Are you treated like you are less important because you ar a stay at home mum

@Vixx06 (162)
August 16, 2007 7:21am CST
I am the mother of 3 girls. My youngest 2 are 4 and 5. I am seperated from my husband and sometimes find it hard to make ends meet. There is no way that I could go out to work as I cant afford the child care. I decided to start working from home. I do however feel that when people talk about their work they dont include me as I stay at home. I know that other friends of mine feel the same. Some of my friends that dont work at all but do have kids complain about the way that their husbans treat them. If a man comes home from work he is tired, he sits down and rests. A mother that stays at home never stops. She normally get up with the kids and is still going until the kids are in bed and the dishes are done. I think stay at home mums have a harder job than most. What do you think?
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
16 Aug 07
There are many women that are treated that way. Husbands don't realize that it is a non-stop job from morning to night. I have been fortunate that my husband is not like that and is very supportive of whether I stay at home or work. He knows that I work hard either way and appreciates that. I wish more men could understand that we women have many hats to wear!
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@Vixx06 (162)
16 Aug 07
It sounds like you have a lovely man.
@youless (87602)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 07
I do think a stay at home mom is a very important job. I know how difficult it is for you to take care of your family by yourself. A housewife is a job that without paid and break. You are wonderful because you try to work at home. It seems that at least it will bring you some income. When your children grow up, then you can go out to work. Best wishes!
@peaceful (3286)
• United States
16 Aug 07
As a businessman who works mainly from home, I say that it's time that you got yourself some new friends... Seriously, Your Life is tough enough without the "Put Downs" and poor treatment that these people are presenting to you! If these people knew anything, they would know that most, if not all, service sector jobs are becoming home-based, and that the country's employment trends are going more towards family-friendly conditions, allowing parents to have much more quality time at home... working at their own pace, or building businesses and such... As gently as I can say, these people don't realize that The Industrial Age is fast coming to a halt, and that The Information Age, is Here and Now, and their way of viewing your Life is simplistic and silly, more suited to the "Violently Ignorant". SAHM's, SAHD's, WAHM's and WAHD's... are here to stay, and are really a welcome change in the man's view... they should be treated with the utmost respect because they are doing their level best to provide Society with something that it truly needs: Healthy, Happy and Intelligent Future Citizens ________________________________________________ Your "friends" are so self-absorbed that they can't see beyond their own self- importance and they simply can't get a grip on the way that Life is changing. Their wrong-headed, Ego-based Goofiness, will not allow them to see the many tasks and brain-power that it takes to keep a home and raise great children, and try to make a living at the same time. My own thoughts are with those that support folks just like you. There are many resources and groups and businesses available, and you are welcomed and respected... and even Loved for what you are: A Mother, A Homemaker, An Entreprenuer, A Teacher and so many other great titles that it will hurt my fingers to type them all... My advice: Stay Alert for Great Things, Stay Smart about whatever you decide to do to make a living, and above everything else, Don't tolerate for one second, ANY attempt by others to "Emotionally Hi-Jack" you with their puny comments! The WORLD is Yours, if you want It to be... Along with your hard work, you've gained a measure of Freedom, and that Freedom allows you the Time to "Open Many Doors" and really see what's Out There! :) May Joy, Abundance and Peace Be with You and Yours! Blessed Be! http://www.vixx.youaremighty.com