Terrible 2's and 3's - a problem?

@Sharon38 (1916)
Jamaica
August 14, 2007 1:01pm CST
I have only one child. She is now 9 years old. I went back to work when she was 2 months old but I can remember as if it was only yesterday, coming home and looking into those beautiful eyes. I felt like I would just squeeze her and lovingly hug her to me. To be honest people, the problems you guys are facing I never had them to that great degree. I had just some samll ones where her curiousity would get her in trouble. One call from me "dont touch it" and she makes a face and moves off to something else. Of course if she is too quiet I know i have to rush to see what she is up to. The cats in our home - 18 of them - would disappear when she goes to my mother's house. She held them by the tail and pull them in whatever direction she chose to go. I was always fearful that they would scratch her but they never did. she could not do anything wrong for her grandmother. She was just her baby. i gues now I have the problems because she does not want to read just watch tv. Books sends her to sleep. Movies she would watch all night if allowed. I guess what I missed at one phase was made up in another. Be firm with your child and let him/her knows that you mean it. For haven's sake parents dont be double standard. If you mean say it and do it if you dont they will know, no matter how young they are, and will exploit it. Children test parents to see if they are who they are to be - the one in charge. Dont forget it. I did it too to my mom so I expect my child to do it to me too. Be loving but firm, set up your boundary and let them know where you stand. Tantrums will be thrown and crying and all the works but let them know that you love them but what they are doing is wrong. They will learn to respect your authority, your love and you as the parent. My daughter at 2 and a half was attending basic school. Now this child has never thrown any tantrum and thrown herself on the floor and carry on before,can you imgaine my shock when this happenned? I gave her two slaps her bottom and told her dont you ever do it again. Trust me people never saw it again to this day. children adopt and adapt things from other children but I tell my daughter " tht is not allowed in here nor do I want to hear that you do it anywhere else!" and friends this is final. Stand your groudn dont let their little eyes filled with tears and tantrums break you down. stand your ground and dont let them have the upper hand. Be firm at the same time lettign them know that they are loved but the actions are wrong. Hope this helped! Good luck and God bless with your toddlers
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• Singapore
15 Aug 07
hi .. i hv a ger of 23mths now. ya,her T2 is here!! and im getting stress up too.. cox i hv another boy at 8mths.. so its quite a horrible sight when both get cranky.. :( next yr i wil return to workforce..and tats the time when T2 for my boy n T3 for my ger... Hope everythings goes well for me by then..
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 07
I do hope so and I know it will work our for you. Dont worry about the stress you are receiving now. I do hope yuou have help at home where you can get an hour or two just to be by yourself or take a walk, read a book just for those moments. What I did was when the baby was asleep I would sleep too and when she wakes I would feed and get one of my brothers or my mom or step dad to be with her until I was through. Because the family is large most of the times Its onlywhen she wants to be fed she would be returned to me and if my mother is there I ahve to be asking who is the mother of that child then everyone would laugh. You need something like that to help you or otherwise it will certainly stress you out. Take time for you. You will need it believe me. Dont sweat it you will be ok.
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• India
14 Aug 07
Hi Sharon! I don't have any children of myown. But have friends who have children and have seen how difficult it is to raise a child.Being a parent is like having a fulltime job. As far as I am concerned i beleave that the mother should be available for the child always as it's a very sensitive age and plays a good part in the development and behavioural patterns of the child.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 07
Thats true because at those tender years all the principles are learnt. I have seen children my daughter's age behaving like three years old and she wiould say to me that the children are spoilt. "I would never behave that way'. But really at that tender age the mother should spend as much time as possible with her child and instill within them the necessary morals and values needed. That age is the foundation that everything is built on.
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