I thought she's my bestfriend.

Indonesia
August 11, 2007 8:46am CST
I am so sad now...She did not come on my wedding day, no sms, no call or leave a message. She is my bestfriend since I am on the 7th grade. Even we are separated now, because I live in another city. Well maybe she is busy or something. I called to her home and asked why didn't she came. She said sorry because she was hang out with another friend on that day. I feel so dissapointed. It's the important day of my life when I expect she will come, even I told her long before. Is that what a bestfriend do? I know she has the right to do whatever she want to do. I dont consider her my bestfriend anymore.. It's just hurt... I feel like broken heart..
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11 responses
@nhoj05 (49)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
I am sorry about what happened.well people change..let us all accept that, but have you talked to her? I also feel bad when my best friend take me for granted, it happened to me. It is very painful.
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
yes I did talk to her and the answer is just hurt me more... hopefully things like this never happen again.. as you said its painful..
• China
12 Aug 07
In my mind,whatever my friend do and however he/she do,although that may hurt my heart and also make me freak out,I will forgive him/her because they are my best friends .It is not necessary to explain something to me because he/she is my bosom friend. afternoontea,forget it,please make sorrow go with the wind.
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
Thanks, I hope the wind could the away my sorrow faster...
• India
12 Aug 07
Hi!Well,ths is really tragic!The meaning of TRUE FRIENDSHIP or BEST FRIEND itself is lost.If there is true friendship between you both, this should not be happening,because anyone would do anything for anyone when it comes to friendship!So if your friendship is really true, she maybe still lying to you for she maybe going through with something very serious & she may not want that to spoil your happiness on your great occasion.So find out through somebody else before you break your friendshp. ALL THE BEST & GOD BLESS!! www.creatingcolourfulfuture.com
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
Thanks for your response... I will not break my friendship with her because we have lots of memories before this happened. Maybe I just not considering her as my bestfriend anymore.. for a while.. until she could explain why did she do that and it better be a very good and acceptable reason...
@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
11 Aug 07
You would be surprised how many women even best friends have issues when their friends get married. Sometimes it is jealousy. My best friend kissed my husband the week before the wedding because she was always secretly in love with him and jealous that he loved me. So it could be worse. I understand you are upset but try and cut her a little slack she might just be feeling down because she has not found the love of her life yet. Maybe she did not have enough money to travel there. She could even just be upset she was not in your wedding party. There could be many reasons. Try to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
Yes..I was thinking about that jealousy, and I hope she is not in love with my husband. There should be no reason for dont have the money to come to my wedding because the place is only 15 minutes walking distance from her home.. I am trying hard to try to talk to her..
@ladybear (128)
• Denmark
11 Aug 07
I hope you had a wonderfull day. And I an sorry your best friend didn't take this day as important as you did. I don't think it matters who you are, anyone would be sad if thier friend didn't show up on that day. Or any other day that is important to you. You are suposed to be thier for each other. I hope you have other friends that where there for you that day. And the best of luck with your life together.
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
Thank you... yes indeed I am glad I have many bestfriends so I did not think about that on my wedding day, only lately this bothered me..
@Katali (63)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I'm sorry you suffered this disappointment on such a special day. It's hard to tell the reason your friend did this, but she didn't even give a good excuse. She could "hang out with another friend" any time. It could be that she's jealous that your life is going in a direction that maybe hers isn't. She didn't do you right, but focus and enjoy your marriage. If she's truly a friend, she'll come back around and explain better. It's possible she has a reason she didn't want to tell you about at the time. Congratulations on your marriage and I wish you the very best.
• Indonesia
12 Aug 07
Thank you for your response katali, I was wondering too that she might be jealous because my other friends said that she mentioned to evryone that she is about to get married since last year but not come true yet..but still I couldn't understand how could one be jealous to your bestfriend when they are having a happy day of their life... I thought best friends should be happy too which we are always did as before... Anyway, am tring hard to just forget it..
@youless (84737)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 07
Please don't feel sad. People change all the time. In the past some of my best friends already changed and they are not my best friends any more. I am sorry to say, perhaps she already doesn't regard you as her best friend. So why you will be depressed because of it?
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 Aug 07
Is the friendship hurt somewhere or? I can experience ur bitterness n sadness while typing this post... Cheer up... Its not worth it to cry or feel sad for someone who doesnt appreciates or feel the same for u... Tts what i have learnt...
• India
12 Aug 07
n no...don feel like that...everything will be fine...
@globell45 (143)
• United States
12 Aug 07
don't blame you for being hurt, I would be too.
@clocks123 (1229)
• United States
12 Aug 07
talk it out with her and state how you feel i don't think a real friend would treat you like that i'm sorry for you