug 07
to leave everything behind and get together with your friends. Friendship is always a kind of medicine.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
being with my friends really did hepl.... but when i am alone, there i go agai crying my heart out and reminiscing about the days we had. *sigh*