Is this still love?

United States
August 17, 2007 5:26pm CST
After many years of marriage....settling down into a routine that works for you and your partner....having the ability to be completely at ease sitting in the same room with this person and not having to say a word yet, being able to talk about any subject? To me, this is the best type of love...a love that knows no boundaries and is stable and strong....being able to be oneself without the added pressure of being the person they think you are or should be.... What do you think, my friends?
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• United States
17 Aug 07
I agree. It IS the best type of love. I have some best friends in my life. My husband is amongst those. I couldn't imagine life without him, even though he tends to pluck my nerves at times. And as I've told him, God forbid, if he ever grew tired of being my husband, he had better not stop being my friend! ;) There are jokes about better halves, but he truly IS my better half, and I his. He is what keeps me sane most of the time. :)
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@lexus54 (3577)
• Singapore
18 Aug 07
Stable marriages anchored on solid ground should be as you have described, and I am happy to say that my marriage is like this, just as yours is. Love doesn't have to be pretentious. A couple can be and act themselves, because they already know each other inside out, and have looked beyond each other's faults and limitations. They can be with each other and don't say anything, and they wouldn't feel odd about that. At times, words can take the form of body language. A nod here, a little nudge there, a smile on the face.. may be all that is needed to convey a message that is implicitly understood. Even if the "I love you" is not said that often, the things your partner does without even being asked show the depth of love that exists. For those who are in it, there's really no substitute for wonderful, stable marriages.
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• United States
18 Aug 07
hello, my dear friend.....I am glad to see you....yes, we are truly blessed... I knew that we shared this type of stable and comfortable marriage respectfully....LOL
@lexus54 (3577)
• Singapore
19 Aug 07
Amen to that! I've said in a previous post that I can see myself growing old with the person I married. I know you can and will too. I thank God for His blessings.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
18 Aug 07
i think you are right on the money with this one my friend. that is that comfortable love. that doesn't happen over nite. that is from years of just knowing each other. that comes from loving him enough to know that his voice get's on your nerves and you need a break!!! lol just kidding
• United States
18 Aug 07
The nice thing is that we both know that we get on each others nerves occassionally....but respect each other enough to look over this with hardly a notice...LOL
@Far525 (37)
• China
18 Aug 07
In some way, love is a kind of habbit to take care of someone and sacrifice yourself for someone and understand someone.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I think it definitely is. That's what a marriage should be about. You should feel comfortable enough to just sit in silence with the one you love.
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
16 Nov 07
More things are said unspoken meaningful than spoken, you obviously have a great relationship, where you are both at ease with each other and nothing has to be said knowing you both feel the same way. Friendship and companionship hold the relationship together, you have a great understanding, so yes it is still love my friend.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
22 Aug 07
Yes that is the best Love as you are comfortable with each other you are Content and that is such a good thing It is not many Marriages anymore that have that kind of Love which is sad
• United States
21 Aug 07
Yes, dear friend, this is love. It is unconditional and does not require constant attention. But it does require the commitment you have shown. Well done on a beautiful life. sunny waters
19 Aug 07
I think this is what its all about. My partner and I can be in the same room, he on the psp and me on the laptop. We take time out, have a laugh and a chat and then go back to what we are doing. He loves playing the guitar and will spend hours composing music, but I would not have him any other way. I have never controlled him for my constant affections and he is the same with me. Being comfortable with each other and not feeling rejected is when the love between each other is strong. I love a touch or a kiss as we pass each other or a wink from across the room. Anyway, I think I would go insane if I never got to have some personal space!!LOL
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I know what you mean. I love to see the love in this way. I think we have some of this kind of ability still in us and we like this way we can still love each other, enjoying the life in oter way
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I agree. Me and my hubby have been married for 25 years and sometimes we don't have anything to talk about except his work. but to me I don't care if we talk or not just as long we are still together that matters to me.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Hubby and I are 3 weeks from our first wedding anniversery but we have been together for a total of 7 years. We have this exact type of marriage. It's very nice to have this type of comfort and peacfulness with someone. AT PEACE WITHIN
@Far525 (37)
• China
18 Aug 07
As far as I see,this kind of love can last forever.Love cannot be full of energy,because, one day, it may be put out by the passing of the time.Love also need be quiet and plain.This kind of love belongs to a kind of feelings among friendsand relatives.In a word,love is not the romatic story and it is the life.
• India
18 Aug 07
Yes you are absolutely right in the way you described love. That is it should not have any boundary and that is only true love. The relation in which you have even a bit of hitch in saying or doing something is not love at all. To me there should be no secret, no boundary and endless faith between the lovers. Only then a love relationship can be successful.
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Yes i think settling into a routine is love, it means to me we are comfortable with each other and know we are there for each other but no words need to be spoken, I am often comforted by just being in the same room with my husband. We can talk about anything and he is truly intrested in what I have to say as I am in what he has to say.We each have our own personalitys that shine on each other and shareing those with each other makes us stronger.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I think you are totally right. There's a lot to be said for "stable", even though if you ask some of my friends they'd say my situation is boring. Which is fine with me. I love knowing that my hubby will call me on his break everyday at 9:15 and I'll hear a "Hi beautiful." The best part is that it has always been like this between us. There was never any of the "OMG I have to impress this guy" early on in our relationship, we just fell into it and it was natural, hardly any effort involved at all.