Are you still in contact with your best friend?

Philippines
August 19, 2007 10:06am CST
I have had several best friends in my lifetime. But the most I cherish and truly declare my very best friend is the one I got to know from college through another good friend also. We both are loyal to each other, we may differ in a lot ways, like personality and such, but we seem to know each other's soul. We know each other well enough even if we do not say anything. As time pass, we see each other less and less but when we get together it seems we were together just yesterday. There are times, even a couple of years will pass that we do not see each other nor hear from each other. But the friendship remains. I am glad I still have her for a best buddy. We may not see each other for years but we make up whenever we're together. I hope it stays that way.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
19 Aug 07
I have had my best friend for over 30 years now. She has moved around the country over the years but we have always kept in touch. We now live a mere 4 hour drive away from each other and can see each other throughout the year. Like you we can go a long time without speaking and when we see each other it is like it was yesterday. My hubby is my other best friend, but there is a connection between me and my best friend like we were sisters separated at birth.
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Yeah, isn't it amazing to have THAT much connection with your best friend...
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@beekay (422)
• India
20 Aug 07
It's nearly 4-5 yrs we haven't meet, but still we are in contact with eachother in happy and sad moments. I am thankful to God to have such a friend.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
Wow, that is a long time! 4 to 5 years, straight. But, I guess you make it up with other means of communicating. I am glad that there are so many new technologies coming out so there's no reason to cut each other's communication.
@Ricko82 (585)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Wow! My bestfriend and I are totally the same. We seldom see each other due to distance and time conflicts but when we do, it's like we were together all the time. Nothing is change between us even if we do not see each other months at a time. I'm still her bestfriend and she's still my bestfriend. We do email and text to let each other know what's happening. We do pray for each others safety too. Love your bestfriends...
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
Yeah, same here. We also pray for each other's safety and concerns. We are of course particular with each other's problems and other things that one is undergoing. We make it a point to reach out and hear each other's anguish, delights, and so on and so forth.
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
I am the type of person who only has a few closest friends but they will always be so dear to me. I've had a best friends since I was young but the person who I can really consider my "bestest friend" is the one who i met when I was in prep/kinder 2. It was only during a declamation contest but we chatted nonstop the whole program. And then we became classmates in grade 2 and we were glued together since that first day. But along with my other best friends, we were separated in gr4 but she still was the closest friend I had. Even though I had my own new set of friends, somehow, our friendship is still alive. Even though I sometimes don't get to talk to her for days or weeks, whenever I try to talk to her, it's like we'd never been apart. I'm so glad I have this kind of best friend =)
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• Philippines
24 Aug 07
How cute! Even at the tender years you have quite made an impact on each other. Your relationship goes all the way back, and still blossoming.(: You do have a reason to be glad and I'm also glad for you. Thank you for sharing.
@claire03 (1444)
• United States
20 Aug 07
yes, we still always keep in touch thru txt,email,letters,phonecalls. Even we're not together anymore i will never forget the times we shared. it's really nice specially when you look at your photo albums, it reminds you of those happy times you spent with your friends. i can really trust them cause they are my true friends. now that i'm already far from my friends i miss them a lot, but i told them time will come that we'll still see each other again. I can't wait till that time comes. hehehe..
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
I definitely agree with you about photos. Oh, we had that little secret joke about our photo albums! We had tons of pictures all had significant memories. It's really great to see those pictures and relive those memorable years! Thank you for sharing yours. It is really a joy and comfort to have true friends.(:
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
yes, i still keep in touch with my best friend even though not very often because we live so far away and we are very busy with our own stuffs... but we still communicate and i still meet her whenever i go back to my home country...
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• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Thank you for sharing lingli_78. No matter where you are, I guess would not matter. You make it a point to communicate and keep your friendship alive regardless of your distance between each other.
• India
19 Aug 07
Yap friend, my luck is good coz i meet my friend everyday, we always freek out when ever we get some time. We watch movies very often and enjoy our times together. We're three friends having fun all the way.... We always love to spend time together, only we three. We don't wont to intrupt any other.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
That's great to hear. Reminds me of my youth, exactly that way. Enjoy and have fun.(:
@jarves (815)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Yes I am still in contact with my best friend. In fact, we always see each other once a week. We don't live close that is why we don't see each other everyday.
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• Philippines
21 Aug 07
That is great, you see each other weekly, considering that you don't live near each other. You seem to seek each others company very often.
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@no_chao (550)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
i met my lifetime bestfriend during my high school days. we believe that we are meant for each other to be the best of friends.... we shared a lot of things.... we lean to each other i know that God gave her to me to treasure. we separated our ways we we turned to 4th year. their family needs to move into their province because of some reason. she always send me letters and cards. she's the sweetest bestfriend one could ever had.... but recently i haven't recieving any of letter from her and it makes me worry.... untill just this month of august i search her in friendster (on line community) and by my surprise she was here already!! but untill now im waiting for her confirmation!!!.. ^_^
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• Philippines
21 Aug 07
Oh wow. I don't know what to say. Maybe your friend is going through a lot recently that is why you have not yet heard of her. In time I guess you will find out.
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@panicdude (457)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
my best friend and i knew each other during our gradeschool days. but it is during our 5th year in gradeschool that we became close and up til now that i'm in my third year of college, we still keep in touch. we now attend different colleges but we make it a point to communicate, whether by phone or by text messages or by e-mails. we never forget to ask one another how's it been or how's each family member is doing. i'm so glad to have her as my best friend because we have a lot in common and even if we don't like some things, we are open about our preferences and we respect each other for that. what i also like about our relationship is that we can be frank to one another and there's nobody among us who would get mad. or even if someone gets mad, the other would express how she feels about that. we are very much open to one another. and i think that that is what really matters in a friendship -- open communication.
• Philippines
21 Aug 07
Yes, I agree. Open communication is very important in special friendships to the point that you would understand even if the root cause of it you do not agree. It is good that you are still keeping in touch.
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@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
19 Aug 07
I believe that I am enough fortunate that ...my best friend is in contact with me...no matter ...how far is he...but ..a best friend is really a .. million dollar property for me..because...he is really my best friend and had been the same in bad time also...he has been with me in every sphere of my life ...be it the happiest moment or the bad patch of my life...he is always there for me...
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
You are very fortunate to have such a best friend who is with you through the happiest moment to the bad. And so do I. I feel blessed with my best friend. Great to have you share yours.
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
yes me and my bestfriend still has contact with each other. she's my bestfriend when i started to have a job. and we still have communication. she always comes to my house whenever we have an occassion and vice versa.
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• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Good for you that you both keep in touch frequently. My buddy and I do not miss an important occasion either.
@eprado (1473)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Hi sophylline. Yes I am still in contact with my best friend. Same as you I met him in college and we were best friends from then on. Up to now we still keep in touch, talk on the phone and we see each other at least once every month.
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Hi eprado. Thanks for sharing. My bestfriend and I also would like to see each other at least once every month if possible.
@raychill (6571)
• United States
19 Aug 07
I've had a few best friends but things always seemed to come to an end. My last best friend passed away and ever since then I've refused to have a best friend again. Because HE was and IS my best friend, even though he's no longer alive. I feel it's best to have good friends and friends, but no best friends.
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• Philippines
20 Aug 07
I understand. It's really painful to have given yourself totally to someone and also get to have that precious bond with them and then have to watch it come to end, for some reason. I'm sorry about your best friend...
@youless (84654)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Aug 07
Yes, I still contact with my best friends, although we don't contact with each other so often. Many things keep us busy today. So we have less time spend with each other. But it doesn't mean that they are not my best friends. Today we like to contact by email, SMS or call.
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
When you're friends for so long and time passes, we get to have our own stuff, responsibilities and it's just somehow not possible to be always with your best friend. It's a great thing we do have newer technologies such as e-mail, SMS and such(:
• India
19 Aug 07
Yes i still have contact with my close friends. We use to go outing once in a week at the time of weekends. We still enjoy our life.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 07
That's great to hear that you still have time to commit and be with your close friends on a weekly basis.
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@rinaaus (1203)
• Australia
19 Aug 07
OF COURSE, she is my best friends. In my life i have one best friend, and that's enough for me.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Oh yes, I would also rather have one true best friend than have so many "friends".
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• Canada
25 Aug 07
Yes, I have had one gal pal that has been my friend for 20 years. I am not in touch with any of my school chums...we just never held those bonds together. However this one friend and I have weathered many storms and had to confront a lot of issues at times as we grew and changed. However, our bond is strong and no matter how many times we annoy each other we always come back, talk things through and keep on keeping on. I also have a few other close girl friends that could fall under the 'best' catagory and that is why I do not really like to use that term. It sounds a little too stereotypical to me and besides that I really dislike labelling anything. So how I try to approach it is this way...my gal pals are all wonderfully unique women. The 4 woman that come to mind are so special to me and I could not pick one of them as the 'best of the best' because it would dishonor the bonds we share. So yes, I have a few long standing women friends that I treasure and uphold for who they are. I guess if I absolutely had to pick a 'best' it would be my hubby. He is my closest soul bond and knows me as well or better than I know myself. We strive to create a place to grow, change and transform the parts of ourselves that need 'work' while upholding each other while we do it. I have the same dynamic with those who are kindred spirits and walk the discovery trails of life with me. So yes, truly good friends know see us for who we are and accept us whether they agree or not...and what an amazing blessing they are! Lovely post sopylline...nice to be able to discuss the special people in our lives who make it 'special.'
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
I have had also weathered many storms with my "best"friend just like you and your gal pal. At times we had also differences, who wouldn't? It just can't be possible that you agree on every single thing and have exactly the same opinion and perspective and everything. But confronting a lot of issues, voicing out all your views and also understanding where the other one is coming from, I think just makes the two of you more bonded. I think you are lucky to have your spouse as your "best" friend. You both have the same goal in life and supportive of each other. I love the line you mentioned.."truly good friends know see us for who we are and accept us whether they agree or not.." Good friends are truly an amazing blessing to us! Thanks for appreciating my post. Have a nice day to you(:
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• Canada
13 Sep 07
Well it is not hard to appreciate your posts..I enjoy chatting with you here and during all your wonderful insightful responses on my site. Just noticed the best response vote and I wanted to thank you. Yes, it is a gift to have husbands as best friends. My girl friends like him a lot too. He is very respectful of women and holds them in high regard and absolute equals. Not a thread of male chauvinism in this guy! Of course I would never be with anyone who did see women that way...but he truly is a blessing in my life and I treasure what we have more each day. The other women friends I mentioned in the post..plus the many new female friends I have discovered on Mylot, and that certainly includes you have enriched my appreciation for the importance of 'feminine bonding' even more. So yes..our friends and the special interconnectedness that we enjoy with them make life sweet, rich and fulfilling. Great topic...take care and we'll be chatting soon!
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• Philippines
14 Sep 07
I think you deserve the best response on this post. Though there were a few I have considered. It is quite hard to choose as some do really answered quite beautifully and hit the target. But I chose your response because you have expounded on the different types of having "best" friends. And you have mentioned a lot of important things that really goes with maintaining and nurturing special friendships. Precious and enlightening perspectives.(:You are very blessed my dear friend. Just so you know, I do really choose the best response as I see fit. I did respond to one of your new topic, though I lost it. I have often have problems taking some time responding only to realize I wasn't logged in anymore. Frustrating for me. I will try again...
• Egypt
30 Aug 07
it's really sad thing to say but it's true i don't mmet my best friend that muchbecuse of life an d it's trubles i have work they have work our work time doesn't meet even day's off i meet them by accedint that really suck !!
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• Philippines
31 Aug 07
Oh, I feel for you. Yeah, it always happens when your schedule does not meet your friend's. But if you two are really bent on each other I guess you just need to hang in there and sometime, somehow you will have a time that both of you are free to get together. It just may not be all the time, I guess.
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
28 Aug 07
Genuine friendship not with the passage of time and be smeared out, even if not many years, which will involve changes, and perhaps because of distance and let them cherish each other more.v
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• Philippines
30 Aug 07
Yes, I agree with you. After all the years, time passed, events that happened, changes involved like moving to a far place, and still keep your friendship intact, no doubt is genuine friendship. You just wouldn't want to let that kind of friendship slip away whatever the circumstances may happen.