What has helped you? Therapy, medication, exercise, meditation?

@Cammeel1 (372)
United States
August 14, 2007 8:34am CST
I am 40 years old and I have been struggling with depression since I was 13. I've learned a few things over the years. Each of us may have different symptoms, histories, severities, and tolerances. All of these certainly play a part in what will help us when another episode strikes. When I am feeling good I love to spend time with my family, exercise, read, and dance. However, when a more particularly severe episode starts I am still, after all these years, at a complete loss as to what to do, to help myself. I have tried many things but it seems when I am at my lowest the only thing that will bring me around is that familiar old medicine cabinet. It hits so hard that all I care about is locking myself in my room and being alone. Then the doctor has to adjust my meds, and in around a month I begin to feel better. I'm eager to hear what works for each of you.
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@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Let me star by giving you a warm welcome to mylot! I have struggled most of my adult life with depression and I have done it all. I have been on meds, I have gone to talk to a therapist. I was on medication for many years. I think I talked to someone for about a year. It got to the point where I out grew my therapist. When I was taking meds and they would stop working I would blame myself. It got to a point where I didn't want to take anything anymore. I stopped taking my meds. You should always tell your Dr if you want to stop! You may not like my answer at all. But when I made the decision that I no longer wanted to take meds I knew that I could never do it alone. So I prayed I got down on my knees and I asked for help. WHen something is just too much for me I just give the power to my lord and savior Jesus Christ. Let me tell you that I have not been on meds for over 7 years. Sure I still get down at times, but it never lasts for very long. When I was on those meds I felt like I never really felt anything. I think you need to feel the lows in life to feel the highs in life. Yes I know this may not work for others but I wanted to share my story in the hope that it may help someone. Best of luck to you!
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Thanks for the warm welcome to MyLot. I am truly enjoying it! And I thank you for sharing your story. I know that faith for so much is a healer in and of itself. Belief so strong in a higher power I have no doubts can help anyone at all. Like the comments earlier about staying positive. Believing and focusing on the good is a true 'picker-upper'. I believe in Jesus and I pray. I do know that He is there for me and that fact alone comforts me. I wish you all the very best and thank you again for sharing. :)
@ayseteyze (214)
• Turkey
15 Aug 07
it seems that you have a family, that's OK. do you have a job as well? sometimes people are looking for the cure in the wrong places. i believe that a person's job is the FIRST thing that connects him/her to life. have you ever experienced having a job you really enjoy? and you know what, sometimes having fun is not the most important thing. jobs are there for us to earn more money, to be more succesful and to have a more satisfactory life. is life just about the business? well for me, mostly. but in general, no, it's not the only thing. but the other things that you ache for, will come after once you are so busy and occupies with the thing you try to achieve in your life. please think about this.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Good things to think on. A job(or career), for some, is what helps them to be happy.
• India
15 Aug 07
Meditate yourself for about 5-10 minutes early in the morning and always be postive in your life.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
My drill sergeant in basic would always scream at us "PMA!" Positive mental attitude. It does take you a long way. I learned one theory in college years ago by a sociologist named Robert Merton who wrote a book called 'Social Theory and Social Structure'. He coined the phrase 'Self-fulfilling prophecy' Merton gives this explaination: The self-fulfilling prophecy is, in the beginning, a false definition, of the situation evoking a new behavior which makes the original false conception come 'true'. Check out the wiki definition http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/self_fulfilling_prophecy Have a great day and thanks for commenting.:)
• India
15 Aug 07
my bro has same problem of depression, he got fracture in his leg when he was 13, he was so depressed that he tried to hurt himself at times, and suddendly became angry at times, the best medicine is LAUGHTER , which would definately give releif
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 Aug 07
This will sound like a strange answer, but I recommend Massage Therapy. Massage returns the body to homeostasis - balance - something we all need. It releases endorphins and gives an over all sense of well being. It not only helps with physical aches and pains - which seems to come along with depression for many - but has been shown to alleviate both depression and anxiety. When we're depressed many times we stop moving - just want to sleep - if we can sleep - massage will also get your circulation going as well and stretch out tight muscles. For those who have trouble sleeping, massage can relax you to the point where you're ready to go home and sleep! Stops that racing mind. To reduce the stress on your purse strings, try going to a massage school - and or accupunture school, etc - at the end of intensive training, students work in a clinic and see real clients. The school charges a nominal fee - and of course - its always nice to tip your therapist!
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
This line of thinking to deal with depression is a great way to alleviate the stress our body goes through. Massage can be good for so many ills. For anyone who has pain or any type of stress on the body, massage will promote faster healing through circulation. Besides it just feels so good! :) Thanks for your comment and best wishes.
@lgzs30 (18)
• New Zealand
15 Aug 07
I to from time to time depending of my life suitation have suffered from depression, but it comes and goes and was first brought on by having my first child, which I was put on some high meds just to help me through the day after six months of being high and low I got sick of it and took myself on the pills and went of the st john watts which helped me out. My second lot was when my marriage broke up and ready to drop the second child, so I was back on medication again. I have managed to controll my moods and episode which have seemed to not be so bad any more so mine was more to do with children and family problems.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I glad to hear that you are doing good. It is certainly understandable when your marriage breaks up to feel sad and it is so very common to have post-partum depression. I hope things are going good for you in your life now. :)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I had struggles with depression as well, since I was 11, but I read comic books, sing, dance, walk, write, and take care of my cats to fight it off. I do not like to use medication, it just makes me more depressed.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
What kind of comic books do you read? My husband loves and has a collection of the old Marvel ones. Especially Wolverine and X-men.
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
My approaches to depression depends on the situation. Sometimes, I will eat too much food, sometimes I will cry for a long time and sometimes I will read a book, and sometimes watch movies. Well, if what catches my attention and will forgot my problem then I'll go for that.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I am an emotional eater at times. But I love a good book! I think it is so good that so many of us know what works for us. Best wishes to you. :)
• Canada
15 Aug 07
Depression has varying degrees of severity and sometimes it takes a long time for physicians to be able to find the right combination of medication to balance the biochemstry of the brain. I am a life coach and group leader and always suggest the a multi-layered approach to resolving most mind-body-emotional imbalances. Therapy helps if a person is able to find the right one for their particular challenges. Meditation is a wonderful tool to assist healing on all levels. Yoga is a great mind/body balancer as is movement, fresh air, exercise. During times of depression we often suggest that people journal their feelings or draw them if they cannot access what they are experiencing. Chinese Medicine with a qualified practioner who incorporates accupuncture, herbal remedies is another route that some of our clients have found beneficial. Naturpathic physicians can also help and they promote natural healing and finding ways to assist the body in healing itself. If you look under your yellow pages you might also be able to find other reliable pracitioners that could work in tandum with your regular doctor.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Thank you so much for stopping by and giving your input. You reminded me very much of my nursing school instructor. Those were many of the things that she would teach us. The holistic approach for whatever the illness.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
14 Aug 07
Well I don't know if my case is mild, but when I am feeling down, any kind of exercise is what makes me feel better. My favorite when I am angry is cutting the grass because I get the exercise the produces adrenaline (I guess that would be my medicine), and I can talk without feeling like I am crazy for talking to myself.. If I am just down, dancing and running also make me feel better.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Your comment made me visualize myself outside cutting the grass and talking to myself where no one can hear me. I laughed and thought it was a great idea! I will have to try that. :) Thanks fo putting a smile on my face.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
14 Aug 07
I too have had problems with depression. I find that medication works best, but I use as little as possible. I also find that meditation helps, and if you can, take a long walk. If you have a good friend who will listen rather than give advice, that is best of all. Good luck.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Hi again Pose :) Thanks for commenting. Do you use meditation alot? I think I prefer the long walks instead of meditation though, my mind doesn't want to relax.
@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
15 Aug 07
My depression is a low grade long lasting type. I don't FEEL depressed but I don't do what I should, I don't want to get out and do things, I have no ambition, no energy... I have battled anxiety and panic attacks since I was a kid and I guess depression can come from that or maybe that is how my depression manifests itself. I find that I go through bouts. Sometimes, I am OK I workout and go places and feel decent. Other times, like lately, I work and don't do much else. I don't feel sad or anything, I just don't have the energy to DO anything. I tried several antidepressants over the years and none worked. They made me very tired or did nothing so I am sort of stuck. But if I force myself and get out socially, I feel 100 times better. The longer I stay in and just work and do nothing else, the less energy I have and the less motivation I have. If I FORCE myself out, I end up feeling so much better after. I wish there was a medication that actually made me feel better but I guess I am not a candidate for antidepressants. My sisters are on them as was my father but I just can't find anything that doesn't make me worse. So I sort of live life doing as little as possible and trying to get my butt out now and then and finding happiness around me whenever I can. It's ain't great but it's all I have.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I know exactly what you mean Wotfpatty. Even when I do not feel sad, the feelings of not wanting to be around others, go out, or do anything at all are there. I have to force myself to go out shopping at times. I used to think so negatively about myself for not living a "normal" life. I have learned to accept myself for who I am and how I live. My family loves me and that is all I need.
@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
14 Aug 07
I have been dealing with depression, anxiety, and anger issues almost my entire life and just recently I have been more able to get it under control. I am going through therapy and taking antidepressants. But over time I have learned what triggers the depression and anger the most so I try to avoid those things. Honestly though I think that once the depression has started it won't ever completely go away. The best thing you can do is just try to be around more positive things and avoid negavity.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
14 Aug 07
Caitbaby I think you maybe right about it never going away. I have periods where I feel better but it seems to always comes back, with meds or without. It's great that you have found what your triggers are. Knowing is half the battle right? How is therapy working for you? I tried therapy years ago, but never felt it was making a significant difference.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
12 Oct 10
Well for depression, medicines are not solution. Do Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 07
i need to walk,when i am depressed but coz of my fybromyalgia i cant walk very far. but i need to go out,if i am depressed and i dont need so much stress the stress is killing me if i dont have stress,or not so many stress,i am not depressed. but the depression keeps coming back pffffffffffft