marriage

United States
August 14, 2007 9:42pm CST
Hey mylot friends.I need to add spice back into my marriage.Can you help? I had a dicussion about filling my husbands fanatasy but i havnt done that yet. Im still uncertain about it but i was hoping for other suggestions to perk up our marriage.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
Hi punlonnjack! I am no expert in marriage but I will try my best to somehow gives you tips...so you better brace yourself.(LOL!) I am married with hubby for 7 years but we were together before that for 12 years...we always have some time off from each other and when we get to see each other we do miss each other so much that it seems the romance and sweetness never ends. I do make him miss me. haha...I usually do little things that he wouldn't expect that I will be doing, for instance...when we fight, I normally stand my ground but for several times already, in the middle of the fight I would just raise my hand in front of his face and all of a sudden I will be dancing like an exotic dancer(Trying so hard with this one..LOL) and he will burst into laughter because I look silly and then he will hug and kiss me. The important thing in my experience is I hug and kiss him all the time, telling him I love you oftentimes each day and whisper in his ear that he is sexy and all those sweet things. I guess, this may help or it may not but just the same I just want to share it with you. Have a nice day and take care.
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• Ireland
15 Aug 07
I like this as my fiancee and I are the same. You need to have your own space. That is the place where you build the stuff that each of you give to the relationship. Its what keeps the spark alive. Best of luck!
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• United States
17 Aug 07
Thats probable the problem we are together all the time when im not working we need space.Thanks
@wolves69 (756)
• United States
15 Aug 07
For me and the missus, talking and listening really sparked life into our marriage. Otherwise, we have a great relationship. My job requires me to be away from the family for long stints, and when separated, we just opened up and began expressing ourselves to each other. Small things would build up over time...not things to get upset or angry, but things that just pull each other away. When we started talking very intimately, these were exposed and we corrected either our thinking or modified our attitude. I agree with everyone here, don't do something you are uncomfortable. However, sometimes a little something that is out of character for you could do the same. Good luck.
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• United States
17 Aug 07
Thanks for your reponse wolves69.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
15 Aug 07
what sorts of things are you thinking about? My advice is as was stated above. If you are uncertain, don't do it. My husband and I love to role play. We will sometimes meet at a bar and act like we dont know each other. I'll wear my sexiest outfit and he'll dress like James Bond. Then we get a room. It's great and stimulating and fun and not at all frightenting. Think about it.
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• United States
17 Aug 07
Thats awesome i love it.Thanks