do you asked back the things that you have given to others already?

@jHoEn16 (2043)
Australia
August 17, 2007 12:19am CST
i just want your opinion about people like this... and tell me about your same experience... my husband work in his friend rent a car services, last wednesday my husband come home early since nothing left to do with the cars, it's all done...and before he go home he asked mick (my husband's friend)if he have to work tomorrow.. mick said only 3 hours... so my husband told mick in a nice way, that he cant come to work for 3 hours only coz he has to drive 1 hour from our house to port douglas.. mick agree with it and understand it. my husband called mick today and leave a message to call him back... it was vanessa, mick's partner who called back and she was asking back the child restraint that mick gave to us... so my husband said "i thought it's ours already?" and then vanessa said, "NO, can you bring it on our house tonight?" and my husband said ok.. when my husband tell me that thing i told him to bring the restraint now and dont wait for the night to come. so he bring the restraint back. now, i was asking to myself. why there are people like that? to think that they were friends? how could they ask back of the things that they have given already? how could they gave it to us and then take it back later? is it because my husband didnt go to work for 3 hours? and now we cant go out to the city since we cant travel without a child restraint.. we have to wait for my husband free time before we can get another one... huh! sometimes people are strange..
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@sid556 (31002)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Was the child restraint a part of the rental company or was it something that mick just loaned him? It sounds to me as if there may have been some miscommunication between it being loaned and given? It seems as if there is more to this story. I would call Vanessa up and just ask her what is up.
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
its a part of the rental company that micks owned..they have a new designs and stock of childs restraint thats why mick give that old one to my husband... and before my husband accept it he asked mick if he is really sure of giving the restraints to him and mick say YES... do you think its a miscommunication?
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@sid556 (31002)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Well, now that sounds pretty clear. Maybe the communication lies between mick and vanessa. Maybe she did not intend for it to be given away. I would give her a call still. then you will know.
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
lol thats a nice try hahahahaha... you make me laugh out loud and even my husband laugh too... youre funny... thanks for the comments. and dont forget to let me know after you call her ok? lol
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
17 Aug 07
Hi. Yes I agree, sometimes people can do strange and queer things. I just think what happened to you and your husband was quiet immature of them to take it out on your child by taking back the child restraint, that was given to you... Thats why it pays to buy your own gears... Good luck to yous...
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
yes you're right! they are too immatured to think that they are both old! the one thing that i dont understand is... why they didnt give us a good explanation of why they have to want back the restraint? thanks for your responce
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
well you can only ask something back if you lend it only. but if it is given already then it is so rude for people to ask it back. are you sure they gave it? or just lend? well if they gave it already then i think there is something wrong with their brain....lol. that is so rude. strange? yes that is strange giving something that you will (in the later part) claim that you have to have it again. and this is the kind of people you call friends? think again pal.... are they friends? coz friends dont act like that.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
i am 101% sure that they give it to us! giving is different from lending... and if ever mick lend it to my husband he will not agree, he might bought a new one.but since mick offer him that restraint he accept it coz he think that it will help for us to save money... we dont need to buy a new one... and now they ask back the restraints, and you were right! something wrong with thier brains! my husband said he's over with mick anymore. i feel sorry for him but on the other side i am happy... coz he knows what kind of person is mick and vanessa... and it would be a big lessons for him.. thanks for the responce roni
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
yes that is the sign to end a friendship, atleast it didnt end because you guys did something bad.... but they are the ones who did something bad. life goes on my friend.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
yes! you're absolutely right! god knows what they are doing... and god will punish people like that...
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I have to agree that this sounds like a miscommunication. Maybe you should call her and ask why she wanted the restraint back. Maybe she just thought she was letting you borrow it for a few days (or however long you had it). Sometimes these these can be worked out just by communicating and finding out why a person said what they did. Good luck.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
as i said before, they really gave it to us... and brfore my husband accept it he ask mick again if he is really sure of giving the restraint to us... and mick said YES... my husband keep calling on micks and vanessa to ask whats happening but they just said they were busy so my husband leave a message to call him back if they are not busy anymore
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@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Then shame on them! What kind of people give you something especially something for your child's safety then take it back? They must be mad about something and too wimpy to be honest with you about what it is. That makes me mad to think people do that stuff. I am very sorry that happened to you!
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
thanks wotfpatty for that... i feel really bad and my husband too... you know he called to mick again and he doesnt even try to explain... i just feel sorry for my husband coz mick is not others for him he is just like a bro and then he do that... i am trying to comfort my husband and forget about it... god knows what they did..
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@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
i dont. i think it is impolite to ask for the return of something you have diven to somebody. the lesson here is before giving domething you should be 100% sure that you dont need it and that you are not going to ask for its return. it would be totally embarrassing and inconvenient to do so.
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
18 Aug 07
yes you were right... it is impolite and doesnt have a good manners... we will understand if they give us any reason why? but they didnt... thanks for the responce
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
Hi jHoEn16! That is a very immature behavior on your friends' part if the reason behind such action is just to get back to your husband. I agree, sometimes people do strange things. haha.. As for me, if I have given something to any person, I wouldn't be asking for it to be returned. If I just have lent it to them, I will of course ask it back. I never have any experience on these as of this time and I hope I will never have because that would really annoy me. Take care and have a nice day!
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
18 Aug 07
you're absolutely right! they are too immature knowing that they are old enough... thanks for the responce faith210
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Sounds as if they let you borrow it and now they need it back, maybe you just misunderstood. Hope this is the case!
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
no its not! coz if they only let us borrow... mick would say that the second time my husband ask him if he is really sure of giving the restraint to us? what do you think?
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
20 Aug 07
I am a sincere person when it comes to giving and when I give, I dont have the habit of taking it back. Its not good to hea about taking back the things that you already gave to someone.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
glad to know that you're a sincere person zelmarq... keep it up! and may the god be with you always for being so kind