Do you feel like things that happen in life are meant to happen?

@ranitam22 (1147)
United States
August 14, 2007 11:42pm CST
I was brought up with the notion that there is a place for everyone in this world and everyone is sent here to do something. In other words, when things happen "it was meant to be or it happens for a reason" For example, about 4 years ago, I got fired from a real crappy job for something that everyone else did, but since I was in my probationary period I was the only one fired. Anyway, when I had started that job, I really wasn't sure if it was the right move and I had a lot of doubts, but I ended up taking it anyway and leaving another crappy job (my college degree is worth less than the paper it is written on, but that is a whole different topic). After I was fired, I went through all the worrying of what to do and how I would pay my bills. But with the help of family and friends, and finally mellowing down and taking a $6.00 restaurant job, a few months later I found a better job, paying almost double of what I got paid at the job that fired me. Do you think that things are meant to happen to lead us onto better things or even sometimes to teach us a lesson when we need it?
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• Canada
15 Aug 07
Yes, I pretty much subscribe to that philosophy. It fits with my spiritual beleifs that 'everything is always working for my highest good..beyond the appearance of any circumstance.' Both these ideas have proven to be true throughout most of my life...although while going through some duanting circumstances it was had to believe at the time. Having said that I also believe we can make our own 'luck' by thinking ahead and considering the cause and effect of the choices we've made in the past and learning to do things differently when excercising poor judgement. I also live with at similar attitude about the people who come and go along the pathways of life. Some are there for a reason...others for a season...and less frequently...a lifetime.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
15 Aug 07
i agree with that, it is plenty of people that I have come in contact with maybe once or twice and then I never see or hear from them again. But in that short time they made some type of impact in my life, whether it be a waiter that told a funny joke i remember for years, or the person in the mall who told me i had money hanging out of my pocket. The people that cross your paths are suppose to as you are suppose to cross theirs for some reason.
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@vinzen (1022)
• India
15 Aug 07
Hi, yes i always have believed and thought positive, that whatever happens , happens for the best. God up there has willed and meant things to happen the way they happen for us, so they are bound to be good. When he closes one door, he opens another, and every cloud has a silver lining, all these words are so much true too. I have felt these things down the line in my life too. And when bad things ( that we think are bad ) happen to us, at first we always curse and abuse and feel bad about the way life has been, but that lasts a little time, as He opens another door for us soon,and when we join the new options, we realiser that we are happier and better off in this than the earlier one. Maybe there was a reason for what had happened too, which we at that time dont realise. So in short, we should be thankful each small moment in our lives and take it as His will and remember that whateve happens happens for the best, accept it positively and gracefully.
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Bless you for those words of wisdom. I also feel like if something happens bad, that it wasn't meant to be and I just ask God for His guidance and to lead the way. Things have a way of turning out for the best.
@vinzen (1022)
• India
19 Aug 07
Hi, thanks for your reply.
@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
yes. things happen for a reason. we might have been hurt, we might have failed but those things helped us to be the person that we are right now. without those difficulties, our strength would not be tested. we made it, it means that we can sail through life even though storms nay cone our way. take care ranitam22.
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Yes, mistakes and failures do build character. I think it also humbles us a little and puts us back into perspective. Life is a stormy obstacle course that can be the greatest, but can also feel endless for some.
@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
I do beleive somehow that things do happen for a reason. That destiny is real. I read somewhere that there is no such thing as "coincidence" in this life. These concidences were meant to happen for a reason we might not know of that time. But, I also believe that we have the liberty to choose. To be able to choose and act in life and will have its consequences.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
thank you for your comment. It is great to be able to choose what happens in our life. Whatever decision you make you just have to be ready to face what is coming to you
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
there are times when i just wanted to agree that everything are destined to happen.. but at some point it gets confusing.. how can it be destined to happen if we never chose the decision we opt to choose? how will it happen if we didnt do anything to make it happen? i think things that are happening in our lives are just based on whatever things we opt to choose.. our decisions are the basis of what we become.. i dunno to whoever but this is just my opinion and this is how i see MY life... i know iv committed alot of wrong doings and the like.. but if didnt take any chances of it i guess i wont be me right now.. good day! godbless!
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
You are right, I think choice plays a big role in fate and what is bound to happen. I think that there is a path or course for everyone in life, but there are pit stops along the way kind of like those old choose-your-own adventure Nancy Drew books back in the day. That's where consequences come into play. Thank you for your response.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
Hi ranitam22! Yes, I do agree on that notion. Things happened for reasons, whether it is good or bad or whether we like it or not and that we don't understand why it happened most of the times but as times passed by we do realize that it happened for a reason...to make us be better people, to prepare us for something better, to build our character, to teach us a lesson. Have a nice day and take care!
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
You are so right about that, I think life does teach us to learn from our mistakes. Thank you for your comment.
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
things that happen in life are meant to happen? maybe... but it is up to your choice also of having the lifestyle you want... its mearly of by choosing the right path to go to, so if there was a mistake, there is always another choice to see... life doen't end just by grieving but to stand up and look for the things that you expect what you want to happen in life and not by chance... it is between choice whether to go left or right, up or down... for me theres only one way, and its to up and get in the middle.
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@BigO32 (47)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I have found myself asking the same thing. Only for me, it happened a bit different. 9 years ago I had a crappy job. In a class at my University, I decided to apply at a certain place. WHen I got out of class, that place was taking applications so I applied. What started as a part time job turned out to be the place where I started my career. I owe my life today to applying at this place back then. I dont know where I would be today if it werent for that. That makes me think that there was a plan. But then again, could something like this happen at random? In thinking at the circumstances at the time, I found a chain of events that led to that moment. Again, were those random? Or were they put into place as a pre thought notion by some higher being. I guess, the truth is out there.
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@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
window - difficulties in life are actually windows of opportunity
Absolutely. As the saying goes, "As one door closes, another opens". The reasons may not be clear immediately, but with time things become clearer. Oftentimes opportunities are disguised as disasters. Disastrous times can offer the greatest opportunities of all. Mental attitude also plays a role. You have to be able to take the negative and turn it into something positive. Take Tiger Woods for example. When he was in college, he was discriminated against because of the color of his skin. He was so angry. He took that anger and turned it into motivation to become the best that he can be. He channeled all that energy into playing golf, and now he's the best in the world. I don't think white people will be looking down on him anymore. In order to be a winner, you have to think like a winner.
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@senthil2k (1501)
• India
15 Aug 07
Yes . I strongly agree with you. When God closes a Door, it means He has a better Dorr opened for us somewhere else. So dont worry about whatever happens to you today. You will come for a better one tomorrow. Its also said in another way as, " Whatever happens, is for Good". Trust the God and He will lead you to what you deserver.
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@CaitBaby (447)
• United States
15 Aug 07
Hi ranitam22! I do think everything happens for a reason. That's why if something happens to me that I don't particularily like, I don't spend too much time stressing because I know that eventually it will get better because it's not like we are going to spend life at one bad point. For example, I used to have terrible anger issues and very deep depression, but now I am having to go to court because my father said some lies about me and I've matured a lot because I knew I had to. So if I wasn't going to court I would still be angry and depressed all the time like I used to be.
• India
15 Aug 07
yes you are VERY correct. things are meant to happen, a second can change whole life everything is in god's register, you can't change
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@miniala (18)
• China
16 Aug 07
Anyway... I think the happy time will come, either it's a little late, or in the difference place, or something else. everything will better off soon or late. and I pray for it....pray for the one who deserve it...
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Yes I think prayer is always the answer and solution to life's obstacles and misfortunes. Thank you for your response.
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
Hello ranitam!(",) I'm one of those people who always think positive in life so I believe that things are meant to happen for the best. God loves us and all the plans He has for us is to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us a hope and a future. Sometimes, at first we don't understand it but along the journey of life we become thankful because it happened to you. great day!
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Thank you so much, I totally agree with you to leave it in His hands and He will lay it out for us. Thanks for the response.
@michecu (637)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
Yes, I believe that everything that happen in our lives are really meant to happen. What is meant to happen cannot be stopped. I read about it before and eversince this has been one of the principles I've been following in my life. Sometimes, when i have to make decisions which are difficult, I just allow life to take its own course and then later i would just be thankful that i did because it would work out well. :)
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Thank you for the response that is so true. You shouldn't think too hard about a problem because like the saying goes "you think long you think wrong" just go with the flow.
• United States
15 Aug 07
TOTALLY! I'll tell you what happened to me: I too worked at a completely crappy job for more than 6 years. My boss was the personification of the devil (I'm not kidding). One day we had a big argument becuase he was accusing me of something that HE neglected to do and he blamed it on ME, which he did a lot. Then, I heard him talk to his mistress over the intercom about how he placed an add for another paralegal to replace me. I was not supposed to hear that! That was an accident and they never knew that I heard it! Well, as soon as I heard that, I started sending my resume to a bunch of different places and decided to put my 2 weeks notice 2 weeks after I heard that. I was so depressed becuase I didn't know what to do since I wasn't getting any responses from anyone that I was interested in working for. On the day that I gave him my 2 weeks notice, I suddednly started getting responses from companies who wanted me to come in for an interview. At this time, my boss was BEGGING me not to leave. Two places that I interviewed for wanted to hire me and of course, I had my pick and chose the one that I am currently working for (which pays me twice as much as my old crappy job). I got this job before the end of my two weeks and started working right after I left the old job. This job is the best job I've ever had and I am so thankful for it. Many other things like that have happened to me that just goes to show that everything happens for a reason, but it's too long to tell.
@steffi30 (104)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Hi, I do believe that everything happens for a reason. I'm not always sure what the reason is but I do believe that. The job I have now I wouldn't have if the store I work at hadn't been bought out by another company. I'm an asst. manager now. I needed the extra money but sometimes I get tired of the job.
@LAWise520 (276)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I don't know the reason for my car accident where I was kept safe when compared with the damage done to my car, which is now totalled. Even so, I ended up with an ankle sprain so bad that the orthopedist put me in a walking boot and told me not to walk with it. I have to drag these extra ten pounds along with my crutches. With a sprain this bad, the future of my ankle involves a careful life. When someone sprains their ankle, the spot which was sprained never fully heals and therefore can be sprained again and again easier each time. My sprain has created an extremely weak spot that will allow for many more sprains in the future. The reason for this? I don't know yet. It's not even been a week since my accident. I may not know for years. I hope that something better happens...but I don't know.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
26 Aug 07
sorry it took me so long to respond. i hope u are doing better from your accident. lifeis a crazy thing you never know why some things go the way they do. thanks for your response
@tsitra100 (171)
• Barbados
25 Aug 07
From the day we are born we are at some time meant to die. Based on this fact, I conclude some things are meant to happen.
• Canada
16 Aug 07
I have had some pretty cool and unusual things happen to me, and the timing has been amazing. This has happened so often that I am begining to understand what people mean when they say there is no such thing as coinsedence. I think God has a higher plan for me. I just have to follow the signs.
• United States
15 Aug 07
Yes I am a firm believer in things happen for a reason. I too have had a simular experience about the work thing but my biggest reason for believing is a whole lot more. My mother past away feb. 28th of this year..and I had a really hard time with that but after thinking and thinking and praying...I came up with the feeling that things happen for a reason...Mom had alshiemer's and was getting pretty bad off as far as remembering things but to make a long story short..She is where she belongs now and I am alot better off knowing that she went "home" before the diease got the best of her. I have a friend that her dad has alshiemers and don't even know who she is anymore, and he don't talk at all anymore...I am glad mom didn't get that way before she left.