My best friend wants me to change the date of my son's christening.

United States
August 9, 2007 9:26pm CST
I have waited as long as I can take in getting my son baptised. It's been an on going issue with timing, finding a church, getting letters from parishes etc. So finally I decided on a church and became a member and filled out all of the paper work and worked out a date for the baptisim. So I call my best friend and tell her the date. She tell's me that that particular date is the date of a mutual friend's big blow out bash for her 30th birthday. Now I knew about this party, the date has changed quite a few times, the location is now an issue (she wants to change places for the ummm 3rd time I think) I told my friend that my sons baptisim is more important to me than attending a party for a friend who doesn't know if she is comming or going. Then my best friend proceeds to ask me to change the date for her because it is going to be an inconvience to her to go to two parties in one night. I replied to this, that her convience is not an issue for me, when this date is fine with the 40 plus other people who can make it. That I would understand her not coming to the christening party afterwards but I would greatly appreciate it if she came to the church which is litteraly across the street from her apartment building. She gose on to tell me that I am not a friend for christening my baby on the date of this alleged party, when our mutual friend has been there for me when I had asked her to cook for my baby shower a few months ago. And that since I was considering asking her to cook for the christening party that I was in the wrong. I told my friend that since our mutual friend is an avid church goer that she would understand that I am choosing my sons baptism, no matter what. I am keeping my date, am I wrong?
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4 responses
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
10 Aug 07
I think your friend is very selfish, if she was a real friend she would understand how important your son's christening is.. If I was in your shoes, I would definitely not change the date, unless I really wanted to myself, not for anyone else. Good luck in deciding
• United States
10 Aug 07
I agree with her being selfish, inconciderate also. She can be unbareable sometimes. And I have excepted it. She has no idea that her asking me to prospone this affair is an extreme disrespect to me and my family. I cannot compare a religious even with a grown womans birthday party.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
no you're not! if i were you, i won't move the date as christening happens only once in a person life and that birthday comes every year. it's her choice where to come first as long as i informed her the date. You can now test your bestfriend if she treated you the same way you did. Just keep the date dear, it's a big day for your son.
• United States
10 Aug 07
thanks!! I feel as though I am right, and I also feel that my best friend is trying to manipulate me. She is not looking for my best interest or my sons, she is looking to have a relaxing day either at our mutual friends bday party or at my party. She is looking out only for herself, I know this because she will have plenty of time to come to the church have some food, then go party her butt off at the birthday party. she is being selfish. You made me feel better, thanks a million
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
your son's baptism is more important than any other event. it is the day in which he will be welcomed to the christian world. being his parents it is your duty to make it happen. your friend's attitude is self serving.
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
10 Aug 07
The baptism is more then just a social event. There is family to consider, there is availability of the church and the place where you have the party. You have more to consider then a birthday party for someone else. If anything she is being inconsiderate in her wanting you to change something like this after the planning you did for the christening. Go through with your plans, either she will go to the christening and party or not. She may go to the friends party, who probably is more understanding of your decision then she is. But in the long run she may just forgive and forget continue being your friend.