Who wears the pants in your home?

By Amy
Abernathy, Texas
August 18, 2007 8:11pm CST
Who makes all the decisions in your family? You? Your hubby? Your parents? Is it a mutual decision - something discussed and then the decision reached by mutual concensus?
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
19 Aug 07
it's definitely a combo. and it depends on what sort of decisions. financial and family-affecting decisions are discussed by every body. but if i want to cook something specific, or have a wall a certain colour, then it's my choice! =P I'd like to think I'm in charge, but that I'm fair and open. =]
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• Abernathy, Texas
19 Aug 07
Ah so you're a fair and benevolent dictator - you even let everyone think the decisions are mutually decided!
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
19 Aug 07
Do you suggest I get into politics? =P It's always nice to let them *think* that, everyone can't always get their way when I want to! ;]
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• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
Isn't everything political - from, work, school, homelife. Yep, you may have guessed it, I'm trying to get the last word. This is an old discussion so likely you won't notice. :)--
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Both my husband and I make decision together as one... If one don't agree we say so and try and work threw it.. I don't live with my mom so I don't have to worry about that.. Though even if I did and being an adult I will choose my own decisions..
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• Abernathy, Texas
19 Aug 07
Its great that you're able to make mutual decisions - and if there is something you don't feel the same about you talke through it. Its important to have communication in relationships - any relationship. What about large purchases - like if he wanted a motorcyle or you wanted a great pair of expensive shoes - or whatever you guys are into that might cost a great deal. Or that would have recurring paymnets like a gym membership?
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Some things I decide. Some things he decides. Sometimes we both talk it out. Food-if I go shopping, I decide. If he goes shopping, he decides. Cars, trucks, before we buy, we discuss it and we decide. Repairs to the house, we decide. Changes to his workshop, he decides.
• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
Sounds fair and equitable - although I'm wondering what area is yours only to decide
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
4 Sep 07
My job, I decide. Housework, I decide. My car, I went to look at first and then he came and helped me decide. What cleaners get used in the house, I decide. Who we invite to dinner and when, I decide.
• United States
19 Aug 07
I think I probably end up making more of the decisions for our household than my fiance does. He is fairly indecisive, though he will let me know if a decision matters to him. Generally, though, if I didn't step in and make the decisions, nothing would ever get done. :) When it's really important, we definitely discuss it together, but if someone looked into our relationship, they would probably say that I "wear the pants."