How to tell your new boyfriend you are not a virgin anymore??

Portugal
August 18, 2007 5:36pm CST
some friend of mine is in this situation where her new boyfriend totally believes she is still a virgin so she is a little afraid to break the news! i wonder did some of you went to a similar situation?? what's the best way to tell him?
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9 responses
• India
18 Aug 07
start with " though i love you very much, i dont know if being true to you matters" love , apple.
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• Portugal
18 Aug 07
i guess that would be a good way to start! but i dont think he would like to know just like that!
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• India
18 Aug 07
crying helps, but that is a sort of cheating if not honest. she has to tell him that she really loves him and then if he loves her so much that he cant dowithout her no matter what, then i think there shouldnt be any fuss from his side. apple.
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
well these days in society, it's kind of hard to believe that anyone is still a virgin after a certain age. Depending on her age, if he's not a virgin he shouldn't really get upset.
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• Portugal
19 Aug 07
she is still 17 and he is the same age too! and he told her he was a virgin thats why this is such a bug deal for my girl!!
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
19 Aug 07
oh i can see where the issue lies.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
19 Aug 07
Just a question, why does her boyfriend think she is a virgin, did he just assume, or did she tell him she was a virgin? I don't really see the problem if she is not, is he a virgin himself also?
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• Portugal
19 Aug 07
well he said to the girl he is still a virgin and he kinda assumed she was too and she didnt clear the situation right there on the spot when he brought the subject so now shes a little afraid to tell him! i tell her if its hard to tell him , she should just not tell at all, doesnt mean something is going to happen between them and if it happens doesnt mean he can tell shes not a virgin!! but she feels bad to be keeping it from him so thats why the big drama!
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
18 Aug 07
Why does her boyfriend need to know? Is it really any of his business? This is really silly! Why must she confess anything to him? Who's life is it anyway? Just because he's now her boyfriend doesn't give him any right to know How she has lived her life in the past! Lets get real!
• Portugal
18 Aug 07
:) i have to say that is a totally different way of seeing this matter! if it was me i wouldnt tell!! but she feels like shes hiding something from him and i guess she is not comfortable with it! thanks for ur reply!
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
18 Aug 07
I don't think it really matters much, is he still a virgin, I bet not so fair is fair but to be honest no one can really tell for sure any way unless your going to have a medical examination...if he was a vigin I just wouldn't say anything, if he isn't tell him and just tell he was was better any way and he should be happy.
• Portugal
18 Aug 07
actually he told her he is a virgin!! thats why the drama! u know i actually told her not to tell him, exactly cause he wouldnt know the difference but she feels bad lying to him (thats fair)! hehehe girl, that u were the best talk never fails! :D hehe ;)
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@humbleme (1004)
• India
19 Aug 07
Hello confessing7girl,Thanks for your post.Ask your friendto ask her boyfriend " You always claim that you love me from your heart, now suppose any unfortunate incidence happens as life is unpredictable and ten men tie you with rope and rape me infront of you, , will you still love and accept me as now or will refuse me as I will loose my virginity?" Ask her to wait and let her boyfriend tospeak. Perhaps everyone of us can guess his boyfriends answer.Now your friend should ask her boyfriend "So you mean virginity doesnt matter for you but only true love matters for you as even after that incidence if I say I love you and will be comitted towards you forever will you be still commited towards me like you are now?" Now your friend should tell her history of loosing her virginity in ten sentences slowly and wait for few days. If she feels repeatedly that her boyfriend is avoiding her intentionally,then your friend should kick him out of her life and should understand that was not her true love and should look for a new guy to get true love and still if she dont find her true love then ask her to get married arranged by her parents and I hope your friend herself will not dare to take a foolish decesion anymore to confess about her previous history of loosing her virginity infront of her newly married husband hahahahahaa
• Portugal
19 Aug 07
hi there!! hum WOW this absolutely an original idea!!thats a real interesting situation.... i dunno what to say :D maybe u r right she could really scare him off with that kind of talk and if he goes is cause he was never suppose to be!! :D thanks
@rima0013 (441)
• Iran
19 Aug 07
dear friend , i'm a boy and i think most of us are ready to hear some news of our new girl friend like thrie virginit's loosing!!! so your friend should not be afraid , just tell her to tery to be honest to her BF , in this way i don't think there would be any problem.
• Portugal
19 Aug 07
i think it isnt a big problem but she is just making scenarios in her head i cant blame her for worrying but being not a virgin anymore is soo normal these days... im sure the boy will understand! thank u for replying!
@no_chao (550)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
is it still an issue here in eath!!??? dont worry for what will other people say about that!!.. worry for your self when you face God and asked you if you failed to follow His ten commandments!!! remember?? it is included there!!.... human are just human!!! so what if your not!!! he's late..lol... just want to break the ice!!! what i really want to say is that you cant turn back time it's just two things!!! wether he accepts that or he leaves you... nways i bet your not the only girl that had s*x with other before your husband!!?? am i right!!.... and besides he's just your boyfriend!!...^_^
• Portugal
19 Aug 07
hi !!! thanks for the reply and the positive thinking here and im sure im gonna transmit the message! :D thanks
@ckw622 (57)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 07
This is depend on her boyfriend acceptance of this situation. Does he has previous girlfriend, does he mind on the virginity matter. If he matter on this issue, then you have to ask yourself whether you want to settle once for all by telling him the truth. You can tell him that you are very sorry for him that you have to leave him for good. When he wanted to know why desperately, then tell him but try not to expect he will forgive you. Just let your fate be the answer. In this way you might have a stronger and worried-free life.