Is there any real male-female friendships?

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Croatia (Hrvatska)
August 15, 2007 6:52am CST
I have a good boyfriend we're in relationship for 3 years, but he has got that his best friend, which if I may say is his ex girlfriend, she never stop love him but he doesn't see it. Now, you tell me is there any real male-female friendships, in which is no love, sexuallity and such a things?
13 responses
@sherriet (50)
• United States
15 Aug 07
There are. Some of my best friends are male, but most of them don't date women. My best straight male friend is married with 2 kids, just like I am. We never dated and that's probably why we're still friends. An ex and I kept in touch for a while, but his girlfriend wasn't fond of it. Does your boyfriend's fried date? Maybe once she's serious about someone else it will be easier for you too be around here. Good luck. Sherrie
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Aug 07
well, first I have to say, I'm not very jealous on her, the thing that bothers me is that she is always somewhere around us, we don't have much of privacy.. Once we were kissing in some par and there she was running to say us 'hi', I mean I wouldn't run to my best friend if he's kissing some girl, would you? She use to had a boyfriend but she dump him, now she's alone...
• United States
15 Aug 07
Sounds like she's jealous of you. Not necessarily because she wants him, but because there's another woman in his life.
• United States
14 Nov 07
Although I'd like to believe in real male-female friendships, there are always some problems. I've had 3 guys in the past that I've considered best friends. The first guy was a year younger and attended a different school. Eventually we grew apart, naturally. The second and third guys were excellent friends, I thought, but over a period of time, they started to catch feelings for me, more than friendship feelings. Me, having a boyfrind, decided that having a male best friend is detrimental, especially when youre with a jealous guy. In your situation, i wouldnt have it. an ex girlfriend??? No, the feelings are still there and are going to continue to be there... thats a dangerous thing!
@eden32 (3976)
• United States
6 Sep 07
My best friend is a man who I had a very brief relationship with & we are just friends now. We had been friends for ages, we both happened to be single at the same time & went out a couple times as a couple. That didn't work at all and we stepped back to being friends. I love him in that I trust him with any thing I have & I would do just about anything he ever asked of me, but I have no interest in a relationship with him nor does he want to be in a relationship with me. He is friends with my current partner, who knows our history & there is no issue. If I had wanted to be with him, I wouldn't be with my current partner. If you trust your partner it shouldn't matter who he is friends with, if you do not trust him you have bigger problems than who his friends are.
@puchapox (583)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
I have a few good guy friends, and I do believe that its real friendship, nothing else. One of my closest friend is a guy, my boyfriend knows that and he doesn't mind. My friend and I have been close since college. It started out as a group of friends, a sort of clique but in time we've grown closer together. There are interests that we share and problems that we've been through that strengthens our friendship. He is already married, and his wife knows me, and her being a jealous person, she doesn't mind our closeness. Its like we treat each other like brother and sister. I admit I love him, and so does he, but not in a romantic way.
@rave700 (247)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
...of course there is...however you can not say that there's no love in friendship...since we all know that love makes friendship last....if i ask you do you have a friend?...do you love them?...of course you do isn't..i think some girlfriends just get insecure when boys have girl friends...it's just a matter of trust between you and your partner..it doesn't matter if you have boy-girl friends...but you know what good friends can be developed into deeper relationship that's why make sure you and your partner should do something in order to make your relationship prosper....goodluck
@pinnibabu (135)
16 Aug 07
male-female can be friends. There need not the things which you mentioned in such a relationship. How are you so sure that your BFs Ex still loves him? In case you really have a strong point to prove that she still loves him then it is better he avoids her. Otherwise you are sure to feel insecure.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 Aug 07
I guess there is pure relationship, but they wouldnt be so close... Because ppl always treat ppl good for some reason... Ur bf treats the girl good coz he sees her as a friend, n friend tends to treat friends good... Whereas on the other hand, the girl sees the relationship differently... As in, maybe she has, maybe she hasnt gotten over the guy... But yah, the fact is she treats him good coz she still carrys a torch for ur bf... Perhaps u can tell ur bf, im a girl and i noe what girls will do... I mean even if u all are jus friends, can u all keep a certain distance from each other? Because i will be so jealous and since im ur gf, shouldnt u ease and cure me of my jealousy? Thrashing things out works a million better ways... My bf used to be close with his ex too and i really got so jealous i told him and he said hes sorry coz he never know i would be so jealous... Afteralll, its always good to let others know what u r thinking especially hes ur bf... =)
• China
16 Aug 07
I think there should be some real friendships. I encounter the same trouble with you. My boyfriend have a lot of friends, which are mostly female. But since I love him so much, I told him that if you still love me,pls don't let me know anything about your female friends relation.I'll keep in blind. And just make yourself believe there is the really friendships between them. Pls discuss with your boyfriend open-mindly.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
16 Aug 07
I think that there definitely can be, but it depends on the two people. It is often a lot harder after a break up to maintain a completely platonic friendship, as the feelings may still be strong for one or both parties. I have many excellent male friends that I would never consider becoming 'close' to, and my amazing boy friend who has plenty of female friends, and i don't doubt him even for a second. People just have to be friends with the personality, and not the gender.
• United States
15 Aug 07
No. I can attest for that. I was in the same situation. My b.f and I have been together for almost 3 yrs and my ex and I were still friends. I just found out that he is still in love with me. He was being friends with me to kinda keep tabs on me so I had to cut him loose as a friend. When ex's are friends, there is always someone who is still hopeful
@wendy805 (261)
• China
15 Aug 07
well i think male-female friendship exists but there is no male-exgirlfriend friendship. no such a thing.be careful.
@zaichn (319)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
Well in my experience. Yes! I have a very good relationship with my childhood friend. We've been best friends since we were little. She is special to me.. but we're just friends.. and that's it. No love nor sexuality.. With you case, I think you have the right to get jealous since I think you really are jealous with your boyfriend's ex-gf. And yeah, there are really times that the ex-gf/ex-bf still have feelings for their ex but just hide it for the sake of their new relationship as friends. But I think his ex-gf should just back off. I mean, he's already your boyfriend. And she knows that your together. So she should just leave some space between them. Yes, they maybe best friends but she has to put some distance or some limit to their friendship since he's yours.
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
15 Aug 07
to be honest, no i dont think so, i mean not really good friendships...i have surface friendships with guys ie work and church, but its not like we would go out for a drink or anything...men are always thinking of one thing...and that hampers any sort of friendship...