Saying sorry

By Glen
@glenniah (1201)
Mandurah, Australia
August 16, 2007 5:38am CST
In the film Love Story is the well known phrase, 'love means never having to say sorry'. Do you agree with this? Do you think some people might just use it as an excuse and not really be sorry and not want to take responsibility for their actions? Do you enjoy making up after a quarrel? Do you like to talk about things and get them sorted or are you the quiet type who just wants to 'get over it and move on'. Glen
5 responses
@vinzen (1022)
• India
17 Aug 07
Hi, yes i also have heard this phrase but very few are able to really mean and follow it to its true meaning though. We do all expect that love means never to say thank you nor sorry, but somewhere deep within our hearts, we do expect these simple things from our spouse, making us more human i think, reason being, maybe we arent all that close to them or maybe we have our own kind of differences amongst each other, and there is always some communication gaps within us. But if you notice, when all is smooth sailing and well between the lovers, then this really works as well, that time everything is forgiven, all your mistakes are over looked, so no sorrys are required no thank you, and the moment you fight, you expect these words from each other too, so al depends from what the reasons are really.
@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
18 Aug 07
Hi vinzen. You make some good points. Its true when everything is ok between us, all is forgiven. Then a little upset and wow, watch out. Is it just that we are human? When things are great we are happy and confident but when we fight our insecurities come to the fore. We start feeling insecure and not so confident and happy. Relationships can be so complicated. Yet who would be without them? Glenniah
@vinzen (1022)
• India
18 Aug 07
Thanks for replying and yes you are right that when all is smooth sailing, we like it and are happy and the moment anything misfires, it disrupts everything else aorund causing things to turn sour and bitter between us. Yes we cannot do without relationships and are happy to deal with things as and when, how life unfurls them in front of us, thats why its called life !
@Rollo1 (16686)
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Aug 07
Actually, that's a very dangerous philosophy. If you love someone, you have to be able to humble yourself and apologize when you have hurt them or done something thoughtless. Let's face it, even when we don't mean to, we can say things that injure another's feelings. Love is sacrifice, not self-centered. Love doesn't say "everything I do is alright, I can call it right because I love that person". Love is having the best interests of the loved one take precedence over your own. Should you say you are sorry? Of course, and maybe there are times you should say it when you are in the right, because asserting your rightness will only damage the relationship and create a block of communication and hurt between you. Never be afraid to apologize to one you love, it means "I love you enough to put your feelings about this above my need to be right".
@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
20 Aug 07
So, its not really about who is right or who is wrong but more about respect and as you say, 'being able to put another's feelings above our own need to be right. We can't change anyone else but sometimes if we change our own reactions the other person has the ability to change also. thanks rollo
• India
18 Aug 07
Yes people sometimes do take advantage of such facts but if they have consions then they just can't. I blv that if ur a good friend then sorry & thank you aren't necessary but i would still expect it. Otherwise that person may frgt that it's polite to say those words!
@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
19 Aug 07
Yes shyamjoshi I agree. We dont have to say it if we are good friends. but it is nice to hear it as a matter of respect and as you say politeness. Thanks for stopping by glenniah
@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
i like to talk things and sort it out...it's really nice to know what's the problem and solve it together with your partner... i don't agree with.."love means never having to say sorry"...you are right some people might just use it as an excuse and dont take responsibility for their actions... i guess we need to say sorry for anything we did wrong..saying sorry means acknowledging the wrong things that we have done....so saying sorry is very important to me and ofcourse we need to be sincere in saying those words.. keep smiling...:D
@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
18 Aug 07
Thanks Jen_n. You have made some wise comments. I couldnt agree more with you. Thanks for stopping by. glenniah
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
16 Aug 07
Hi. Personally Id like to talk things out if I was any situation where I needed to sort something out, Im not the kind that will sit there quietly and say nothing... But then thats a big if...
@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
18 Aug 07
That sounds very wise Nardz. Talking things out really gets to the bottom of things. I wonder if sitting there quietly and saying nothing just causes lots of resentment in a person. It is a big if, I dont know know what the answer is really. I guess we do the best we can at the time Glenniah