To Love ..
August 15, 2007 7:34am CST
Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late. Remember, you may find love and lose it but, "When love dies, You never have to die with it". Remember that you cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is out in the test of fire. You cannot be a sooner of your mistake forever. Remember, we all fail and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Loving is always a learning process. With love, we learn how to care and sacrifice. We learn to share and reach out. We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can. And when everything doesn't end well, we learn how it feels to fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that "Life doesn't end where our heartaches begin". There is no future in a relationship of lies and selfishness. It's true, there's life in love. But, there can still be life even after losing love if you leave the past behind and let your heart heal and give you the chance to find yourself again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that "happiness is not a matter of destiny but a matter of choice". There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of its when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. "you dont have to forget someone you love. what YOu need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. You would better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving." Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. "If you lose love, that doesnt mean that you have failed in love. cry if you have to. but make sure that tear washes away the hurt and bitterness that the pass left you with. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you.." And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. Someone on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that he/she finally stumbled upon the right man/woman when what he/she just found is only someone to cover up for the love he lost. A man who makes promises with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them. "its true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for someone who doesn't even care or understand how we feel."
15 Aug 07
Wow! That was a long one. Cheers to you. Definitely, everything has been said about love in your intro. I am happy that you have posted this since I am really in love at this moment. In love yet in pain.. I am in a 4-year relationship with someone but I just can't quite understand why I can't forget the one girl that captured my heart first yet didn't even gave me a chance to show my love for her. I really cried for months and months. Just like quoted " It may rain 40 days and 40 nights but still will not rain forever ". Uhhh.. I really love your post! I can't explain everything I am feeling now. So confused, in love and in pain.. Just to share some lines from a poem written by Stormy. I still miss you.. But not like I did before.. The intense aching I felt. Isn't there anymore. I still whisper your name. Not as often as I used to. Now it may be once before the day is through. I still long for you.. To feel your touch.. But its not like before.. I don't dream it as much. I still think about you. And wonder how you are But my feelings have changed. And they don't go as far. I still feel you sometimes.. Maybe youre thinking of me? Or maybe its just a little memory of how it used to be. You still have a piece of my heart.. Because I always felt you here. Now, I'm hoping and praying That, that too, will quickly disappear This will be my last goodbye.. i've nothing else to say.. Everything I felt for you Can now just fade away.. It's for my first love. :((
15 Aug 07
Me too. I really love the poem. :) And ow, its not the complete copy since I just typed some lines but not all of them. The link of the poem is : http://www.best-love-poems.com/poems.php?id=587410 It was not written by stormy.. my bad.. it was written by a nickname purple rain.. Just visit the link or copy it in your browser.. There are really good poems at the site. You'll love it there. Best of luck to you! and thanks. :)
15 Aug 07
I am at the moment separating from my bf and it is really hard. We both love eachother but for some reasons we can not be together, we have been living together for almost 2 years so it is hard to just live alone and without the love of your life =( I am sure that the pain will reduce in time though!
16 Aug 07
but why? i thought you love each other? why there is a sudden change of hearts? if you love each other then fight for it.. only if your sure he still feels the same with you.. thanks for the response marie.. i have post a discussion here entitled hard lesson on love.. you might like to check it.. have a nice day.. and have a happy heart... :)