Lack Of Communication= Lack Of Respect!!!

Communicating -  This is a picture of my former pastor communicating to his church. We had to trust him to be willing to follow along with him.
@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
August 18, 2007 10:50pm CST
You can not expect any relationship to run smoothly without communication. Whether it is business, family, friendship, marriage, or whatever. If you can not communicate honestly with those people or person the relationship is bound to fail. You have to have enough respect to let everyone involved know what is going on. If just one person is left in the dark then the relationship is not as strong as it could be and that one weak link could cause it to fail. You may have a good idea, but there is always someone out there who can come up with an even better idea and it is impossible to be loyal to someone you can not trust.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
I agree with your argument. It is the right of the people involved to know what's going on. In a group, it is always better to know everyone's opinion about a certain topic. Brainstorming can go a long way. Through communication we build trust and respect. We let other people know what we're up to. If we share something to someone, it's opening our lives to them, hence promoting bond.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
19 Aug 07
I like the idea of clustering and brainstorming. Those are very powerful tools in expressing oneself. I am a writer and learning about those techniques change everything for me.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
"Two heads are better than one." Talking/conversing with other people is very beneficial. You can learn a lot from them, people from all walks of life. I love talking to different kind of people, ages, and status quo. Good luck on being a writer. ^^v
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
19 Aug 07
You know what? I was thinking about starting a discussion tonight about how I feel like my s/o is being really disrespectful to me. In what way? By not talking to me about anything! You are so right that it is a weak link in a relationship. For us it makes me feel as though he's still trying to live his bachelor, uncommitted life. Just today as an example...I sat here all day waiting to hear from him. (we still aren't living together because of his commitment issues but that's a whole different discussion!) He lives about 5 miles over the line that makes it a long distance call from my house. I don't have long distance service so I can't call him. Normally we talk on messenger when we aren't together. So anyway.. I sat here waiting but never heard from him. I sent a few messages on the computer but he never answered any. I finally drove all the way over to see him and SURPRISE!, he wasn't home. I have no idea where he is. It is now almost 1:00am and I haven't spoken to him since last night. I call that disrespectful. I'd even be willing to bet that I won't hear from him until tomorrow afternoon or evening. That's just how he is. He doesn't THINK to talk to me unless HE needs something.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
19 Aug 07
People can only treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. You have to feel good enough about yourself to let go of people who are not going to treat you the way that any decent woman deserves to be treated. You have to respect yourself, before you can ask or expect anyone elses respect. Let him go. There is nothing to talk about or discuss. If you were expecting him to contact you and he didn't, but he knew you were waiting, then you don't need him. You can do bad all by yourself. You do not need any man dragging you down. Get out there and find someone who is going to treat you the way that you want and deserve to be treated. Don't allow him to continue to hurt you. You are better than that.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Aaw.. That happened to me before, with the same man I am living with right now. During those times too we both had issues, and communication is flailing. We are together for 7 years now, and those years I learned to understand his moods and behavior. If I wanted to tell him something, I wait for the right mood to blurt out what I have to say. And remember, never to attack. Men tend to be defensive if we push them. We must listen and make compromise. Respect is earned. If you want to be respected, then you have to respect others first. As for his issues, I guess that's what you need to talk about if you want this relationship to carry forward.
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Rozie, you are so right. I am a big believer in communication being a key ingredient to make ANY relationship work. Relationships have to be based first and foremost on trust and communincation, and then you can work on other parts. If you don't trust someone, how can you take it to the next level. You will always have doubt in your mind. If you can't communicate with someone, how will you work out any problems that may and will come up in the relationship? You have to be able to voice your opinions. Communication happens everyday. My husband and I probably wouldn't be together after all these years if we hadn't been able to talk to each other. He listens when I have something to say, and I listen to him. We make it part of our routine to talk about each other's days and anything funny or aggravating that happened. Communication is very important.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
19 Aug 07
It is very good for the health when you have someone that you can trust to share your day with. There are times when we are alone and we have to pray and share our day with God. I think that is one of the things that make Mylot so addicting. We can share our day with people all over the world and get all kinds of feedback.
@crinne (41)
• China
20 Aug 07
yes communication is important, and it's also a technical skill and hard to master. friends become adversaries, couples become strangers...are always caused by lacking of communication.
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• Philippines
20 Aug 07
why do i feel like this whole week mylot is trying to turn back things one me:D honestly, i had been dealing with situations like this..failing relationship because of mistrust and lies :( it was my fault and i am trying to fix things out but its not easy..i lied to my bf so many times it crashed his heart..now i am regretting things so bad and its killing me so bad..i feel like its all about me and my lies and mylot is just making me realize it more..
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
19 Aug 07
This is very true, what you are saying. But I do think that tact and timing are almost as important as truthfullness. You have got me thinking now about communicating with my husband as we have money issues.
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@senthil2k (1501)
• India
19 Aug 07
Thats one another good equation like the E=mC2 equation. Communication is always a key aspect in any field for the proper growth. In fact, Communication is a very good skill God has given to all the living beings, so that they can have a better relationship with the others in their society. Improper communications will always lead to some serious trouble and I have personally felt that in many situations of my life.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
19 Aug 07
That is true and thinking back that is one of the reasons why my relationships have failed like my ex husband and my ex boyfriend from lack of communication well that and other problems we had.
@vinzen (1022)
• India
19 Aug 07
Yes, you are right in saying that communication is a vital link in expressing your feelings and emotions and without communication you cannot move ahead nor can you know what others are thinking nor know their ideas and feelings. And the relationships will fail gradually, families break up when the spouses dont talk to each other, this is a major reason as i have seen. Your business suffers, everyone around you is effected. I feel if we arent able to communicate our feelings and emotions to people around us, we cannopt and shoud not expect things from hem, miralces to happen i mean , as our ideas and what we want isnt communicated to them, so how can they know what we want and vice versa.
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@pinnibabu (135)
19 Aug 07
Lack of communication = Lack of Respect. Very well said my dear friend. There are so many instances I remember in my life where in I have sufferred. I have learnt good lessons. You gain respect from others only when you learn to respect others.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Hi Rozie37! I do agree that an open communication which is genuine and honest is one of the main factors that could make a relationship strong and lasting. There should be trust and respect for each others' feelings and individuality. Trust, respect and an honest communication will surely wipe all fears, insecurities and doubts that could arise from any kind of relationship. Well this is just my point of view. Have a nice day and take care.
@moksalot (61)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 07
yeah i am agree communication is really important but sometimes people hardly to connect with each other especially when there are some gaps lies between them... have a nice day gbu
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• United States
22 Aug 07
Yes communication is greatly needed. You have to make sure the person understand what is being said. I have said one thing, and the reciever has taken in a different way. We have to be carefull.