Does Your Boss Nit Pick Your Every Move?

@RenaeT (688)
United States
August 16, 2007 8:01pm CST
I just started a job 3 months ago and I really liked it at first, but lately, my boss has started nit picking everything I do. I hate it when I see her approaching my desk because she is usually going to tell me what I did wrong, ask me why I haven't done something, and questions me about what I have done. It's always WHAT, WHY, WHERE, DID YOU?? Never a "Thank you" "You're doing a good job" "Good morning" or anything. Just no encouraging words at all. It's very demotivating. How about you?
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@AmbiePam (45735)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Do you think she's having a problem in her personal life? Sometimes the people who gripe the most, are really unhappy with something in their own life, that they can't change. So they start finding other their frustration. If that is not it, then maybe you can put an anti-depressant in her coffee. : )
@RenaeT (688)
• United States
17 Aug 07
LOL!! I think she takes more antidepressants than I do!! I take 10 MG of Paxil each day...very low dosage. But, I know she is OCD and she even told me she is "heavily medicated". . . but I think I know what most of her problem is. She is insecure and my husband is her boss. I think it makes her feel insecure. She told me last week that Unless I could agree not to discuss work at home with my husband, she would prefer I not work there. It's really silly because there's nothing bad for me to tell him about, everything is just fine. I don't know what she is so paranoid about me telling him!! I love my job, but I feel like she is trying to make me not like it so I will quit. By the way . . .how are your smoking neighbors doing with their butts?
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@AmbiePam (45735)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Oh, they're still butteheads!
@crazynurse (7510)
• United States
26 Aug 07
YES!!!! My boss is very bad for this type of behavior. There seems to be no way to please her. She gets onto myself and the other nursing faculty for the least little things. We have 're-visited' our faculty manual, student manual and other documents every year...updating them. It is like she LOOKS for things to do and is never satisfied to let things be for a bit. I am the faculty who has been there the longest, so she is forever using the excuse, "You are my senior faculty..and I need you to lead the way on this project." I get sooo tired of hearing that!
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@RenaeT (688)
• United States
26 Aug 07
Well, my boss has won this battle. I have surrendered. It's a very long story, but she told my husband, who is her boss, that she felt 'Railroaded' into hiring me. See, I started as a temp, then, asked her if I could be the permanent instead of them hiring someone else because I really liked it. She did NOT say a word other than, "Go on your trip to San Diego and when you get back, tell me if you still want it." That was the perfect opportunity for her to say, "I think we need to discuss this further when you get back from San Diego." So, rather than be a real boss, and speak up, she's doing this passive aggressive behavior thing. She does NOT do it to anyone else, and she doesn't speak to me either, unless it's to reprimand me or she leaves stupid little notes for me to find when I get in. It's SO rediculous!! I am an outstanding employee!! I am dedictated, I LOVE the students, I give EXCELLENT customer service, I go in on my days off, I work late . . . not only that, I'm supervising the work study students and that is HER job! But, her bottom line is, she feels railroaded into hiring me, gee, I know lots of bosses who would LOVE to be railroaded into hiring an excellent dedicated employee, but for some reason, she can't get past that I'm married to her boss and even told me that I was not allowed to talk to him about what goes on in the office when we get home at night!! LOL!!! The thing is, if she was an excellent boss, and a great worker, she would be excited about having someone be able to speak on her behalf about what a GOOD job she is doing! It so crazy. So, I'm bowing out. Quitting. It hurts. I've cried and prayed about it. I know that it's exactly where God wants me, but, what do I do when it's where GOD wants me but not where my BOSS wants me?? Suggestions??
• Cambodia
11 Jan 08
Maybe you can tell her with a little humor It can make her realize she doesn't behave like a good manager ?
@RenaeT (688)
• United States
12 Jan 08
She got fired in October! I don't rejoice in anyone losing their job, but my job has been so much better since then!!