Have you ever spoken ill of others?

@lucy67 (819)
China
August 13, 2007 9:22am CST
Have you ever spoken ill of others, especially of those who have spoken ill of you?
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
13 Aug 07
As much as I TRY to avoid doing it sometimes it just cant be helped really....for that matter i TRY to not even think ill of ppl but again sometimes it really is unavoidable ya know...There are ppl I've come across in my life that just OOZE icky and are horrid ppl who really earn whatever bad-mouthing they get whether its from me or someone else ya know...
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@patgalca (14309)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 Aug 07
It's a funny story really. My husband's best friend was jealous of our relationship. He thought my husband was making a bad decision in being with me (for reasons I won't get into here). This guy told his dental hygienist (we live in a small town) that he didn't think DH should marry me. That dental hygienist is married to my husband's co-worker who eventually became our neighbour. She told her husband, he told my husband and my husband told me. One day when that guy was over with a bunch of other people swimming and drinking in our backyard, he came into the house while I was preparing burgers or something. We were alone in the kitchen and he was talking away to me. I wasn't very responsive to his babbling. Then he said to me, "I don't know why you don't like me." My response to him was, "You know *S*, when you say stuff about people, it gets around." Now this was years after the incident but he seemed to know exactly what I was talking about as he released a long "Ooooh". My husband walked in right then and could tell something was up. "What's going on?" he asked. We both said "nothing". I don't remember if I ever told my husband about that discussion. That guy only socializes with my husband now when he can join them for golf. I told the hygienist neighbour all about this and she was stunned that the conversation got all the way back to me. She was embarrassed but I told her not to be. I thought it was rather funny. I'll go back to why this guy didn't think we should be together. I got pregnant and didn't know who the father was - DH or another guy. I didn't know what to do and the doctor advised me to pick a guy and tell him it was his. I know, dumb advice. Because I did this to DH and he turned out NOT being the biological father, all of his friends turned against me (I suppose for good reason). After being apart for awhile, DH and I got together again and he was able to forgive me and put it behind us. In fact he adopted my daughter. But it just goes to show, you really ought to be careful what you say about someone else, and who you say it to.
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@loverenth (136)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
Yeah i have. though i hate to admit it, but i think it's part of my defense mechanism that when someone has stabs me behind, to turn and fight back. i know revenge is a cruel and unpleasant thing yet i do it with minimal intensity.. i don't know if i'm making any sense here. but i think you got my point already. :)
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@magikrose (5424)
• United States
13 Aug 07
I try not to but sometimes it is necessary if a friend is getting involved with someone who is not the best person for them to get involved with.
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@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
17 Aug 07
I never speak ill of others as it is a sin. But when people are talking, sometimes we have to listen, if we are there with others. Moreover, we should know what is happening around us.