what do you do when you know people around you are angry with you?

India
August 17, 2007 5:41pm CST
what do you do when you know that people around you are angry for no rhyme or reason. maybe because you are happy even if you dont own the things that would make others fret if they didnt have them. or you laugh in your worst situstions or just keep saying it gonna be good one day. what does one do ?
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@pismeof (855)
• United States
17 Aug 07
Apple,If people are judgeing you because of a life still choice or the way that you conduct yourself then find out what their problem is.How does it effect them? Are you ignoring some responsibility that has a direct impact on their life? If the answer is no,Then I'd say ignore them or share your point of view with them.
• India
17 Aug 07
thats right. i will find out what is it that i can do to make them happy, in the ways they want. i some how feel that a lot of smiles and happiness arent taken too well by some people, though i dont know why. thankyou for your suggestions. love, apple.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
18 Aug 07
It is a fact of life, applecart, that one cannot change another's feelings. It used to bother me if someone was angry with me, but, now I just take it in stride. There is no way that you can please everyone, so don't even try. If I know tht I have done nothing to offend anyone I don't care if they're angry.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
18 Aug 07
You will find, apple, that I have a wealth of advice and don't mind giving my opinion, but feel free to call on me anytime.
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• India
18 Aug 07
thankyou thankyou. i need so many but i am scared i might put you off. you know thw world gets put off by people who need advise and tag them as wanna bes. love, apple.
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• India
18 Aug 07
believe me , i felt that someone made me sit and understand what you just said. it was like i was being made to understand from an elder sister. thankyou so much. i feel lite with your words. always here foe you, always, lots of love and truth, apple.
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• Pakistan
18 Aug 07
The people around us could not become angry or iritate without any reason. There hundered and one reasons which cause to make some one unhappy and angry. We should keep the point in mind that what is the reason which made the iritated person un happy. We should say "sorry" if fault is caused due to our side. If a person is angry due to some other person or some reason does not relate to you, then you should justify and favor the person and make him or her in cool minded position and after then we should convince about all of the blacks and whites of the topic. If this is not possible, then we should leave him or her alone and we should run off to escape from such critical situation.
• India
18 Aug 07
run off from that place, right. bhaago ! you are right. we dont know many a times its our fault. thats right. kehte hain pehle se hi anjaam likha hota hai, har cheez ka ek daam likha hota hai. appericiate your thought. love, apple.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
18 Aug 07
if someone is angry around me i just put my head up high,walk away before i do get mad and say its gonna be ok,and no one or nobody is gonna put my pride down and make me say things that i will regret.because alot of times when someone is angry they tend to say hurtful things to each other and even though most of the time they dont mean it,it was still said.to me that would bother me.dont put your pride down,keep your head up high,and just think to yourself how lovely life is,and smile.a smile goes a long way.
• India
18 Aug 07
thankyou so much for boosting so much confidence in me. thats right no one has the right to put anyone's pride down aor worse try to crush it know well that the other is not harmful in any way. people can hurt in many ways and the worst is when they want to hurt one's soft emotions. make a duck out of a lion. lol. ( i laugh at my self ) i am still learning. lots of love, appple.
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@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
17 Aug 07
Hi Applecatronnie What I would do is simply ignore these people. If thsi doesn't really work I will stay friendly, and play it like a joke. This way you get them angry because you did not get angry at them :) In any case, combatting anger with anger doesn't work, and sometimes trying to talk about it doersn't work either, as it depends on so many things all together, andf every situation is different. So, I hope your question is hipothetical :)
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• India
17 Aug 07
i guess that will get them more annoyed. haha. and you are right anger makes things more complicated. this far i have been just turning anger into romance.hope that too pays off some day. slow, silent, and hoping. thanks for your suggestion. GOD bless, apple.
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• India
18 Aug 07
thankyou my dear friend. you seem to be a Very sensible person. you know when we are quiet it some how drains the other person's anger. and i guess what else life is apart from giving. no matter waht we are here to serve. GOD ALMIGHTY is the ONE who fixes everything and is also happy when HE sees us tiny people trying to be humble. thankyou my friend, prayers, apple.
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• Portugal
26 Sep 07
Well, if I can do something to make them smile or cheer up it's my pleasure to do it. It is nice to at least make people smile when they are down or shall I say, I love to help them lighten their days. *smile* Anyways, I am not the one whom they got upset, right? So maybe I can listen to their heartaches and can give some advices to help them out from that mood. I will be definitely happy if they were happy too. *wink* *smile*
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• India
26 Sep 07
keen understanding of peoples' emotions and a way to cheer them is a fortefew are gifted with, i am sure it is a great blessing to have this boon and it does take a person very far on the road of good life. am glad that you are here and i am sure you have a keen sense of understanding what is to be done to life up people and show them the light of hope. GOD BLESS EVER, happy apple.
• India
28 Sep 07
that's real great spirit. keep it up girl, keep it up. smiles aways, love, apple.
• Portugal
27 Sep 07
Yeah Apple dear!!!LOL *smile* *whispering* Just pm me if you're down too so I may light up your day and let's go rockin' this mylot! hahhaa Or if not, let's peep on others' heart maybe we can be of help. :) Seriously, I've been on that mood and so all you do too, and it was nice feeling when there's someone you can lean on to ease the pain from your heart. Someone at least who can listen to us on our blue moments and at least sympathize a 'lil, right buddy apple?. *smile*
• United States
23 Aug 07
If people around me are mad at me for something that petty, I find new people to be around. You have a great attitude. Don't let people like that bring you down.
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• India
23 Aug 07
thankyou soooooooooooooooooooo much. i mean am i lucky or am i lucky to hear some thing like that about my sweet little self from a star like you. what can i say my day is made. thank you, star dust, apple.
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• United States
24 Aug 07
I just call it like I see it, apple.
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• India
25 Aug 07
yes maam. peace and joy for you always, apple.
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@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
I will just ignore them. As long as I know that I'm not doing anything wrong then I honestly don't care if they are angry with me. You can't please everybody and I'm not even going to try.
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• India
8 Sep 07
you are right, pleasing every one is not easy, and from what you write i think you sensible. as long as one is honest one really doesnt have to bother but tha sad part is it takes some energy . smmiles, apple.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
28 Sep 07
i was in such situation several years ago. i had a girl friend who was from the same city with me, so i took her as my best friend. but sometimes she would talked ill behind me, then i felt very angry and sad. she was my best friend, why she did that against me? then i knew the reason. once i had a new cloth, then she would say it was not suitable for me, and i was ugly with wearing the cloth. when i had a new boyfriend, then she would say his faults and she was not friendly to any of my boyfriends. so they were often surprised that she was really my good friend. now i lost connection with her, because she brought my bad memories. if people around you are angry with such little things, then do yourself, i dont' think they are really friendly to you.
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• India
4 Oct 07
you sweet sweet girl, i know you for some time and thats why i know pretty prety well that you are a very nice girl and a very sensible girl though you are full of good emotions, you precious pearl. i have had many many so called friends and they deserve not atleast nice people like you and me, smiles. these are actually jealous people who come close to us just to take some good qualities from us but when they know us better they see that we have many more of these qualities and then they cant hide their jealousy from tem selves and their fleas start biting them.lol. you are cool and i wish you the very very very best sweet wonderful1. GOD BLESS us. ; apple.
• United States
8 Sep 07
I would try to get down to the bottom of it. If I couldn't then I would feel hurt but would move on and hope that in time they would get over their little "mood"
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• India
8 Sep 07
thats a great attitude "mood", thats right. really wonderful. smiles, apple.
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@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
23 Aug 07
When I know people are angry with me I talk to them. If I think that I have hurt their feelings or offended them in some way and now they are acting mad, I pull them aside and talk to them. I explain that I am the type of person who says what is on her mind and I don't intend to hurt their feelings by doing it. If I think they are mad just for the sake of being mad, I ignore them. People who are always mad take the good energy out of those around them. They bring you down! Ignore them and move on! It is not worth the time or energy.
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@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
23 Aug 07
Haha me sweet? kind? no no no I must have mislead you...really...ask my poor husband. I am a complete B! :) *big cheesy grin*
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• India
23 Aug 07
haha. nope you are not. if you were you wouldnt be so conerned about so many things to make your family life so beautiful. and also if you say you are a B**** i would say you are a beautiful imaginative tomboy causing heartbreaks. big smile for the big heart, apple.
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• India
23 Aug 07
you are right, people who are always mad take the good energy out of the otheres, also taking people aside and asking them what the matter is is a great suggestion. and also your upfront attitide is wondeful. if some one can get upset with a sweet heart like you then i think i have to see whether i should bother about the whole issue at all, you come accross as such a kind person. i guess more than anger its jealousy. i got that now. yup. its envy. you opened my thoughts in the right way. good wishes and cool, apple.
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• China
9 Sep 07
If I konw somebody are angry with me,if he or she is my friend,I will ask him or her what I did wrong.But if he or she I dno't know very well,I will avoid meeting him or her.Because I don't want to bother myself for unimportant things.
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• India
9 Sep 07
to a friend - flight to heaven.
thats well said, the moving out part. but some times sadly,lol, or rather interestingly one can not move far away because one is stuck like two peas in a pod, lol. anyways, you post is really appericiated my dearest cy. have an a mazing weekend, month, year, life and more. love and prayers, apple. keep smiling till i know how sweet you look look instead of this normal avtaar.
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@tsitra100 (171)
• Barbados
24 Aug 07
It's their right to express themselves however they want even if the motive is unclear. However you must maintain a possitive energy and you'll find their eplressions will have little effect on you.
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• India
25 Aug 07
thats right cool guy. thats right. not giving people a chance to grow with their venom on you. apple.
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• Indonesia
6 Sep 07
when i know people around me are angry with me i will beg they great pardon and i will say i'm sorry. and i hope they can forgive me. cause i wont everybody are angry with me and i think it is a worst thing for me.
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• India
7 Sep 07
jutex, you are a sweet heart, never let the other farmer plough the fields of your hearts, unless you know they have good seeds. keep the faith and be smiley smiley, with you my pal, love, apple.
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@josan181237 (1204)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
still be friendly just as long as you did not do anything wrong to those people. but if they were angry because you have done something wrong then you apologize. it's not your fault if they got angry for no reason at all. if you would continue to be friendly maybe they would soon change their attitude towards you. but if not, then at least you did your part. =)
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• India
20 Aug 07
thats sensible, thanks for . doing one's part is important i agree. apple.
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I have seldom, if ever, been around people that I know are angry with me with one exception. My wife. LOL In that case I let her rant on and try not to take it personal. I am not a social person for the most part. Not sure why just have never been. As a result most people I am around do not really know me that well so have not much to be angry at. Of course that is true even if they did. LOL
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• India
22 Aug 07
lol. you are good. you made me smile. all the smiles to you, love, apple.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
If people are angry with you and do not have the courtesy to sit down and discuss it with you then it is their problem, and I would not waste a moments time trying to figure it out.You are not a mind reader, so don't even try. keep on being happy
• India
22 Aug 07
thankyou maam. this is very right, as you said, they should sit down and discuss. i will keep on being happy special after this note from you. thankyou so very much. obliged with your note, love, apple.
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• India
21 Aug 07
Helo apple, i guess just learn to play the 'daff' thats a word coined by my friends and me for 'pretending to be deaf n dumb' i hope this works b'cos attempting to change people or their attitude is next to impossible so its better and wise to change ourselves and our attitude. You get your peace of mind and they get nothing LOL - Ano
• India
21 Aug 07
thats a smart suggestion, but some people wont even stop at that , they will nidge you with a barge pole to see whether you respond or not. lol. all my love , apple.
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• Algeria
22 Aug 07
First, I never make any chance for such a situation and even if it happens, I think I would quit the scene. It would be too much unpleasant for me to be there for long. :)
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• India
22 Aug 07
thas good just as i thought you are. correct. apple.
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@lantisb3 (114)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
I usually tend to feel things out because you can't be sure that it is you that they are angry with. When I know for sure I usually just stay quiet and look for an opportunity to find out why they are angry and then find a solution.heheheh!
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• India
23 Aug 07
very nice. sensible and understanding on your part. some where you are a brave person by the GracE of ALMIGHTY GOD. smile, and enjoy that inner strength. all my best ever. apple.
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